I grew up ugly...no other word to say but ugly. Very chubby, very weird looking, with no fashion sense. I didn't have many friends for that very reason...the few friends I did had were very kind hearted people who liked me for what I was on the inside.
Around junior years things started to change. I lost a good deal of weight, my face changed (sounds crazy but I swear to it), and I started taking care of myself. Got nice hair, nice clothes, nice makeup. I'm not hot stuff or anything but I'm not ugly like I used to be.
Now I'm almost 20 and I don't know how to act around certain people. Girls who made fun of me in high school and boys who wouldn't give me a second look are now trying to be my friend. They give me more attention now than all four years of high school.
But I don't know whether to be friendly back or treat them the way they treated me when they thought I was not worthy of their attention.
What do you think?
2007-12-29 16:50:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sabina, that's exactly what's happening to me. There this girl who used to laugh at me all the time, make fun of my clothes, make fun of hair. Now whenever I see her she's always asking how I'm doing, when are we gonna hang out, how much she misses having class with me. I'm like what? What did I miss? When did you stop treating me like crap?
2007-12-29 17:04:30 · update #1
Just be nice to everyone, but look for the ones who are wanting to be with you for you--including your beautiful looks.
I'm an ugly ducking and I'm 18. I'm not chubby and have fashion sense, but was cursed with the worse bone structure.
I have no suitors, but I hope one day to have your luck =)
2007-12-29 17:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! I went through kind of the same thing. After I went back to my hometown after being gone for two years, I went to the mall. There was this girl working in one of the stores that I recognized from my senior year. However, then, she wouldn't have anything to do with me. She came over to me and started talking like we were "old" buddies. I turned around and walked right out of the store without saying a word to her. If they didn't want anything to do with you then, screw them.
Yup, I have no time for people like that! They didn't have the time for me then, so I don't have the time for them now. Probably the main reason that I did not go to my class reunion. And, I am a successful, attractive woman! Think I might go to the next one, just to snub all those girls who thought they were better than me! ha ha Take care!
2007-12-30 01:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. good question. I have mixed feelings about it. We're all attracted to beauty... we can't help that.. and alot of times youth has a tendency to lead us to make poor decisions and it's not until we're older that we realize how ignorant some of the things we did when we were younger were.. but.. I also think a person's true character shines through even when we're children. I've known few kids who were bad who grew up to be good adults. Ultimately though, if you let their actions make you less of a person now.. meaning... if you "treat them as they treated you" as you suggest in your question... then you're only hurting yourself. I think the wise choice, would be for you to be the better person... and consider yourself fortunate to be both attractive on the inside... and the outside.
2007-12-30 01:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that personality is the key to everything. And friends are people who like you for who you are, and they wouldn't care what you looked like. The people now, that all of a sudden, pay attention to you, I think are not good people to be with, because all they care about is being pretty or good- looking. I think it would definetely would be okay if you were friendly with them, but I wouldn't become great or good friends with them. And don't be overly- nice, because then they will think that you're stupid enough to be friends with them. Follow your heart and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-30 00:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one everyone may have matured from high school when everyone is so immature and do things without thinking. But it depends on you how you treat people. But why not just talk to them and if a guy asks you out just tell them" well you didn't ask me out in high school so why woudl I want to go out with you now" And that will make them feel bad but I don't blame you if you do treat them bad. But remember " DO unto otheres liek you want others to unto you"
2007-12-30 01:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the mature person and treat then nicely but dont treat people who you dont think look as good as you meanly it'll come back to you karma they'll get karma from someone else
in like 1-4th grade they usd to make fun up my gap i still have a gap and im in 6th grade and boys ask do they wanna hook up and people who used to talk about are my friends i treated them nicely i try hard to treat all of my old friends the same i did b4 i got popular(niceness and mothernature made the like me more good grades to)
2007-12-30 00:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by pookiepoo321 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be cordial back, there is no reason that you have to be friends with them---you can just be mere aquaintances. It is better not to be rude to them, but you can still be nice without become friends. I would understand if you kept them at a distance..... The people who were your friends throughout school through the "ugly" phase --those are true friends.
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2007-12-30 02:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by blanquita 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was like u when i childhood... then after i changed... everyone accept me and until now i still dont belive that they treat me nicely... and i started look for a new friend... i dont treat them the way they treat me but i dont make them a part of my life coz i have new friend and new life...
2007-12-30 01:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy yourself and go for it...I was sort of the same when I was in highschool...except instead of my problems being looks it was my social skills with girls. I would avoid them at all costs.....Then one day when I was 18 that all changed....and I just started to have fun. You should to
2007-12-30 00:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bot much to say but if you treat them bad then whats the difference b/w you and them.m kinda going thru similar thing as my friends dont treat me good mostly n are kinda dumping me when they go meet girlz n stuff but i know ill have my turn soon.
2007-12-30 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Mansoor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋