I am 41 years old. Young women as young as 20 are attracted to me. What do you suggest?

Question

I attract very young women 25 and younger. I am an articulate, well educated, confident guy. I am fit, groom myself well and know how to attract women. Since my divorce 2 years ago I've been struggling with lingering emotional attachment with my ex. lately I've been going out. My issue is I am more comfortable to approach younger women. When they respond by showing me clear interest or allow themselves to be seduced I can't do it. This noise in my head shouts "WRONG"
so I back out. I am sexually stranded currently and long for a feminine soft body next to mine. I see older women as judgmental snobs, too formal and demanding. I know I am wrong here but that's how I feel for some reason. So not easy to approach them. What do you guys suggest? Is it wrong for me to date say a 22,21,20 year old ladies?

My God ppl, you don't know how much you helped. Thanx.

For those who asked, Yes I have a daughter, she is 6.

Answer 1

I suggest that you buy a cane and crazily shake it at one whenever she approaches you and yell, "Keep away from me, whippersnapper!"

Answer 2

It's not wrong if (IF) you find them social peers. If you find them easy fish to snag, then you are wading in the kiddie pool and you're doing no one any favors.

If you are still attached to your ex, then you are not ready for a serious relationship anyway.

Depending upon how long you were with your ex, is it possible that the last time you were in the dating scene, the women were about, hmmm, 20, 21 years old?

Try joining up with volunteer groups that make sense to you, find out where women of a little older group tend to be... not church, necessarily, but perhaps yard sales, farmer's markets, things like that. What are you interested in? Sailing? Fishing? Motorcycles? Do you have a hobby that can take you out into the world away from work, such as birdwatching, athletic events, anything like that?

Perhaps instead of looking for an easy "bed," deal with the fact that you are current, in fact, alone, and make an interesting life for yourself without a woman in it just now. Consider what part you played in your divorce, and look at that head on. Become interesting, become better at understanding women than attracting them, become a conversationalist, and eventually the right woman will come along and be your other half. This time you'll know just how to treat her, and you'll also know more about yourself in the process.

If you want to try the tech way of doing things, why not go with Match.com or something similar?

Best wishes!

Answer 3

Dude, as a guy who's 20 years old, I say, go for it! As lng as it's legal, then I don't see why you shouldn't go for it. As long as you are ready to deal with some immaturity. You said you are a very educated man, well you won't find any 20 year old women who are at your level of thinking. But, hey, what the hell? Give it a try! You're not getting any younger! HA! HA! Just kidding.

Think of it this way:
You are a man, a man with needs. There are women out there who are women, and who have needs as well. They want someone to 'love', you want someone to 'love' as well. Why should you interrupt the chemistry between you and someone else because of age or because of divorce?

I can understand if you still 'love' your ex, getting over someone is not the easiest of things to do. But like everyone else, you need to move on, IF you CHOOSE to move. You can't always expect to stay within your age range. At least you know now what a relationship with a person of the same age is like.

Just go for it.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Remember that, just because you feel that your ex was too judgmental, formal, snobbish, and demanding, that doesn't mean ALL the women your age are that way.

The biggest problem with dating someone much younger is, of course, emotional maturity. That can easily turn into a real relationship breaker. I know that I would have a hard time taking a woman seriously, who looked and behaved almost young enough to be my daughter....

I don't see anything morally wrong with it per se, just keep that in mind....You might not want to be constantly dealing with her thinking and behavior that you might find naive, immature, or irresponsible....

Answer 5

Since I'm around the age you speak of, I'd say stick with women closer to your age. Once you hit about 30-35, you have the chance of becoming one of those "sugar daddies'' as some would say. Most women 20-25 are starting to get to that age where we want more responsible men, or those that have grown, I guess you'd say. Also, the older the guy typically means he'll have had time to become financially stable and they may use that to their advantage. If you like younger women, I don't think that's really bad, but I'd be sure to make sure they aren't looking at you for just what you can give them materially. I don't think all older women are snobs or judgmental, so maybe you just have to try harder to find someone who fits you better closer to your age.

Answer 6

Just to relieve your guilt feeling you might try a threesome with a couple of twenty year olds. Their combined age is about right for you. Just a thought. Bells will be ringing so loud that you won`t hear that noise in your head shouting "Wrong". I have the same problem as you except I am a little older so I have to use three 18 year olds.

Answer 7

These days it takes so much longer to find ourselves than it used to. Men often don't have it all together so that they are ready for marriage until they are 30 or older. Based on how many young women are attracted to you, it sounds like you have really found your voice in life. Although you are 41, you probably are just hitting your stride in life and sound young at heart. Perhaps a younger woman would be the best fit for you. If you can find a woman in her early twenties who is mature, I don't see why it is a bad idea. Best of luck!

Answer 8

if you have no problem with your daughter (assuming you had one) dating a guy 20 some years older than her, then go for it =)

but you defintley have issues with women your age, probably due to your divorce that you dont feel confident, after all women 25 and younger are still naive and easily fooled by someone with your experience therefore you might feel confident and cocky LOL anyways if you wish to date women your age, then see a counselor about the issues, b/c it's obviously bothering you

Answer 9

Why would it be what is the difference from dating a girl who is 40 or 20 they are all women.

Answer 10

No, I do not think it is really that wrong. I think her parents may have a bit of a problem with it, but if both of you enjoy the others' company, then it is no one elses business.
I am twently and I know that my parents would freak out if I dated someone 20+ years my senior, but it is my perrogative.
Go out there and get yourself a young woman! They are more eager to please :) Good luck!

Answer 11

I think younger girls are fine as long as they aren't too young. Stick to ones 25yrs old and up. Younger than that, they really don't have the fore site to know what they are doing.