Its all I think about, I can't focus, everything seems so horrible without a girlfriend, Ive never had one before and I'm 19 ******* years old, I NEED HELP
2007-12-29 15:48:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just relax and wat does a gf mean right now...just to show people your cool...just wait for love and marriage instead of lil 2 week things where they leave you it means nothing so stay calm and wait
2007-12-29 15:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by matthew m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, dude, calm down here for a minute. Don't get all freaked. First of all, you're not the only guy who's presently "loveless". You can't sit around feeling all bummed out and hoping that love will come knocking at your door in some unknown future and everything will be rosy. You've got to circulate in places where it's easy to meet women. Look around where you live. Are there hangouts where people your age go to meet and greet? What about at school? Any clubs or groups you could join? Give it some thought, dude, and get your heinie in gear. And by the way, you're not really going nuts. It only seems that way. It will not last forever. Trust me on this one.
2007-12-29 15:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like almost everyone around you has a boyfriend or girlfriend, right?
and then there's you. single.
don't think of it as a bad thing that you are single right now. there are still a lot of immature girls out there so don't settle for the first thing that you can get.
if you've never had a gf, then everything can't seem so horrible. you just have to look on the bright side of this such as: you are free and have nothing to tie you down
enjoy your life as a young free single right now.
make friends with both guys and girls but with the girls be more friendly and gentleman-like
in time, you will find a gf who is good for you in all aspects.
there's no rush. you still have time
just enjoy life for now :)
2007-12-29 15:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get off the computer and go out. lol
I have this problem too. I find that theres something wrong with me. I think, although Im not sure, I am emotionally unavailable at the moment. Im just so busy with school and stuff.
So, think about your emotions. What are you missing in your life that is preventing you from having a girlfriend?
2007-12-29 15:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be singing a different tune once you've had a girlfriend for a few years.
Dating? Good idea.
One night stands? Get yourself to college and be smart about it. (Those girls you meet outside of college? Some of them might actually *want* children... be careful.)
"Serious" relationships? Wait until you're older - you've got plenty of time to figure things out, and you'll be a different person by the time you turn 25 (which doesn't work so well if you've already tied the knot).
2007-12-29 15:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by orisons 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop stressing yourself so much! :) You're only 19. Everyone has unique dating experience so dont feel bad.
Focus getting to know yourself better and work on your self - the more self confidence you have (not being an asshole and treating girls like crap) People will be drawn to good and genuine people for friends. Its' best to quit looking for her and let her find you.
Join where you can meet like-minded people for friends not bars and clubs - its not the place to meet people from there. Trust me, too much competition for you and a meat market arena.
Try volunteer, church, hobbies/special interests, gym/recreational centres, school!!!
2007-12-29 15:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just go to the movies and I am sure that you will find a girlfriend, because there will be a girl there looking for a guy.
2007-12-29 15:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Winnie the Pooh Bear 7 more wks! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider that you are going insane only. Your lack of a female vessel is immaterial to your sanity.
Perhaps some self examination is in order --- why can you not control your emotions? Have you ever heard of the Stoics?
2007-12-29 15:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahahaha wait long enough and you'll start saying that about the girl you got lol hang back enjoy the life one day the perfect one just for you will come along doesn't help now but it will happen and all this would have been worth while good luck
2007-12-29 15:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Grace B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact situation you're in. Can't get that thought out of my mind and my winter break is almost over. I will most likely be going back to school with that thought on my mind, damn-it!
I must try to focus on school...I must try to focus on school...(crying profusely.........)
2007-12-29 15:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Version_Best 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 types of people: those who believe they are in control of their lives, and those who believe their lives control them.
Getting a girlfriend is no great feat. It's actually pretty easy. Takes minimal effort. But it does take SOME effort. They don't come knocking on your door, typically.
2007-12-29 15:53:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋