i've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. my grandma gave me a card with money in it to give my boyfriend for christmas when i next saw him. when i gave him the card he opened it and said oh that was so nice of her to think of me, but left the card laying on the table and put the money in his wallet. it seemed rude of him to not take the card and this keeps bothering me. what do you think?
2007-12-29 15:25:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
maybe he accidently left the card...however..most men arent really to sentimental over cards...I wouldnt be too hard on him until you ask him about it...
2007-12-29 16:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Rusty929 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I do think it's rude..... but let's give him the benefit of the doubt and think that he MIGHT have forgot it. It doesn't sound like it to me, though...... Cuz he only grabbed the money and didn't even try to keep the card. However, before making a big deal out of it I think the suggestion they already gave you is OK: ask him about it. Tell him "Oh I found your card here, why did you leave it??".... he might come up with the "Oh sorry, I forgot it" thing, but if he's cynical and says he didn't care about keeping it then i would DEFINITELY be pissed!!! He could have waited to be home to throw it away, as they said!
2007-12-29 15:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honestl, I would just let it pass. I don't know many guys that keep cards and put them on display. Maybe if it was something truly special (like his wedding)- that's a bit different. But even for the holidays guys just toss cards to the side. We open them, maybe read everything, see if there is anything inside it, and are done with it. If he did comment positively about your grandma's sweet gift, be happy he was considerate enough to think that way! I would rather hear words from my loved one's mouth than having to always read it.
2007-12-29 15:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by RJ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and ask him if he even realized he left the card there? I think that if he meant to just ditch it, he would have thrown it away; by him leaving it on the table like that, I think he may have forgotten it. Either way, it's never a good idea to assume you know what a person was thinking and then get mad at them and never ask them anything about it. Would you want someone to do you like that? Things like that can kill a relationship that may have had a chance otherwise.
2007-12-29 16:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Naw, I don't think it was rude. He said that was nice. Most people toss out cards immediately after reading them, I know I do - I think cards are such a waste of paper personally. But anyway, if he had said something like 'omg that's all she could give??' THAT would have been rude!
Just forgive him, he's human. I'm sure he didn't mean badly by it.
2007-12-29 16:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well before you get to angry, perhaps he just left the card there by accident. Some people would just throw the card away. Seriously, how long can you expect someone to keep a card for. I know I dont't a box of cards lying around.
2007-12-29 15:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
The next time you see him, give him the card and say, "You forgot and left Grandma's card at our house." If he says something like "Oh, thanks," and takes it, give him the benefit of the doubt. If he doesn't, raise your eyebrows and ask yourself whether this is the kind of man you want to continue with.
2007-12-29 16:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by aida 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Eeep. That's embarassing. But sounds unintentional. He should bring it up lightly with your grandma at some point and just joke about what a goof he felt like in forgetting the card. They can both laugh over it.
2007-12-29 15:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by hmmm... 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would confront your boyfriend about it.
If he doesn't want to keep the card, he should still have taken the card with him and throw it away when he got home;
That was impolite of him to behave that way.
You can confront him by saying something like "Hey babe. You left the christmas card that my grandma gave you at my house, why didn't you take it?" (wait for his response)
You can also say "my grandma was nice enough to give you some cash, the least you could've done was to take the card with you and wait to throw it away when you got home."
2007-12-29 15:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Perhaps he forgot it?
Even if he didn't forget it, what do you expect him to do with it?
Unless he's a pack rat, cards usually go into the trash.
I wouldn't think it rude or even confront him about it.
2007-12-29 20:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I don't think it's that big of a deal. Personally I just toss the cards somewhere for a couple months and when I come across them again I toss them for good.
2007-12-29 15:32:53 · answer #11 · answered by David 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋