we have been together for over a year now. I love him and he said he loves me. we don't live together I see 3 or 4 time a week and there is no intimacy we kiss hi and bye and I think we have sex once or twice a month. It's like I have to start touching him for us to do anything he never says no but i don't want to alway be the one that start 4 play. I have talked to him I don't want to brake up with him so plz don't say that I want to know what to do
2007-12-29 14:16:48 · 22 answers · asked by no1peaches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
date a mexican he wont be able to keep his hands off of you....roflmao
2007-12-29 14:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common problem. The only thing you can do is to talk to him until he understands how much this bugs you. Your relationship can't be healthy if one party is miserable about something, so either he has to fix it or you will end up breaking up. Some people might say he's cheating (which is always possible), but that isn't necessarily the case. He might have a low sex drive, which could be caused by a hormonal imbalance, and he should be seen by a doctor. In any case you two need to have a frank discussion.
2007-12-29 22:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you want us to judge your relationship based on your sexually activity. People get turned on in many different ways, maybe he is just not used to starting it, maybe he doesn't know what to do. If this is really bothering you could try encouraging him and guiding him into what you would like to do. But I would never consider breaking up with a guy you love just because he never starts the foreplay. I hope your relationship is not based on the sex, but on how you guys feel about each other.
2007-12-29 22:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, people who are not married should not be having sex! This is a sin in God's eyes.
Second of all, communication is an important part of any relationship. You two have to talk about this and work it out together.
If you cannot do that, I would seriously consider whether or not you want to spend more time with him.
2007-12-29 22:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just not the dominant type, it has nothing to do with you to be honest, thats just who he is. Since he is the submissive type, wanting to be told what to do, I think that can be positive. However, you sound like you want him to be a bit dominant. He will learn what you want as time goes on. Don't pressure him, teach him what you like as well. It will work out in the end. Since he is submissive, tell him what you want. I know it seems like you shouldn't have to. However, if you are into him more then just the sexual part, you will help him understand your needs as well. Even if you do have to put a whip in his hand and tell him what to do. Truly its going to take him time to get the drift. HE WILL!!! Just keep communicating with him. Don't put him down. Tell him your turn ons and tell him you know if you did this with me, that would really turn me on. He may be new to the whole sex thing. Teach him what you like and stay open with communication. You can have fun with it.
2007-12-29 22:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you always compliant when he tries to start anything? Because if he feels that you aren't even one time, then he will shy away from trying a second time. It's one thing to tell him to make the first move if he is antsy about how you might react, but it needs to be followed up by not discouraging him from doing so through your actions in any way.
2007-12-29 22:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a low sex drive, or do you think it is possible that he is cheating? Has it always been this way from the beginning...or something that has only happened rather recently? It's your choice...either accept that this is just the way things are, or break up with him if you can't live with it.
2007-12-29 22:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest its you and him.. give it some time see if he makes a move.. and talk about this to him SLOWLY dont just poor and spill all this out on him cause then he will feel that u r pushing him away or bored of him etc.. thats why u got to be honest with him i dont think he is seeing other people.. maybe? u got to talk about this to him !
keys to a relationship?
Communication
Patients
Honesty
Trust
Good luck
2007-12-29 22:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest l cannot see this relationship improving the way you would like it to go.You say you have talked to him,but sounds more like a friendship on his behalf rather that an intimate relationship.
2007-12-29 22:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ruby Jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's you. You're in a relationship with a man in a coma and you don't want to hear (from total strangers) the one piece of advice that you actually need.
2007-12-29 22:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by slagathor238 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. try new things... take him to an adult store and look at massage creams... then ask him if he sees anything that he's interested in.
Hope that works... good luck.
Oh yeah... lingerie should work. Leave him little notes telling him you cant wait to see him, etc. When he gets there, do nothing. See if he'll take the initiative.
2007-12-29 22:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by reD4luv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋