is it that to know if your future wife or husband is good in bed otherwise you wont take her or him????
is it so that you can have orgasms,,so that you will satify yourself ..........but you can have them after marrige also!!!!
2007-12-29 14:10:55 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No point, its sad that people find soo little respect for themselves that they will give give their virginity to someone who has not made the decision to be with them for the rest of their lives, to love them, to care for them and to protect them.
Sex should only ever be between a husband and wife.
2007-12-29 14:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by qwertyu 4 · 1⤊ 11⤋
IamChristian, what's your alias? IaintShit?? Just joshing man?? The Roman Catholic Church use to hold the belief that a woman past menopause couldn't marry? If you can't reproduce, there's no need for marriage?? Don't know how old you are, but if your in your twenties or even thirties, you should ask for a little help? I have my problems and questions, I'll admit. Keep in mind that Jesus talked about a kingdom that was "at hand" and was "now". Bub, your a thousand miles away from anything like that? Jesus also said, "If by My finger I make thee whole, knowest thou the kingdom of God has come upon you."
Iam... you ain't whole, complete or fulfilled, and you know it? Get some help man. Why not??? If your an American you might not have the "right" to happiness, but you damn sure have the right to "pursue" it??? Good luck.
2007-12-29 14:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by JIMMY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why NOT?
Here's the thing...sex is not the end-all, be-all of marriage...but sexual incompatibility CAN be a deal-breaker. Getting married means being (one assumes) sexually faithful to one person for life. You're talking about many, many sexually active years. If you had a low sex drive, and you married someone who -- you found out after the wedding -- has a very high sex drive, you might find sex to be a tremendous source of conflict. Personally, I wanted to know BEFORE the wedding if sex was going to be a source of conflict/incompatibility/compromise, or if we were going to be compatible.
That...and I don't believe sex outside of marriage is a "sin" or anything of the sort. I think responsible sex between consenting adults can be a fabulous thing, and I have ZERO regrets about the sex I had during my single years.
2007-12-29 14:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Religious beliefs aside, any marriage counselor worth the hour that they take up will tell you that while sex is not the only aspect of marriage, it is indeed an important one. Before two people get married, they usually make sure that they are compatible on almost every level that is going to be relevant and important to their marriage. Sex should be one of them. If 2 people love each other and are committed to each other in the eyes of their God, then why should they need a piece of paper saying that they are married in the eyes of man? I don't recall Adam & Eve being handed a marriage certificate before they were told to go forth and be fruitful. It was "she is made for you". If 2 people feel that they are made for each other, then that is a good enough reason to go ahead.
People go to a church and get legally married, have sex, divorce many years later, then marry another and have sex with that person too. People get into a committed loving relationship, have sex, break up years later, fall in love with someone else and have sex with that person too. the only difference here is a piece of paper validating their union under man's law.
2007-12-29 14:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by GhostHunterB 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What is the point of getting married? Sin is a human construct. Religious dogma is a human construct. Sexual activity--whether with another person or by yourself--is healthy.
There is nothing wrong with sexual acts between consenting adults, provided you are not breaking a promise made to someone else. If you don't want to have sex until you are married, that is your decision, but many people choose not to wait and are responsible by using contraception.
2007-12-29 14:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
once the lust for each other wears off in about two years you get a divorce because you never established a relationship your relationship was only physical. Remember how he used to take you out and how much fun you had together than you started having sex now that is all you do, he would even have sex when you were on your period.
2007-12-29 14:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Pooky 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are a million reasons to wait,Diseases,whos are you really with' you compare others to you future husband or wife. The one that bothered me most when I analyzed it after living as a atheist for 30 years was that you become one with them whoever they have been with you have been with you are one with them! yuck made me think I finally gave that up to Christ but I have to battle the old man constantly by what I choose. The best thing I ever saw was at a wedding were the girl looked at the guy and said with more respect than i have ever witnessed at a wedding"thank you for keeping me pure and holy" that was 13 years ago their marriage is bonded forever!its worth waiting!
2007-12-29 14:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lust is one thing, but the bulk of people in the world today do not intent to marry. They just want to have fun.
Many men especially have really dumb ideas about marriage: I've known some who decided they will marry the first one that gets pregnant. Others chose one with money, with a job or cars, property.
People just don't have much respect or love for others it seems to me. They have a lot of dumb ways of picking spouses if they ever plan to marry. Many men also only want sex and not kids so have no interests in marriage ever.
Debbie
2007-12-29 14:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by debbiepittman 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because it feels good to have sex. Because some people do not want to get married. Because some people cannot get married. That's just the start...
Really, I fail to see the need for marriage beyond the financial benefits it brings.
2007-12-29 14:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why does there have to be a point? There is not one. Sometimes it just happens and most times when you have been with someone for a long time it just happens naturally. Yes it even happened in the middle ages and when your mom/dad were young, it was just considered taboo.
This "taboo" was created by man and not GOD btw. He said "do not covet thy wife", in other words if you choose someone then stick with that person but it was never stated that you couldnt love before marriage.
It really is not a bad thing to have sex before marriage as long as you are RESPONSIBLE when you consider sex because two things come with this resposibility; one being a potential child and the other being a potential sexually transmitted disease.
If you need to ponder this question then I will have to say you are not ready because your guilt will overwhelm you and only offer you a negative experience. Let nature take its course and stop obssessing it, you will see it was meant to be when it is meant to be and there is nothing else to it.
2007-12-29 14:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by CelticFairy 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Okay..here it is from someone who came from a strong anti-premarital sex background....compatability! I didn't have sex before I was married..to my husband...and boy it took a LOOOOONG time to get the communication down that could start the process of being sexually compatable.
Growing up I did not beleive in premarital sex, now, I highly reccommend you "interview" your potentially serious martial partner FIRST!
2007-12-29 14:18:40 · answer #11 · answered by Oyaya 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋