i'm 15 hes 18 and hes down from college. i simpley can't stand him, i hate his guts. ever since he went there hes been an asshole. before i get to it when he was 15 he used to drink sometimes and i threaten to tell my mom but i was young then, and stupid and immature. i smoke pot and he doesn't like that. don't tell me its bad or w.e. i heard it all before. it doesn't matter what were talking about, he'll make the conversation swing that way and he'll argue about it with me or tell me off about. (f*ck off you stoner). he says its bad, i know i heard it all before, and he said he'd never do it, then guess what? just a couple days ago, HE DID. he pisses me off so much. i can't trust him with anything because he'll use it against me. i thought we would be ok since i forgave his gf, she hit me a couple times and i forgave her, for him. this is how he repays me. i know this one girl amber who my mom and dad know, and her parents. shes smokes weed too. i have more in the details.
2007-12-29 14:01:56 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he told my mom and dad that she is addicted to cocaine acid and other drugs, thats a damn lie. i don't even know why he'd make up such a thing, he obviously hates me a lot. he told me my mom and dad hate me and that they don't like when i'm around. he doesn't care how low that makes me feel. he insults me about everything i do, or how i look. he'll says that i'm fat, but i'm 5. 9 and 135 pounds so i'm definilty not, he just knows it'll make me feel bad. tonight i told him off about the things he said about amber and he told me he went on my msg history and printed off a bunch of sheets where it said that i was high or baked, or anything like that. he had no right to go on there and do that. i deleted all my files, and i found the file that he put it all on. he printed it off and i found it, and burned it. theres no more evidence now .. he'll be here for another week. i just want him to leave me alone and stop with everything. what can i do? how do i get him back?please help
2007-12-29 14:05:47 · update #1
kira theres nothing wrong with what i'm doing, i'm doing a bit worse in school, but next week, i'm redoing all my notes in math and science. and also i don't do any other drugs, and never will. hes not doing this because he cares for me, hes doing it for spite, he doesn't want to see me having fun. if he thought it was wrong... would he still be so mad about me not letting him drink when he was my age?
2007-12-29 14:18:24 · update #2
All I can say is there is a lot of mental crap there, and the best way to handle it, I think is to NOT involve him in your life and the ppl. in your life for the duration that he's there visiting. In the meantime, I would play the sweet innocent little brother that you are. When he accuses you of being baked, instead of getting mad you play stupid...such as" oh.(name)...what r u talking about", are u sure your not confusing me for your roommate>? But its all in how u say it and ACT! U have to pretend that nothing bothers you (even though it will) and you have to kill him with kindness. Be as kind to him as possible. But Beware: when he see's what ur doing, he's going to try harder to hurt your feelings and that's when you gotta keep strong. and continue to kill him with kindness.
And...don't forget to do that with ur parents!! U will see the difference TRUST ME!
Just before ur brother leaves again - GIVE HIM A HUG, SHAKE HIS HAND AND LOOK INTO HIS EYES AND TELL HIM JUST HOW MUCH YOU'LL MISS HIM WHEN HES GONE and don't forget to do this INFRONT of your parents!!
One catch though... U HAVE TO LOOK LIKE U MEAN IT.
AND when he comes back again he'll try again but if u keep that stradegy you'll be fine.
My Mother always told me u can catch a bee with honey better than u can catch a bee with Sh*t!!
Hope this helps - email me and let me know...
2007-12-29 14:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop smoking weed, stop drinking underage and act maturely. That is how you get him back. Then, he will be the one who is the "Bad" guy not you.
I dont beleive in payback, it never fixed anything.
Grow up and act respectfully and responsibly and you will gain respect. Right now you are 15 and smoking pot, drinking and doing the wrong thing, your bro knows what will happen to you if you continue only you cant see it because your too young.
I used to do all that stuff and a heap more, it got me no where... I was lucky enough to see the errors I was making.
Quit drugs and grow up a bit, its the only way.
2007-12-29 22:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the use of strong boundaries, confronting the issues, taking care of one's self conflict resolve between two people talking and moving forward with amend. it is ok to agree to disagree about any issue that you have with your brother
2007-12-29 22:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by No More Abuse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have the right to judge anyone when you do those things.
2007-12-30 07:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by Lilikoi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋