But I really like this guy that is black. And my family doesnt approve of whites being with blacks. Like, once my sister liked a black guy, and now when ever i bring it up she says "dont remind me" and then my mom always tells me that I CANT date a black guy. It isnt right. But i dont believe in ANY racism. Every person is equal in my eyes, because everyone is human. So what do I do, because the boy I like has been giving me hints to liking me too and stuff like that. But my actual question is, what if i start dating him and my family finds out? They are going to basically hate me for it. Once I liked someone who was BIRACIAL and mah sister FLIPPED. So idk what to do. I cant control mah feelings like that. and I dont WANT to. =\
2007-12-29 13:39:53 · 9 answers · asked by XbeautifulXdisasterX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-29 13:51:51 · update #1
turn your back on your family and tell them that what you want is more important than any member of the family and all of them can go where ever thy want just stay away from you because you will do anything you want
2007-12-29 13:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Keith in SC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry. =[ that isn't fair. i think what you should do is have a talk with your family and tell tham what you feel. and if they still dont approve of it then you are your own person and your family should not be in contol of your love life. do what you wish and whatt makes you happy. in the end your family might not be too happy but i'm sure they will evntually just have to accept it.
2007-12-29 21:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by rainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family hates you for dating someone of a different race, they never really cared for you to begin with. You should date whoever you want to, no matter who doesn't like it. It's your life and they can get over it. And I wouldn't go behind their backs and do it, I would be upfront about it. Tell them straight out what you are going to do and if they don't like it, so be it.
2007-12-29 21:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Tom M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only fair to listen to your parents now, while you're young and living under their roof because if you go against them it'll only cause a lot of problems. It's great that you're open minded. When you no longer live with your parents, you can do whatever you want. Good Luck!
2007-12-29 21:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds exactly like my family -_-;; Back in jr high.. I was kissed by this cute black guy...kid..:P. my family poked fun at me T_T I have no idea how they even found out :k
either way.. since you really like him.. forget what your parents think.. stop trying to please them.. it's your life... your future most importantly YOUR DECISION!
this sort of decision isn't going to cause anyone any physical harm.. so just go with your heart :)
If things with this guy are serious, go to your family and tell it to them straight.. you're going to stay with him regardless of whether or not they approve...
what ever you do don't hold back just because of what your family thinks.
2007-12-29 22:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by ǝɥʇ lıʌǝ Piojito_x (NOT a dewd!) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you're talking about. i live in a small town in the south and people around here are like that. i grew up in the city so i was shocked by how bad it was. i dont think you're going to be able to hide it. you have to either love the guy enough to have your family disown you, or stay away from him. its very hard to be in a situation like that
2007-12-29 21:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by pickles11119 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mann I cant stand racist people! They need to get ahold of reality that we were all created equally and no particular race is better than another!
Well its your life not your parents so I would date him regardless of what they said.
2007-12-29 21:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Love Love♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents sound uptight. its not the seventies anymore or whatever. jesus. do they listen to sammy davis jr? by god they are missing out. i love black men. :D anyway, tell them that your not gonna NOT date him just because they dont like the color of his skin. seriously say exactly that, and walk out with him.
2007-12-29 21:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by mizz. answers. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw what your parents think.
2007-12-29 21:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋