Is it him or her?

Question

friend of mine hooked up with a guy she hasn't seen since highschool..they e-mailed and im'ed alot..but did not actually see one another in 10 years..he came to her town one week and called her up. They got together and he seemed interested at first..they hung out all night..he made advances towards her..when they finally messed around he came a little quick..then right after that he turned completely cold on her and acted like he wanted her to leave..she said he told him she was going home (after she was supposed to stay all night) and she said he almost lunged towards the door to let her out...the next day he didn't return her calls and has now gone home..they were good friends so she is confused..what advice can I give her? Is it him? Was he embarrased, or do you think he lost respect for her after sex? Do you think he will come around and e-mail her again? What should she do? She really cares about him as a friend and doesn't want to lose that...

Answer 1

What friendship? Thats whats wrong with most people, stuff like this happens and they figure there was a friendship somewhere. But by the very nature of conversation there was no friendship. Just a guy, getting his rocks off, so technically she's to blame for trusting this guy. There well plenty more of these fellas out there, but her having the ability to shield herself from them, priceless. A little rule of thumb, no matter who they are, don't sleep with them frist night you havn't seen them in awhile, thats just hoeish...... no offense, but it is.....