How can people belt their children?

Question

I'm serious, I'm not being judgemental. What goes through someone's mind while they're belting a child with a strap or something?
I'm all for strict and consistant discipline, and I've no objection whatsoever to a smack on the bottom or a tap on the hand (I've done it myself on a couple of occasions), but belting?
Your thoughts?

Answer 1

I agree with you. It is one thing to spank a child but entirely another thing to hit them with something. Where does it stop a belt, a stick, a paddle a baseball bat?

I am in my 50's now and my parents rarely spanked any of us. They threatened occasionally but with 5 children in our house I don't remember spankings more than once or twice and I was the oldest.

As a parent in the 1970's I was a "Spock" parent and never spanked my children. We talked a lot and there were some time outs. I don't think there was a name for it back them but they knew what was meant by 10 minutes in your room. I can honestly say that we raised two of the most responsible young adults you would ever want to meet.

My son has a blended family of 5 children I know they don't spank their kids and the younger ones don't even know what the word means. They are strict with their kids, but they don't resort to hitting them. They might be sent to bed early or lose video game privleges but the parents never punish them by hitting them. These are 5 very well behaved children.

Answer 2

I've been smacked on the butt a few times with a belt. It hurt at first but then you got used to it. Like all forms of physical punishment, kids will just become numb to it anyway. Instead of consistent discipline, parents should be concerned more the consistent education of their children, not just what they learn in books but how to be a good person. Then they can make responsible decisions for themselves and not need the punishment.

Answer 3

Our family doesn't SPANK with a belt. You CAN spank with a belt, as long as your not leaving permanent marks (and only spank on the bottom). I personally know 2 families which use a belt to spank with, and I see NOTHING wrong with the outcome of their children. If you leave permanent marks it's NOT A SPANKING, IT'S A BEATING!!!!

People always assume that just because someone uses a belt, paddle, or takes pants down (like we do) to spank that we use all the adult force we can muster to administer the spanking. That's hardly anywhere near the truth.

After reading a lot of the posts, I find it funny how judgmental people are on subjects they've never experienced. Everyone on this site always complains about people being overly judgmental, but now when you get to a subject like spanking it's all OK.

At least I can ADMIT I'm a judgmental person, and feel strongly about my beliefs. I will write posts which are judgmental, it's a message board, people come here for opinions, I'll give mine.




Edit: Couldn't agree more with Mrs C!!!

Answer 4

The answer depends partly on if the person is under control or not.
People who are under control typically are being led by a set of principles that they believe are "correct" and they would ask you "How could you not belt your child?" (So, if you answer this one, you will answer your own question)
People under control also may have a brain structure that genorates pleasure for them by subjection another to their control, or pain, humilliation and so on. So, even though there is no guiding principle, there is a biological reinforcement (as neurotransmitters that cause pleasure are released when the belting begins) Some people apply the label sedistic to such individuals. But it is importent to recognize the difference in their brain structure. It is not like their brain is like the average person, it is differently structured to it perceives/interacts with the world differently (it is something you would need to experience to understand fully) Finally there is the person who looses control. This person belts the child as an act of feeling in control. People do all sorts of agressive acts to regain the illusion of control. Next time you catch yourselff yelling or cursing, ask yourself why you are doing it- this will give you some insite.

There are more divisions, but this should be enough to consider.

Answer 5

I have been belted by my dad a couple of times. I don't know what went through his mind. I disagree with belting or hitting a child with anything other than a smack on the bottom with bare hand.

Answer 6

It could be a culture thing. Some cultures believe that is the proper way to raise a child.
My (immigrant) parents thought that not doing so (belting, i mean) would spoil a kid. It hurts a lot more than a smack or a tap.
Belting brings immediate results. It scares some kids into submission... only while it still hurts, though.

Answer 7

I could desire to agree heavily with Hannah. You act as though getting overwhelmed with a belt has grew to become you right into a properly-behaved, respecting person yet all your updates say the suitable opposite. to no longer point out, if the belt worked so properly then why did you get it greater advantageous than as quickly as? youngsters misbehave, that's what they do. Adults are not getting overwhelmed every time they screw up, why could desire to a baby? The purpose in punishment is to steer your baby to make beneficial alternatives in existence later. And in the adventure that your good priority is the effectiveness of it, beneficial reinforcement constantly works greater acceptable than unfavorable. i will tell how ridiculous "somewhat talk" sounds to you, yet while a baby has a deferential relationship with their dad and mom, a communique does so lots greater advantageous than a verify who inns to beating. the two certainly one of my older brothers have been overwhelmed with a wood/cord coat hanger and with a belt. i replaced into only ever spanked (which only gave a short sting). And out of the three human beings, i'm the main properly-adjusted. My oldest brother we could human beings walk throughout him. he's 31, lives on my own, and is particularly irresponsible while it is composed of money. My different brother is married, yet he has a loopy temper paired with severe selfishness. i'm no longer acceptable by utilising any potential, yet I certainly have a soft, complete-time activity, a loving husband, i've got by no potential been in difficulty with the regulation or something like that. And marvel, marvel my father (who my brother have been given his loopy temper from) replaced into additionally overwhelmed as a baby. He used to call my grandma and scream and curse at her for no longer desirous to exercising to help recover from her affliction. heavily. and additionally you won't think of that taking issues away, sending youngsters to their room, or having talks is wise, yet that's considering you weren't raised that way. once you circulate to such an severe, of course a communique is going to sound ineffective.

Answer 8

I'm totally with you on this one. I on occasion have smacked a bottom or two but would never use a belt or switch or anything like that. I can only guess that the person is so angry that they arent thinking. Of course that person should have no contact with kids anyway.

Answer 9

It depends on how it is administered.

If it is done without using force, it can be considered a punishment of last resort to use a belt for a child who will not listen to any other method of discipline. However, I don't advise it. While it will cause a child to remember what not to do in the future, it also can cause some nasty welts that could result in a call from Children's Protective Services.

Answer 10

I think it's totally over the top. I have three kids and I know how frustrating it can be. But I can't even bring myself to spank my kids let alone wallop a kid with a belt or other object. My mom always used the flat side of a huge hairbrush. It terrified me and hurt like heck. I never want to make my kids feel like that.