Another question for fellow Christians...is it wrong to be unhappy?

Question

I know we're supposed to have joy and peace and be happy, but what if you're just miserable? Is that so wrong?

I'm upset because something bad happened to make me upset.

Answer 1

One of the prophetic desriptions of Christ was that He would be a man of sorrows. Also there's the text that says in much learning there is no lack of sorrow. I have not found any reference to Christ laughing. He must have laughed at good natured folly. Don't you think?

Answer 2

It is not wrong to feel badly or be unhappy when bad things happen to you or others. What is wrong is allowing yourself to continue feeling unhappy. Being a Christian does not mean that we are immune to the trials of life that challenge us all. Those challenges sometimes include a great deal of pain. What we have to remember is God's promise to us. God will make all things work for our benefit. To get the exact quote, you can check out Romans 8:28 I believe. Some of the things we experience will help us move to a new level of faith....God Bless.

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't say it's wrong, but it may be an indication of a lack of trust in the Lord's promise of protection.

I have been there too, many times. What I have come to realize is that God is continually moving us toward maturity in our faith. He does this by allowing us to endure times of testing and trial. Speaking from my own experiences, I can tell you that EVERYTHING is a test and the sooner we come to realize that as a fact and keep it in the forefront of our minds, the sooner we can overcome the trials when they come.

Satan loves it when we get down and depressed, because we give him a foothold with which to stand against the help God sends our way. If we refuse to be miserable, but instead PRAISE God in spite of the situation, the Devil cannot get a foothold and God is able to come through for us much faster when we cry out to Him for help.

Praise God always and for all things!

Answer 4

Sorrow is part of the human experience. Remember the shortest sentence in the Bible? 'Jesus wept'
Weeping is a huge amount of crying, it is a deep despairing soul wrenching outpouring with all sorts of vocalizations and wetnesses from eyes and nose and mouth.

Just set a timer for 15 minutes and really let that be all about you feeling miserable. Don't try to get out of it. Sob, beat a pillow, sit in silent misery thinking of all the low ways life has really treated you. As soon as the timer dings, get up, wash your face or take a quick brisk shower, and begin to look over positive statements you have previously written down just for times like this. This puts you in charge of your emotions instead of them being in charge of you. It takes a bit of practice, but it is well worth the effort.

Remember: God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Repeat that over and over until the downward spiral stops. Maybe nothing gets 'fixed' but the downward thinking spirial will stop.

You can also try this one:
I made it up for me years ago and it really helps too.

Depression is anger supression
Anger is fear of losing control
Control is an illusion
God is not an illusion
repeat this over and over until the downward spiral thinking stops.

Blessings :)

Answer 5

Luke 19
41 Now as He drew near, He saw the city and wept over it, 42 saying, “If you had known, even you, especially in this your day, the things that make for your peace! But now they are hidden from your eyes. 43 For days will come upon you when your enemies will build an embankment around you, surround you and close you in on every side, 44 and level you, and your children within you, to the ground; and they will not leave in you one stone upon another, because you did not know the time of your visitation.”

John 11:35
Jesus wept.

Matthew 5
4 Blessed are those who mourn,
For they shall be comforted.

Answer 6

as an ex-christian all I have to say is that religion can sometimes hold you back from what truly makes a person happy whatever it may be many things can blind you from what will make you happy in this world more often than not it is religion but no there is nothing wrong with that I am not asking you to change your belief I am just telling you what I know and have experienced myself but one thing I must tell you I gave up on my belief yet I am still not happy.

Answer 7

your key words are "suppose to". As Christians we know OF joy, we know that the Lord brings us joy, and that it is a joyful place to have a relationship with Jesus....
But on the flipside of that is mounting sorrow and misery under the weight of a sinful world. We all experience melencholy, loss, depression and misery. Many times it is unavoidable (eg you might experience joy in knowing that your loved one - upon their death - will go to heaven to be with Jesus, however in the here and now - you experience deep sorrow and loss that your loved one is not with you).
Often times however - misery is a choice. There are many many things that we must endure while here on earth, but it's our choice to deal with them in manner that is fitting to the will of God and our faith. Nothing NOTHING is wrong with experiencing misery and sorrow.... but dwelling on it ON PURPOSE can be sinful.

blessings :)

Answer 8

It's not wrong but even though something has caused it you need to take your focus off self. The way to do that is to say out loud I can't handle this, I'm turning it over to you. He is the only One to take it from you. But you can't keep taking it back. Find someone to help. Do something different.

Lisa
Hope that helps.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with grieving over a negative situation, but the point where you have a challenge is if you stay in grief and don't shake it and move on.

Answer 10

It's not wrong, but if I were you I would try to figure out why I am so miserable.

Have you spoken with a counselor or your doctor? That's just no way to live, and you don't have to.