Me and my girlfriend have been together 8 months, and for the last month she has been living with me, because she lost her place and had no where else to go. I'm with her all week, we go out to eat and to the movies, etc. Anyway 3 weeks ago i told her a week in advance that on that saturday I was gonna go out with all my guy friends and she pitch a huge fit. Then this whole week shes been talking about how much fun she is gonna have with her friends this weekend when she goes out, but when i made plans to go out she got mad saying how could i make plans with out her. But the one thing that is really getting on my nerves is she has guy friends that she talks to on the phone but i'm not allowed to talk to girl that i've known since kindergarden, who i'm not sexually attracted to at all.
2007-12-29 11:23:59 · 17 answers · asked by Rodney, j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like shes trying to control you if u love her than stay if u think u can work it out ,. but if u don't just tell her to hit the road . its been 8months just imagine 8 yrs from now
2007-12-29 11:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by kegmaster36561 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just wants attention. Pretty immature if you ask me. As far as my boyfriend going out with his friends, I encourage it. I don't get all upset and make it all about myself, which is exactly what she's doing. Now if she is living with you, and you have been together for 8 months, I think maybe a little communication should come forward. If she can have her guy friends, you can have your girl friends. It shouldn't make her jealous or upset. She needs to have confidence in your relationship with each other and chill the hell out! Just sit her down, give her a few minutes to rant on about how she feels, then tell her how you feel, and tell her how you would like it to be. Maybe even offer a little compromise. But seriously, it shouldn't be that hard. She should not be making the little things like that so difficult.
2007-12-29 11:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been hurt before? Sounds like she has some trust issues (I've been there before, I'm not trying to judge her). You two need time to learn to trust each other now that you've taken your relationship to a new level. Some time away from each other and different interests will be good for you both. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years, and we've been together almost everyday for the past 8 years. He is pretty much the guy version of me, but at the same time, he has his own interests (poker, basketball) and I have mine (watching plays, reading). Time apart doesn't necessarily mean girls night out or boys night out at the strip club. My bf plays poker with the guys, and I go to musicals with my mom. We come home missing each other even after 8 years of the same thing.
2007-12-29 11:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sucks when the other person in the relationship is really insecure. When I was younger I was kind of like that. But I didn't want my boyfriends talking to girls of the opposite sex because I know what I was doing when I went out without them. I didn't want them to do the same things I was doing.
2007-12-29 11:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by ncyetter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is WAY too possessive!!!!! holy cow! it's called GIVE and TAKE and she is TAKING and TAKING and TAKING! I use to pitch a fit when my bf would wana go out with the guys, but then I realized that I was being ridiculous and we all need our "me" time with friends and stuff! I was a total beeotch for not just trusting him and giving him space sometimes! This girl needs to read what I'm writing cuz she is WHACKO!!!!!
2007-12-29 11:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Katia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is getting way toooo one way. I think you need to send her living someplace else. Now she lost her place, when she moved in was there any time limit or she can move in while she is looking for a place?
You dont want to put her out in the cold, but you need to start "finding" apartments for her .
In the meantime, if you want to go out with your buddies, you go,if you want to talk to your gal friend , you talk, if she wants to pitch a fit then tell her its time for her to go.
2007-12-29 11:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id talk to her about it and set some ground rules,,,,after all she moved in with you so make sure shes not completely wearing the shoes, just be like if your aloud talk to your guy friends then im going to talk to my girl friends fair is fair....or else next time she plans a girls weekend out, start whining about why she didnt include you hehe!! but i would seriously talk to her though it sounds like shes trying to have her cake and eat it too
2007-12-29 11:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by oh really? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her, a relationship is a two way street. You make her sound like a horrible person. How you wrote about her is how you feel deep down. Dump her, and find someone you are more comfortable with.
2007-12-29 11:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Fabrizzio V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in case you haven't noticed. . . she's doing whatever she wants to do with or without your consent. You say "your not allowed' to do certain things. Why aren't you allowed? She's doing what she wants to do and she living in your place. It's okay that you were trying to be sensitive of her feelings, but she's not being sensitive of yours. Stop listening to her and do your own thing.
2007-12-29 11:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems unfair. Have a talk with her and let her know how you feel. If you don't ,you're only gonna build up more resentment for her and that's not good.
2007-12-29 11:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by kharilli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋