I've been in relationship with my boss since Sep. and we spend alot of time together, we respect one another at work and after work, and we pretty much enjoy each others company. The problem is not the age difference (20 years difference), but the fact that he was previously involved with the assistant manager at the same job that we're both at and he claims that they are just friends now. They used to live together, but now she moved out. Now, he is moving to another place...get this...he's moving next door to the girl he used to be with (the assistant manager). Yet he assures me things are fine.. I just can't visit him as often.
Does this sound shady? Should I break this off with him?I seem to fall into the same pattern of falling for the cute guy that has a tendency to lie, what are the signs I should look for so that I don't do this again?
2007-12-29 11:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by taf3781 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Break up and wait for the right one. Love, is the things that no one ever know. When it come, something will show. Like, the look or the speech and reaction of the people and you. Just wait, it will come to you. Searching for it, is nothing but a pain. Same like, what you are in now. You are in a spot that some people say, "Love is nothing, but a lie." So, just wait for your love.
2007-12-29 11:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Vu H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should quit the job and stop seeing him as soon as you can.
This guy is using you - he is in a position of authority and older than you and taking advantage of the situation. Why waste your time on a guy so much older than you. What you're actually attracted to is his power.
While you and he likely think no one else knows what is going on I can tell you from long experience that almost everyone DOES know. Office romances are very easy to spot. The problem is you won't be respected because every decision that goes your way will be seen as "special treatment". If you intend this to be your "career" you will fight an uphill battle to have respect of others as they'll say "you slept your way to the top".
2007-12-29 19:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Say_What? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh wow a 20 year age difference now this is just what i think you might want to find someone else! But if you are happy with each other and everything is working out for the two of you then it should not really matter what the age difference is!
2007-12-29 19:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by c (: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should break it off. I don't think you should have a relationship with your boss because something might happen like a breakup, then he might treat you badly and you will feel uncomfortable at your job. Why can't you visit him as often? It sounds kinda of sneaky if you know what I mean. You should find someone around your age and you will be better off.
Good luck.
2007-12-29 19:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Jessica♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear this story time and time again all you women want is a cute guy for your ego's sake then you end up telling storys like this try looking inside first!! the average looking guys or girls tend to be more faithful because they know that they are not god's gift to men/womenso they tend to be more faithful to whoever it is their with just common sense is all
2007-12-29 19:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like the job is his play ground i would break it off with him and you will see that he is all about playing games with whom ever come through the doors watch when a guy tell you that you cannot visit him often don't be another one in his little black book
2007-12-29 19:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you do anything take advantage of the situation more money better position then when your farther up the ladder maybe think of starting something with your new boss
2007-12-29 19:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by imnickdell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt of done it in the first place! break it off as soon as possible. things could go wrong and you could get fired. and that age difference is jus nasty. ick!
2007-12-29 19:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you do thiss?i just hope you know this could cost you your job especially knowing he was involved with someone else from that same job but good luck to you
2007-12-29 19:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by SupeR cool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you believe that nothing is happening AND not to come over as often- you will deserve everything you have coming to you.
2007-12-29 19:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋