Me and my fiance just got engaged. Our wedding is set for 8/18/2009 (we have a while). My main problem is I do not have close friends who I would want in the wedding. My closest friend is dating my brother and I am afraid if I ask her to be my MOH and she breaks up with my brother then I am out of luck.
So my main question, are bridesmaids really necessary? We are having a small ceremony (hopefully) and do not want a big ordeal made out of it.
2007-12-29 11:01:21 · 12 answers · asked by iridescent_opal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks everyone! I may go with my friend and my brother can stuff it if they break up. Thanks for the advice!
2007-12-29 11:16:47 · update #1
No they are not necessary. They are good to have to help with some of the planning & especially on the day of the wedding to help you get ready, but certainly not required. If you don't have any close girlfriends, do you have a sister? Or any cousins that you feel close to? Some people ask their mother to serve as Matron of Honor. Or if you have a close male friend he could be your Honor Attendant. Just some ideas, but if none of these apply just forget the bridesmaid thing altogether!
Congratulations!
2007-12-29 11:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by sunflower 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope, just two witnesses. While your wedding is so far away, just wait and see. About a year from your date is soon enough to ask anyone. Asking the current date of a brother or close friends to be MOH is not a great idea, too much can happen. If you don't have a girl for MOH, what about a close male friend. Or, what about your Mom or close relative, they would be so honored.
2007-12-29 14:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by onehoneybear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can do whatever you feel is best for you.
You can have a MOH that is a MALE!
Who do you want to be standing there with you and your husband on that day? Those are the people to have in your wedding party regardless of the gender.
2007-12-30 02:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BIGGEST thing a Maid/Matron of Honor provides is: She's the one who is supposed to give you a bridal shower! In fact, however, anyone (except your parents or sisters) can give you a shower so you don't have to have one if you don't want one.
I think your idea to ask your best friend (regardless) is the best. If she and your brother break up, you should remind them that this is YOUR day, and they should suck it up and be adult about it and put differences aside for a day - same as divorcees do when there are children involved.
2007-12-29 11:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by L.G. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all. Bridesmaids are just something that some people like to have. I am likely not going to have any. Especially if the wedding is going to be simple and small. They are completely up to you. It would save some money and depending on who you picked, some hassles!
2007-12-29 11:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's fine to have BMs or MOHs. My sister got married in a church with only me, our parents and her husband's parents(the rest of our family lived out of state and couldn't make it) and the reception was fine.
Wait awhile and see how things go with your friend and brother. If they break up by next year, still have your friend be in the wedding and just sit them at different tables. If their together, have them sit together.
Good luck!
2007-12-29 12:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not having any, since only 15 people are invited to my wedding. I will have the people that would have been my bridesmaids there to help me get ready and soothe my nerves, they just don't have to buy a 300.00 dollar dress :)
2007-12-29 13:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by jessica.lanelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, nothing is necessary that you don't want to have. My best friend had a small ceremony and no bridesmaids. It was a great service! Congratulations!
2007-12-29 11:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by davetrader 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to include bridesmaids but you do have to have someone as a witness.
2007-12-29 11:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by wyomingcowgirl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, you don't have to have a bridal party. My sister was the only person standing by me.
2007-12-29 11:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by rstylist26 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋