Why is it so important for people to judge me on my beliefs? Why can't I be judged as a person? Why do people give me insulting answers if they don't know me, just on the basis of my religion? Is that tolerance? Why do some people come right out and scorn just because of my religion? Is that what I should be judged by, and not my personality? I am a Muslima. Can we be honest?
2007-12-29 10:49:55 · 27 answers · asked by im@home 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are right. People should judge you as a person, not by your religion.
2007-12-29 10:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by paula r 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be judged on your personality and not religion. However, your open ness, tolerance of others, and tendency toward conservatism or liberalism are all part of your personality and are defined at least some what by your religious views. Certain things are important to me when choosing a friend and would need to know that person would love and accept me for who I am no matter what. I am a lesbian and if you personally believe that homosexuality is an abomination to god and you genuinely believe I will pay in the afterlife for my insulence than I don't think I could bring myself to be your friend. I don't know if you are against homosexuality or not, that was just my example. But the point is, there are certain attitudes that just cannot be if I am going to form a close friendship with someone.
2007-12-29 18:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Tamsin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Certainly it is OK. Not only that it is taught in Christianity:
"judge not lest ye be judged".
Unfortunately there are extremist Christians just as there are extremist Muslims. They like to paint all Muslims as evil but they also like to think that about Catholics (if they are Protestants), Mormons (if they are not Mormons) and everyone else who isn't a "true" Christian. "true" being somethey they "judge" despite the above admonition.
Luckily not all Christians are of that ilk any more than all Muslims are in al Qaeda. You can ignore the people that act like that because they are showing their own character flaws rather than successfully pointin out any they think you have.
2007-12-29 19:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Say_What? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To many religionists, their religion is a big part of who they are.
Even if I may think your beliefs are stupid and ignorant, you are perfectly entitled to hold them as long as you don't harm others or force them on others and I would have no less respect for you for holding those beliefs. However, if your beliefs held that, for example, women or homosexuals were inferior and you treated them so, you would lose that respect because of your actions. What is important is that you are free to believe whatever you like but you are not free to do whatever you like in the name of your religion.
2007-12-29 19:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by zeno2712 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not ok. and you should be judged as a person, as should we ALL. i am an atheist and am judged harshly for it by some people (but not the ones that i would want to call friend) tru friends would never judge a person for something such as beliefs, which really do not matter in the course of a friendship.
2007-12-29 18:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by amanda c 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have friends of various religions; a nephew that I raised is as you are (Muslim). He was not raised to be Muslim, however that is the religion he has chosen for himself and his family. I still love him, we talk, we fellowship at family gatherings, we hug and tell each other we love the other. The bottom line is he respects me for my faith and I, even-though I do not agree, I must respect him for his personal beliefs. God is the final judge, not man. I do praise God for that. Take care!
2007-12-29 20:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Matured One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who insult you are misinformed either in purpose or not and if they are not then they are downright fools.
What you're asking does make sense but it's not so simple to answer. We may disagree as to some subjects and we can still be friends; however, your beliefs may come in the way of our friendship if they clash with the precepts of my culture. I don't think it's so much related to beliefs but to culture itself, in the broad sense of the word. For e.g. it may be OK to stone people for some people but not to me and there may be things that I will think to be correct that you may not consider to be so.
Be who you are and you'll find who are your true friends.
2007-12-29 19:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Der weiße Hexenmeister 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disagreements can enrich friendships. Imagine how boring it would be if you and your friends have everything in common!
My friends are a motley crew, one is a gay who struggles to live up to his family's and to his religious community's expectations, another one is a mistress of the only love of her life while struggling to come to terms with her own sexuality, one is an eternal student trying to prove herself to her family, still another one is a strong woman who had just started to fear about her vulnerabilities, there is also one who is constantly babbling about perfection, excellence and the power of the mind to change oneself, and another one who is an intelligent and bubbly woman who could not keep a boyfriend and a decent job. Our differences however, do not divide us because we have so much to share. We are enriched by each others’ joys and life struggles.
Madame, since Islam is a way of life, your own personality is shaped / guided by it and since many people believe in the stereotypes, they think you are a terrorist too. It is just like stereotyping Filipinas as either money-making whores or domestic helpers.
The painful truth is that people who could not tolerate your beliefs are not your friends so just ignore them. Do not be affected by their judgments, you deserve to be comfortable and happy with who you are and to be friends with people who are capable of seeing beyond the visible.
2007-12-29 20:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Irene d 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mashallah sis. What a nice question. Funnily enough, I was thinking the exact same thing,lol.
We're all going to be judged by ONE GOD=ALLAH on the day of judgement anyway so we should all at least try and get on right?
Take care sis.
xx
2007-12-29 19:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by ☮Luwayla☮ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is possible - and should be done.
People who would judge someone based solely on their religious beliefs probably aren't friend material in the first place.
2007-12-29 18:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sun: supporting gay rights 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋