Am I right?? Or am I in the WRONG HERE??????

Question

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A "FRIEND" needed a car for a night cuz her's broke down

So, I loaned her one of mine

I told her to pick it up the keys are in the ignition BUT

ONE RULE: YOU and ONLY you are allowed to drive my car

well this morning i go to get my car and it was not there

so she answers the door and im like uhhhhh "wheres the car"?

im slow to get angry but, SHE SAYS " OH my mom loaned it to my brother to run in town to do errands"

I BLEW UP AND YELLED WHICH NOT RIGHT... BUT COME ON....

I SAID WHY???? SHE SAYS' " Cause it was the only vehicle with gas in it"

SO A FREAKIN 17 YEAR OLD KID IS JOYRIDING IN A SPORTS CAR THAT HE IS NOT INSURED IN

IF HE WERE TO WRECK IT I WOULD BE SUED

I was told that i should not worry about this and that its no big deal.... well i disagree its morals

ONE SINGLE RULE! and u broke it

SO WAIT THATS NOT ALL

I left her my car with a full tank of gas. when the kid got back with my ride, It was on an eight of a tank LOL wowwwww

its like when u do a favor for someone that u trust and they disrespect you like that it reallly hurts inside

like gettin stabbed in the back betrrayed by someone u THOT U could trust

and they try to belittle the fact that OH ITS NO BIG DEAL BLAH BLAH... and i believe that is what made me so angry is that they did not care how i felt about it... they just are the type that "they are always right" and they will rationalize anything to make it seem ok and that I AM THE ONE THAT IS OVER REACTING grrrrrrrrrrrr. that friend is not a true friend

Answer 1

you are absolutely right to be upset. I just got screwed over by a 'friend' too... I got a new washer and dryer, and his grandmother's washer and dryer died. my old ones were fine, nothing wrong with them, so, he asked if he could buy them for me, and trade me some 'collector' cards and a bit of money since he was short on cash. I was planning on putting the set on ebay or craigslist for $200 bucks, but since he was a friend, i made him a deal, the cards, and $75 for the set. okay, he said, so, he took them, and told me he couldn't pay me for 2 weeks. fine. two weeks turned into two months and i finally asked him where my stuff was, he blew up and b***hed me out to everyone he knew, called me a b**** and a sl*t and then gave me the cash, but told me it was either the cash or the cards. he's not welcome around my home again, because this is the 3rd chance he's gotten. Now, hes acting all hurt and like it's my fault he screwed me over. What nerve of some people!!

I'd tell the chick that she needs to pay for the gas and once she does, that she's not allowed to borrow anything else from you again. Then, ditch her. If she's going to disrespect you like that, then how else is she going to disrespect you?

Answer 2

You are definitely not over reacting - they had no right letting anyone else drive the car especially after you told her no one else was to. Some people believe once they have something in their possession it is theirs to do with what they wish. Demand they fill the tank.

We have learnt the same lesson, my husband lent his mother a brand new electric tool, when he asked for it back she had lent it to someone else and they in turn lent it on. He finally got it back 2 years later, it didn't work properly. He had to buy a new one.

Same reason you never buy anything from a family member, they still think they have full rights over it. Bought a car from my sister once, as soon as I left for work she would sneak over to my mum's and take the keys - the tank would be full and I'd find it almost empty when I got home.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about this bad situation for you. Yes you are completely on your right to be very upset. You trusted a person who promised one thing and did another. Yes, you have the right to be concerned with your car/property. After all, if something had happened you would be responsible for it. So, my friend, that teaches you a lesson: do not lend your stuff to anyone. Even if it's a friend. Next time if you want to do someone a favor, you could for example offer to take them to their destination, but you would KEEP your car with you! I'm sorry, but I've been through bad experiences and I decided I am not going to lend anything to anyone, unless I am present at the moment with them. That way avoids future headaches!

Answer 4

I would be LIVID if somebody did this to me. It is a big deal. You are liable for what goes on with that car. You left the car in her care and you specifically told her that SHE was the only person who should drive the car. On top of that the fool bought it back with an eighth of tank of gas? Oh hell no. I would have did more than yell.

For future reference, do not loan your car to friends. I never loan my car to anybody. Just me and my husband drive my car. I can't afford to get in trouble behind somebody else's ****.

Answer 5

Do not loan her the car ever again no matter what. Fill up the tank and give her the receipt- tell her that this is the gas that was used and you want to be reimbursed.

Next time you loan your car to anyone - put it in writing what the conditions of the loan are so if they loan it to someone else it becomes their fault not yours.

Answer 6

That's what you get for loaning your car..... I NEVER EVER let anyone drive my car except for my mom. Not even my brother can touch it, much less a "friend" and not even my BF. Period. I can't risk getting in trouble for anyone else, sorry. Might sound selfish but at least I save myself bad moments such as the one you went through.

I agree that you should give her the gas receipt and ask her to reimburse you. It's ONLY fair, and if she has some dignity she'll never ask for this kind of loan again!

People can be sooooo abusive......

Answer 7

omg. i would have the same reaction as you and you have full rights of what you said. People have no sense of responsiblity and that gets me really mad sometimes, just like you in this case. you only ask the person one favor and they don't respect it! it gets on my nerves so bad! i would make the person pay for the gas!
She had no right to even tell you that you are overreacting or anyone else! I am so on your side for this one!
You were even nice enough to loan her the car!
Its not your fault sometimes people decieve you.

Answer 8

Well not to sound mean BUT NEVER EVER LOAN YOUR CAR TO ANYONE !!!!! excluding a trusted sibling, LIFE partner or parent. EVERYONE ELSE I OFFER TO DRIVE THEM ANYWHERE !

People just can't be trusted ...I know it's sick but that's just the way it is !

Just be happy that ALL this cost you was a tank of gas .... When I think of the things that COULD have happened I GET MAD AND IT"S NOT EVEN MY CAR !

Answer 9

I, for one, would NEVER allow anyone to borrow my car. But yeah, you're in the right to be upset about it...but yelling? That was a bit much. I would have been just as upset about it because it is so rude of someone to treat your property like crap. But still, learn your lesson: don't be so generous in the future.

Answer 10

You're absolutely right. Your friend has no respect for your property since she was so irresponsible and disrespectful in handling your car. As for the gas it just the courteous thing to do to fill it up esp. after you used all the gas up. I personally wouldnt loan her my car ever again...