I was at a dinner yesterday at this event, and there was this really cool girl I was trying to get to know. But, at my table, there was this guy who was totally a player who sat next to me. He kept on making a lot of sexual comments. It seemed like he was hogging all of the attention. I know him from work, and he already has a gf, but he was still trying to get numbers from a bunch of girls at the event.
It made me kind of sick, and I just couldn't bring myself to do anything but watch and wait for dinner to be over and hopefully get a chance to talk to the girl afterwards. Of course, this didn't really work out. And, I felt like maybe I missed my chance or so.
Did anyone ever have a similar experience? And, if so, what would you have done in this situation?
2007-12-29 10:02:16 · 26 answers · asked by Stan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's the thing: you will NEVER win playing another man's game...he's a pro at it. he knows what works and what won't, and he practices often enough that there's no real competition to it. You might as well let him have his day. BUT...master of one field doesn't mean master of every field; your game isn't inferior to his, just different. It is incumbent on you to be the master of your game (whatever that may be), so be creative and objective and figure out what that is.
The player's game is one of volume and showmanship...he needs numbers to feel successful, and he's selling the sizzle, not the steak. When stuff goes from sugar to s h i t (usually after he's already "hit it" a few times) he's ready to bounce, and he's off to the next girl. (Yeah, I think that sucks too, but he's a necessary part of the food chain...after the women have been dazzled by the pretty boy who's not talking about anything, and once they've been messed over by his game, THEN they're receptive to a real guy of substance who will really care about them and treat them with respect. That's where YOUR game comes in.) See how that works? You're not competing with him...he does what he does, you do what you do. All you have to master is whatever it is you do. IN this way, there's plenty of room for all of us. Good luck...and Happy New Year.
2007-12-29 10:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing you can do well and that is be yourself.
Sometimes girls, especially young ones, are intersted in players but eventually that changes for most girls. After they see how they get treated.
This has been going on a long time (not just your generation) and I think most people have experienced it.
If you felt comfortable you could have slipped the girl a note with your name and number on it and said call me if you would like to.
Don't ever resort to making sexual comments and pretending to be a player. There are plenty of girls out there who do not like that stuff.
Hang in there !
2007-12-29 10:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let em play, girls usually can see past this. Girls may be turned on at the moment and have fun, but really it is only a moment. They know that this is no one that can be taken seriously. At a young age is hard, but once you get older, girls tend to get turned off by this.
2007-12-29 10:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Venus has by no skill competed in a adult adult males's tennis adventure. She has performed a guy, Petr Korda to illustrate, in exhibitions. And misplaced easily. i do no longer think of that's a robust concept. the suitable female does no longer crack the suited 3 hundred in adult adult males's tennis. Even Venus might admit that.
2016-10-09 09:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by boddie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You compete with a "player" by being a GENTLEMAN.
A classy woman doesn't relish a "players" attention. There's nothing more disgusting than a man making a lot of sexual comments and trying to be a "Rico Suave". *barf*
After Mr. Suave trys his moves, hover towards to women who are repulsed by his behavior.
2007-12-29 10:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by tashaocmd2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, that really bothers me when guys are like that. I don't understand why girls actually fall for that. But you should've said something to him infront of the girls. Maybe something like "so how's your girlfriend doing these days?"
Guys like this are just allowed to be treated rudely. Don't worry about trying to be nice, it's not worth it. They need to be a little embarassed.
2007-12-29 10:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew he was a player, you should have taken your chance before he started his line.
On the other hand, if he ended up going off with the woman you wanted to talk to, what did you lose? Apparently that's the type she likes and you probably wouldn't have hit it off anyway.
2007-12-29 10:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have a friend who hogs all the guys attention by doing similar things. I told her she was doing it and she didn't even realise, if that don't work you just have to top 'em!
2007-12-29 10:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude.. u need to act.. pretend that ur very friendly... initiate a conversation, it's the guy jobs.. dont just sit back and hope the girl will do it instead.. it never will... a player is good at this, they just simply dont care about the girls' reaction, he isnt afraid of rejection, the key word is.. confidence
2007-12-29 10:12:26 · answer #9 · answered by berris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you the truth he's not a player he's just annoying if i want to get a girls attention i just go up to them and ask what there name is and how the like the event really good conversation starter if i want to annoy so girl ill start doing what this guy did believe me he's just unsecure with him self he just doesnt show it
2007-12-29 10:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by DUSTIN N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋