why is it wrong to have sex for pleasure?

Question

because god said so? there must be some other reason WHY.

you get checked for STD's and you have a faithful partner. you have a vasectomy. you already have children. and its still wrong to have sex for pleasure? people cant have a whole battalion of children, cause they cant afford all the expenses. thats why a vasectomy is a good choice after you have enough kids.

what about people that are born infertile? if god created them, didnt he prevented them from having children?

sex is healthy too!!!! it decreases the risk of having a prostate cancer, heart diseases and many other things. and you can see many studies that sexually active people live longer.

then why god created the pleasure? so we would enjoy while making kids? well people are "hungry" everyday. when you are hungry, you eat.

if you can take care for the problems that comes with sex, (check for STD, have a faithful partner, use birth control or vasectomy), then it should be fine to have sex for pleasure.

Answer 1

Sex is not wrong.

Answer 2

You are reading to much into it. Having sex for pleasure is the only reason I have it. I have no children, yet I had a vasectomy when I was 21. I don't like children.

Way back when there were no very may humans in the world the pleasure drove people to procreate. These days there is most certainly no reason to have children. Why not enjoy ones self?

Answer 3

Read the Pope's Theology of the Body... It's not just based ALL on biblical reasoning, but psychologically and physically. From a micro, relationship perspective and also from a wider, cultural perspective.
It's a very encompassing teaching, if you are willing to read it and can do so with an open mind. -- Something not many people are willing to do.

I can't touch on ALL the aspects that the Theology of the Body discusses.. I'll touch on a few I THINK are good.

A) You assume sex is just for pleasure only?
B) You assume their ISN'T a problem with Vasectomys and that infertile people aren't suppose to have sex
C) You assume STDs are the main reason to not have sex.


The problem is that sex for pleasure cheapens life and the purpose for sex.
The purpose of sex is the transmission of life. Why else do we have to Modify ourselves or add external devices to keep from creating life?
So, if you change sex so that life is not a possibility then you have CHANGED it's original purpose. -- God created sex, so you are basically disregarding God's purpose for creating sex, or saying you know BETTER then he does.

This is articulated better in Theology of the Body, but the basic concept.

Ask yourself, if you had "Protected" sex -- what just happened to ALL those potential lives? Didn't they just get aborted? Think of the son or daughter you MIGHT have held in your arms if you had not had "protected" sex.

When we try and "control" life... we make life more about "Convenience" then something that is precious.

You say, "Well I'm not ready to have a kid, so I'm being responsible by NOT having a kid" Why not be responsible and NOT have sex? Cause you lack self control or the COURAGE to take that stand and because society would label you a Weirdo..right?
So what you are really saying is that you want to do something but don't WANT the consequences. -- Isn't that hypocritical?
I'd be stupid to WANT to commit a crime but NOT want the CONSEQUENCE..right??
Life isn't convenient for you right now..right?. What happens if you accidently have a kid and weeks or months later decide you aren't READY? Why not get rid of it...isn't THAT being responsible too?
You see, making life 'convenient' has other implications. -- It cheapens the special, preciousness of life.

Separate from Godly reasons for Sex. Psychologists and Relationship counselors will back up the fact that sex causes people to feel united, close, and committed. -- Casual sex causes insecurity, rejection, and the sense of loss when it doesn't lead to a committed relationship. Counselors often time find a correlation between depression and a series of failed relationships.
It's also a fact that men can compartemntalize things easier then women.. so counselors have found that women are much more likely to feel that sex "meant something" or to equate sex with love then men are. Again, leading to feelings of "what's wrong with me that guys don't "LOVE" me?"

Casual sex, even with a "consenting adult" is a nice way of sayinng that "I want to have fun with you, AND don't care about playing with your emotions, and risking an emotional attachment to experience this fun."

Isn't that Disrespectful? More like USERY? EVEN if the OTHER person consents or feels the same way... that doesn't logically make it right, in fact it makes 2 people using each other...which is WORSE!

In women, there is a correlation between early sexual activity and higher incidences of cervical cancer.

The "Pill" was suppose to "Liberate" women from the "burden" of fertility and enable them to "enjoy" sexlike men, creating equality... BUT, the reality is different.
The "pill" puts the BURDEN on the women, not the man. Making them inequal. Secondily, it means the Man doesn't have to respect the women, or respect the women's body into consideration, now he doesn't, he can expect sex whenever he wants it. The women has not excuse after all. That doesn't seem to be fair or 'equal'
Female contraception is also NOT without side-effects. Some women become infertile because of prolonged use of contraception. Some increases in cervical cancer have been linked to contraception use. Contraception which utilizes hormones can also cause profound complications for some women like weight gain, blood clauts, heart problems, mood swings, poly cystic ovarian syndrome, etc.

I could go on and on about this topic,
but I'll rest by addressing the issue of infertile people. My wife and I are unable to have kids for medical reasons...but we still OPEN to the possiblity of life, so we aren't cheapening anything or going against God's design. Don't be soo sure to say infertility is God's fault. The reasons for infertility can be numerous, and environmental (sexual abuse, injuries, medical mistakes, and a small percentage are infertile because of abortion procedures or past use of contraception)
Lastly, maybe God has a very SPECIAL plan for those who are infertile... maybe they are destined to adopt a needy child or put their energy into assiting OTHER people in their community or family members.

Answer 4

me too i'm like that but i am virgin. I am 23 year old male as well. I used to want sex when I was a teen. I really desired it. I got obsessive about it and started to watch porn at age 19. My friend gave me a website(I didn't even ask, he told me to go to redtube with a link on msn I didn't even know what it was). I got hooked into it. I thought about it alot that now I am bit tired of it. I still watch and masturbate but I lost my desire for sex. Hey, nothin wrong with you. My friend understands me.

Answer 5

The catholic church says its bad, that sex is ONLY for making babies. The catholic church also says that condoms are bad (but who cares if you get AIDS), and that women's jobs are ONLY for making babies so the more children a woman has, the better off she will be when she dies. Never mind that she has to raise all the kids, and he doesnt help. He has done his part.

IF you have sex under that rule, then it becomes a chore, or more of a rape. The wife has no choice but to submit, whether or not she wants to have sex. If she doesnt, and he does, because he wants to make a baby, then it becomes rape.

God never said that at all.

The catholic church is wicked, truely wicked for the stupid rules it has made over the years.

Answer 6

the bible encourages a man and his wife to be sexually active. It says to be consumed with the wife of your youth. That is the pleasure God gave to married couples to keep them together through all the hard times.


Some religions discourage sex except to procreate..what a load of bunk!
Don't believe it. Read the book of Psalms....Solomon talked of the Shulamite maiden

He talked of the breasts and the hind how a man would be intensely in love with his wife.
There is nothing wrong with birth control.....it is responsible parenting.

Answer 7

Its not wrong to have sex for pleasure. God MADE sex pleasurable.


Can somebody explain why females have orgasms? Helloo???

Answer 8

It isnt - in fact the opposite - its an act that God rewards you for - as long as its with your spouse

The Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) said "in the sexual act of each of you there is a charity." They said: "O Messenger of Allah, when one of us fulfils his sexual desire will he have some reward for that?" He said: "Do you not think that were he to act upon it unlawfully he would be sinning ? Likewise, if he has acted upon it lawfully he will have a reward."

Answer 9

Sex for pleasure is not wrong.

People with sexual hangups wrote the Bible and passed them on to countless generations.

As long as the sex involves consenting adults who are taking the proper precautions, there is no harm.

Answer 10

The bible states that sex is suppossed to be for procreation and the pleasure that it brings is suppossed to be a test of faith not to indulge in it otherwise. I am not Christian but this is what some Christian friends have told me.

Answer 11

No one has said that sex purely for pleasure is wrong. The only caveat is that it be between two people who are married to one another and that they not use so-called "artificial" birth control.

And, I would like to add that this is only from a very few churches who seem to be stuck in the dark ages themselves. If you don't like it, you don't have to belong to them and there are PLENTY of religions that support sex for pleasure because it IS good for us.

Peace,
Jenn