should i be angry at my boyfriend for this?.....?

Question

for christmas he got me this gold heart pendant and said it was $150. i could tell it wasnt worth that much, it was poorly crafted and cheap looking. so then he said it was $75. still not believing it, i took it to a local jeweler and just casually asked them how much they think it was worth. they couldnt tell but instead let me know that it wasnt even gold after all. so i was a bit pissed, not sure if my bf had lied to me or had got cheated when he bought it. i told him i had got it checked out and now he is mad at me. he also said it was really only ike $35. i still dont even know if this is right.
i dont care how much he spent on me but i do care that he kept lying. because he kept telling me how expensive the gift he got me was, i bought him something twice as expensive as i originally was going to. i dont think this is right. maybe i shouldnt have taken it in to get looked at, but i just wanted to know.
so yeah who's more at fault? what should i do? opinions on it in general?

by the way, im 16
so pricing a gift is usually how it goes.
jerks

Answer 1

I wouldn;t be mad at him,
because he obviously felt embarrased, that
he maybe couldn't afford a more expensive necklace,
if i were you i would just talk to him and tell him that he can talk to you, and feel comfort and that he doesnt have to lie because hes scared of the humiliation

Answer 2

Well he should not tell you something he bought was expensive when it wasn't. I don't see anything wrong with you thinking the gift was not expensive and having someone clarify that for you. He is just mad at you because you found him out, that's all it is. You need to let him know that lying is not acceptable, even if the truth sucks. You need to also realize if you tell him this, and you want him to be perfectly honest with you, which I think is the best thing, you may not always be happy with what he tells you.

Answer 3

He shouldn't have lied to you, but maybe you made him feel he had too. Sometimes people don't mean to, but they make others feel if they don't buy them a "great expensive" gift, then nothing else is good enough. So he might have seen the necklace and thought it was really nice, but was scared to tell you it was $35 because you might not think it was as nice then.

As for you buying him a expensive gift, that was your choice. Just because you thought he spent a lot of money on you doesn't mean you had to spend a lot of money on him. So you have no one but yourself to be mad at about that one.

Just forget about the whole thing, tell him thank you for the gift, and next time not to lie to you about it. And lay this drama to rest.

Answer 4

Yea I don't like how he lied about it. He shouldn't have told you any price. If he weren't lying saying how expensive it was, when it was clearly cheap, then you would have been kinda wrong for checking the price. Atleast you can get him something cheap for his B-day or some other ocassion. Unless he is just a little low on funds and that was his reason for getting the cheap gift.

Answer 5

I think that he was just trying to impress you. Maybe he thinks that buying you something expensive is what you want, and he just couldn't afford it. I don't think you should be angry, but that is up to you. He shouldn't have lied in the first place, so you should be angry for that. You should talk to him about it, because he should have told you the truth in the first place. If he didn't have the money to get you something nice, I'm sure you would have understood and he could have gotten you something from the heart. Because that's what really counts. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'd be a little pissed off at the lying. It's understandable that he would want you to think that he spent a lot on you, but there is just no need for exarggeration to that level.

Tell him that you like him regardless of how expensive something he bought you is, and that you don't condone lying.

Answer 7

I think he was just trying 2 make u happy by telling u a high price. He probably wanted u 2 be proud of the gift he got. But it's all up 2 you. I don't think it's really anyone's fault.

Answer 8

OK, I know you are looking for someone to say, wow, you're right, you should be angry, especially after calling everyone jerks. BUT, here's the thing.

He probably cannot afford to get you a gift that you expect. To save himself the embarassment, he bought you something that he thought could pass of as valuable. By calling his bluff, you have embarrassed him. And belittled him. Why not accept that he got you a gift, thought you deserved more than what he got you, and be happy with his attempt to make you happy...

Answer 9

Talk to him maybe he just panicked because it was the holidays.
Ask him why he didn't put a "bit" more thought into what he was going to get you. And tell him you were disappointed with his lack of effort and for lying to you about the necklace worth. Reiterate to him that its not what he or you spent that mattered but that you both put in "some" effort. Your not his co-worker your his girl friend, he needs to step it up next yr!

Answer 10

You can't help your curiosity. Maybe your boyfriend is in the money hole right now. And as long as he got you something, it shows that he cares about you. And as for him being mad at you, he probably felt embarrased that he didn't get you something as good as what you got him and that he didn't spend a lot on it. And for the lying, he probably just wanted to cover up the fact that he couldn't spend a lot on you right now. Or he just cheap.

Answer 11

similar situation. my fiance bought me a ring it wasnt cheap but it was alot cheaper than he said it was. he told me that it was just that he didnt want to let me down and it was to embrassing for him to tell me the real price. he tried so hard and thats what i appreciate. the ring is perfect (even though its not what i would have picked out) but the thought was their. ya'no. dont be mad at him im sure he would of spent alot more if he could have. boys try so hard (sometimes)