my father adn I are constantly fighting. He was barely here to raise me then tries to step in and be a father whnever he wants. My parents are divorced adn have been for 6 years and he of course has moved on , exactly 3 times. He's blown me off to go with the women places and I don't want anything to do with her AT ALL. It's just too hard for me, and I don't know why!!! I know I should meet her but if I do I might kill her! I need some help!
2007-12-29 08:43:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I tell her and my counselor my feelings and both suggested that I take a break adn I do but he just tries harder to be there and won't leave me alone.
2007-12-29 09:02:12 · update #1
Well about my stepmom, she tries to get to know me when my dad is around but when hes not I am nothing to her. I guess their both not consistant!
2007-12-29 13:31:06 · update #2
I wish that it was easier done then said!!! The thing is I dont get why my step mom only tries to "like" me when my dad is around. For instance today we were all eating lunch and I reached across the table to get the ranch dressing. My dad had left to go his Bible study group and I got chewed out by mom stepmom!!! She said" Your 16 you know better than to reach across the table." I didn't even reach over anyone the stupid ranch was liek 4 inches out of my reach!!!Is she trying to take her anger out on me, or does she not like me?!
2007-12-30 11:38:20 · update #3
revsuzanne, How in the world do you know so much about this stuff?!
2007-12-30 11:42:55 · update #4
I agree with Madi. The thing is, your dad is only going to "handle" something on an occasional basis... kind of like dealing with home repairs... no maintenance, just repairs after it is broken. You know your dad will side with his wife.
Your step-mom is trying to cope just as you are... the door is open so please take advantage of her overtures. Like it or not, she is in your life, so you might as well recruit her as an ally. Try to do stuff with her. Chances are she will be only too glad to take you shopping if that will help cement a better and more peaceful relationship with you. Learn to exploit this.
You need to take a more business-like approach to the whole situation. Your step-mom and dad will be only too glad to give you money to go to the movies or whatever if it gives them time to be alone together. You can have more freedom if you just stay out of trouble and stay out of their way. That way, you can build your support network among your friends and their families.
2007-12-29 16:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fault is not with the women it is with your father.You need to talk to him about how he pops in and out of your life when he See's fit
Talk to your mom about this tell her that you really don't like being around your father and that you would like to just take a break from going there for awhile tell your mom your feelings and how you and your dad don't seem to be getting along. Talk to your dad also these are adults and should consider your feelings. he probably has visitation rights But Maybe after you speak with your mom she can arrange something else
But your fathers wife is not to blame so don't vent your anger towards her.
good luck
2007-12-29 16:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hulagirl96734 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the stepmoms fault at all. You need to tell tour dad that you need consistency and he cant just be a fly by night dad. Tell him that hes free to step up and be a father, but its not gonna be a part time job. Maybe you can have your stepmom to talk to him.
2007-12-29 19:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by madi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋