I'm not sure I believe in god, but I like the social aspect of church. What to do?

Question

For some reason I think church is a good place to meet nice people as friends and maybe date, but I'm not sure I believe in god anymore (if I ever did). So what do I do? It would be lying to keep going right? Are there moral/ethical atheists? I'm afraid if I call myself atheist or agnostic, I'll meet people who use that as an excuse to do whatever they want without being ethical or moral. Help?


Is it bad to go to church just to be social?

Answer 1

Church is a great social place, but first and foremost it is for the worship of God. How are you going to date or marry someone who meets you there and has the assumption that you are religious too? Maybe you need to study and talk to Church leaders about you Faith (or lack thereof) and the doubts you have.

Answer 2

church is not a means to increase your social life. It is a corporate gathering where like-minded followers of Christ can fellowship, learn together and worship together. These days, all these mega, seeker-sensitive churches are all about "make the people feel good" or "don't make them think about sin" while straying from the very foundations of the reason for a church.

there is also no such thing as an ethical atheist. atheists have no decent reason to be ethical. christians are "ethical" in an attempt to glorify the holy God, whereas atheists maybe would only want to look good, or make a wave in the ocean of the sinful world that will not change. (atheists, you may now proceed to throw at me your hateful and slanderous comments)

Answer 3

I won't judge you for your church-going reasons. But if you want to date a person that goes to church, the most likely thing to find is someone that has a solid faith in God. Do you really want to be in such a disagreement? You both will have a hard time if you would like each other and decide to be married and have children. You need to have deeper thought about your believing or not believing in God issue. Why not believe in God? Is it not reasonable to believe that there is a being that made all things, and is truly Almighty, and in the end will reward those who believe him?

Answer 4

Keep on going to church. Attend Bible studies at your church.

Begin to seek God ferverently through honest prayer and reading the Bible.

If you have specific questions that are causing you to lose faith talke them over with your pastor. And you can ask questions here, but take the answers with a grain of salt and prayer.

Answer 5

If you want to go to church to meet nice people go ahead. You don't have to be embarrassed either if you tell people that you don't know if you believe in God or not. The chuch is meant for everyone, no mater their belief. God accepts you with open arms, so should we.

Answer 6

There are many religions/paths or believes that you can follow or agree with.

Don't disconnect with God because of your disagreement with organized religion.

Go out and search what ever path you agree with.

And remember that in every path/religion or believes you may find people who have ethics and/or morals that you will not agree with. Choose a path/religion because it helps you to be closer to your creator and forget about others. You mind your own business and they mind theirs.

Answer 7

There are many moral social groups. Try a group outside of religion, perhaps involving yourself as a volunteer for a cause that you feel passionately about.

Answer 8

Go to a variety of churches and see how you like it. I would suggest Assembly of God, Pentecostal Holiness, Church of God-Cleveland or Non Denominational. If you are going to meet a woman, be frank with her.

Answer 9

umm... I wouldn't, sure, find a nice church and attend. Go for it. You might be surprised though. If the girl you want to date is solid in her belief... You might have a hard time going out with her.

Answer 10

Try a Unitarian/Universalist church.