okay. its christamas and my husband and his aunt get into an argument! and we are at his parents who live next door..... well his dad gets mad because he answers sarcastically to his aunt who is always making unnecessary comment, and his dad tells him to get out of his house!!!! but if it werent for my husband and i there wouldnt have been no christmas at their house! we bought the tree/ the food/ bought gifts! and my husband gets kicked out! well they argue and he comes home! well i come home too and tell him to go back over and appoligize! so he calls his mother and asks her to come over. well he begins to tell her that he is hurt that his father kicked him out...... and she wasnt there and says he did not he told u to shut up or get out. welll i just commented that he did actually tell him to get the hell out and she just goes crazy on me!!!! telling me to mind my business thats shes tired of me brain washing her son....and got in my face and slpapped my arms wanting to fight! HELP!
2007-12-29 08:30:34 · 5 answers · asked by *Mz*V@rg@s* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stay away from them and dont finance their celebrations.
2007-12-29 08:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know Sweetie, some of us have relatives that are poison to us. I have been treated so crummy that I had to drop my family because they are so dysfunctional. They see what's going on but they don't know how to deal with it so they do what is easiest for them, act as if it didn't happen. Our families thrive on drama. Have you noticed that you take everything over there and once you've given them a free Christmas, you are kicked out? Think about it. I suggest you do what I have had to do. Every holiday, cook youe own huge holiday meal and stay at home. Make your own traditions. Take over some food for your in-laws for a couple of meals and stay maybe 20 minutes to visit and that's it. Concentrate on your husband and family and support him because this is a very hard thing to do. My parents are 90 yrs. old and my sisters are making my life miserable and turning my dad against me. I have made the decision to make my own traditions and I have never been happier. My dad still starts to argue with me most of the time when I visit and when that happens I just say time to go. My mom is more mellow so once a week I spent time with her and take her out for breakfast or something. The more I stay away from my sisters the better off I am. What made me crazy is I used to try to analyze what was going on but you can't make sense out of "nonsense". I am told they are jealous of me because I am happy and they aren't. That's their problem not mine. Good luck, Sugar!
2007-12-29 16:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by curlies55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move. You and your husband need to get away from the histrionics of his family. His parents obviously have some issues and they're lashing out at your husband. Basically at this point I think you need to get some time away from his family. Just avoid them as much as possible. Ignore them until they apologize. I know it will be very hard for your husband to brush off his own parents, but if this is how they are acting, he has to do it. Hopefully the parents will realize fairly soon that they've been abusive and will try to make amends.
Good luck.
2007-12-29 16:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably go awhile without talking to them. Something small like that shouldn't have set his Mom off like that unless she already has a problem with you. They have a saying "No good deed goes unpunished" Maybe let them miss you two abit. I think they owe you both an apology although making comments to the aunt is probably just asking for trouble.
2007-12-29 16:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep my distance till things cooled down--let everybody recheck their feelings.
2007-12-29 17:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by cwcarol82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋