Why is she so annoying? Everytime I come home I find my 6 year old daughter looking through my stuff! Everytime I get mad she laughs! Whenever my boyfriend comes over (her father) she says stupid stuff like: Mom uses deo when she doesnt want to take a shower. I mean, Why would I use deo if I didnt want to take a shower???? I just neeeed to find a way to shut her up!! My bf says its just a phase and that our daughter will stop. I love her yet sometimes it feel like I hate her!
2007-12-29 08:15:59 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I dont really hate my kid, I just wanted to hear everyones reactions. I love my daughter and husband more than anything! They are the most important people in my life! Too bad for the people who said it was good that I hated my kid! All parents should love their kids.
2007-12-30 23:29:21 · update #1
BAD MOM AWARD! do not even say that you HATE your kid!
2007-12-29 08:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by MARCELA 3 · 8⤊ 3⤋
Poor child - no wonder she misbehaves! My son acts up from time to time and can get under my skin, but my love for him is unconditional. It sounds like her dad has a better head on his shoulders. Give him custody, at least until you grow up and get some parenting classes. Your daughter is acting like a typical 6 - year - old; if you had any knowledge of child development, you would know that.
If you don't want her going through your stuff, tell whoever is watching her when you're not home to keep her out of there - that is, if someone is indeed watching her, and you don't just leave her home alone.
2007-12-29 08:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by SoBox 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's hard, unpleasant work being a single parent, and it sounds like you don't get a lot of help from the dad.
First, you are not alone. I have a mouthy, nosy kid like you describe, and it's hell. Your daughter may have ADHD or ODD. They do weird things like you describe, and the lack of remorse she shows is a BIG tip off that something may be wrong. That she irritates you so is also a tip...ODD kids' inability to recognize boundaries can drive a parent to distraction.
Second, the people on here who are so quick to judge you need to shut their faces unless they've walked in your shoes. Not every child is a joy to have around.
Put a lock on your room door. You can get a little spring loaded hook-and-eye thing at a hardware store. they cost about $4, and takes about 5 minutes and no tools to install. Put it up too high for her to reach, but even if she gets a stool to reach it, she will likely not be strong enough to pull back the spring that closes the hook. Get a locking toolbox for your cosmetics and things that you need in the bathroom.
Tell BF that you want to go back to school or that you want to get a second job, and you'd like her to live with him part time. That will give you a break. The annoying stuff is easier to tolerate if you have some regular, plannable time off, and most importantly, that you don't have to go begging babysitting favors from your mother or sister or a friend. He is her father, and he OWES you as much free time as he has.
Your daughter might also be less inclined to pester if she recognizes that you are not her personal, 24-hour-available, emotional punching bag.
Let her know that she is accountable for her behavior.
My mouthy, arrogant child got too mouthy, and after several warnings, I sent her to spend an entire summer at her father's. She would call complaining "Daddy won't let me do this or that" or "there's nothing to do here" and I'd say "Well, that's up to Daddy". My daughter repeatedly demanded that I come get her but I said that I was tired of the way she treated me, and liked it better to live alone where nobody yelled at me or made messes and didn't clean them up or lied to me.
At the end of the summer, I said she could live with me again only if she obeyed my rules, or if she liked Daddy's rules better, she could remain with him permanently.
She asked to come back to my house. I allowed it, but reminded her that if she decided to disobey, she would be back at Daddy's for good.
She's back, and I have had little trouble since.
It was tough not to give in and let her come home early, but I knew it was important to stand firm, and it worked. She had to recognize that even a parent can be worn out and pushed beyond reason.
Check and see if there is a Toughlove or Parents Anonymous group in your area. Both are very good programs for parents who are not happy with their kids, and need support and strategy, rather than judgement and disapproval.
Good luck! Remember that you are not alone, and ignore The Thought Police who want to condemn you for your feelings.
2007-12-30 12:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Susan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek help NOW before you are the Mom on the Five o'clock news every one is talking about...... There are great parenting books out there, talk to a family member more responsible than yourself, help is out there and available you just have to look for it. No matter what your 6 year old is doing she does not deserve her Mother treating her like this.
By the way, you should always use deoderant, not just when you don't want to shower.
2007-12-29 08:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's get things cleared up here. It isn't your daughter that you hate, it's the things that she's doing. Now...it seems as though she is intentionally saying things that she knows bothers you (because she gets a reaction by making you "mad" as you say). You say your bf (her father) comes over, meaning you don't live together, and she is just attempting to gain his attention from you because she lacks that stability. Make sure that you both make her the center of your relationship and if she says anything about you to your bf (her father), make sure her father is ignoring the statements. If the statements have no merit with either of you, she will have no reason to make them.
2007-12-29 08:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by J H 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she was a mistake. Very unfortunate for your daughter to have a mother like you. You have no clue what normal child behaviour is. you need serious help for saying you hate your innocent daughter. If you said that to my face I would smack you so hard. Your daughter is a smart as any child and she will be able to sense your true feelings towards her. Let it be love and not hate/disappointment. She is what you make her, so kept her pure and as happy as can be. Don't forget that she is most important in your life, and she always comes first. Make sure she has the opporitunity to play with other children her age on a regular basis, so she can play her innocent childish games with them, instead of of you so much. But you are suppose to be her hero cause your her mom. She looks up to you very much and she will want you in the center of her fun/world as often as she can. So please be with her, for her and never agaisnt her.
2007-12-29 10:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Brooke 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why don't you try doing things with her like the park see a movie have fun with her!
laugh when she says those kinds of things don't let a 6 year old bother you!
Tell her you don't like that and she hurt Mommy's feelings!
ALL kids are like that they say things that are ridiculous!
but how would you feel if you mother post this up on yahoo she said she hated you and she wants to shut u up think about what you said about your daughter!
how would she feel if she heard this
2007-12-29 08:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by prettylilpunk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are quite young, and are not mature enough to handle a child. this is not a annoying little sister you have, it is a daughter. you have the responsibility to raise her to be a kind responsible well rounded person, and the best way to do this is by example. right now it doesn't sound like you are giving that example to her. good luck, don't be childish yourself and use the word hate, that is a disgusting word.
2007-12-29 08:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by jessimaka 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Boy, you really need to call someone that can't have children and see if they can take her. You don't deserve to have her. Yes everyone's children drive us crazy now and then but NEVER have I said I hate my daughter!!! She deserves to have a mommy that loves her and won't treat her like a piece of $#)+. You need to take parenting classes and get some counseling.
2007-12-29 09:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old are you??
It seems pretty bad to try to match wits with a 6 year old.
Don't try to shut her up, just think back to when you were that age, and how you would have liked to be treated.
Respect is a two way street...it is not DEMANDED, but COMMANDED. You can't expect your child to listen to you if you treat her like garbage!
2007-12-29 08:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
might want to think about the fact of why she acts the way she does...who has raised her the whole time...plus she is going through a phase and if she can't act right..it's your fault right now..because you haven't been a good enough parent to teach her better...so you really need to be saying that you HATE YOU!!!! >> and no respectable loving mother says they hate their child(ren)
2007-12-29 12:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋