My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. Normally I can take rejection fairly well. This time is different. I really thought we had something special. Our relationship was just beginning (about 2 months), and I really saw us together for a long time. She broke up with me for the dumbest reason (that we were too different because we like different music) and I KNOW it was because she was in the middle of changing medication and that is messing with her head. When I am around my friends I feel ok, I can deal with it, but when I am alone I feel physically sick. She is the first girl I felt a connection with in over a year, and I feel cheated that it ended so abruptly. I wish I could talk to someone who could give me REAL advice, because my friends arent making me feel any better. Im a college student and therefore broke, but does anyone know a way I can talk to a theropist or something for free?
2007-12-29 08:15:21 · 10 answers · asked by filmdog103 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually colleges have a counseling center that is either free for students or works on a sliding scale fee based on your income with payments as low as $10 a session.
Also, you need to understand that your perception of the relationship is not her perception. She may have used a lame excuse to end it, but that doesn't mean she didn't perceive other problems or issues that she is unable to verbalize with you. So, while you saw a future with her, she did not see a future with you and in a relationship it is not about just what you want. She obviously had some needs that she felt you could not meet for whatever reason. You just have to accept that. You can't force someone to love you no matter how you feel about them.
2007-12-29 08:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by ®PsychologyGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there may be counselors available through your university or out in town at the local Mental Health Center. You also have the option to confer with older friends that you trust that might have more practical advice.
No matter what age you reach feeling abruptly disconnected from a woman when you thought you two would go the distance is mind-numbing. I'm actually stunned that she broke up over something so trivial...are you absolutely sure there isn't another underlying reason...(something she may not have really wanted to reveal)? I ask this because, why now? I assume you've both liked different music for awhile now...why did it suddenly become an issue? (Or is it, as I suspect, a smoke-screen?)
I'm not going to keep asking you questions because that's not going to make you feel any better, but they are the types of things you should be asking yourself in the days to come so that you can get closure...closure that will be a relief once you've gotten to the true heart of the matter. Somehow, I think we're a good ways away from that right now.
I wish you the best of luck dealing with this issue. For what it's worth, Happy New Year.
2007-12-29 16:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need closure...because everyone knows the music excuse is bogus. If you guys can have a civil conversation about what happened, You need to find the true reason why she broke up with you because, It'll probably bug you for a long time. I don't know what a therapist would recommend but I think closure from her is the key. But if she's the type of girl that doesn't want anything to do with you anymore not even a look then i believe a therapist would have a better solution.
2007-12-29 16:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by tuyet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you because you both have different taste in music? I am sorry but she isn't being honest with you. I think she lied to you. I have this feeling she fell for someone else. Because that reason for a break up doesn't seen logical to me. It's flat out stupid. You need to move on. She is not worth it.
2007-12-29 16:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in college the school should have a counsler and i know that sounds cheesy and stupid but it really is worth it trust me i know i went though the same thing and i know how much it hurts i may be younger than you but i still know what your feeling it you ever need to talk you cam im or email me
2007-12-29 16:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inside yourself is the best therapy for you. Be glad she had shown you her irrational way of thinking so early on. The pain you feel could have been much greater.
2007-12-29 16:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by spawn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww thats horrible. I think you should just go out with your friends have a good time and keep your mind off of her.
2007-12-29 17:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica Ann. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly feel as if she just really didnt like you
and maybe its best if you find a way to move on
if its because of her medication maybe you should talk to her
2007-12-29 16:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Itz Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ck out this website
http://www.soyouvebeendumped.com
lots of ppl in similar situations, helping each other
2007-12-29 16:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ya
2007-12-29 16:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by JackSparrow78 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋