Is it possible to be single and have guy friends?

Question

The only time that I can have guys that are just friends is when I'm in a relationship with someone. I always find that I develop feelings for the guys if I'm not committed to someone else. Does this happen for other people? Or is it possible to be "just friends" with guys while single?

I'm not talking about every guy. But for me at least, when I have a guy as a best friend, I start to think - wouldn't that make a great relationship - and start to develop deeper feelings. Lucky, now I am in an amazing relationship, but I am talking from the past.

Answer 1

I'm singe and I have platonic guy friends, so the answer is yes. It is possible (at least for me).

What's possible for you is up to you. I don't become romantically attracted to every male I know...

Answer 2

" I always find that I develop feelings for the guys if I'm not committed to someone else. Does this happen for other people? "
Yes. They're not always strong feelings, but little ones at least. Not all the times, but occasionally.

" Or is it possible to be "just friends" with guys while single? "
Yes, that is also very possible.


Both of these have happened to me.

Answer 3

I think you are on the right path to happiness. Sex, hormones, and lust do not make for a healthy adolescence, and it usually ends up being full of shame and guilt. Why not do things with a group of friends,including girls? When I was your age, I belonged to a group of friends, guys and gals, and we had so much fun. I had the car, so we went to movies, church, etc. with no sex involved. We were into church rallies, etc and that was fun, even though a lot of kids laughed at us. But we had our gang and didn't need the other kids approval. I'm sad that you feel pathetic, but you will come out the best of the bunch, if you don't follow the gangs and the crowd. There is a saying that we all are sheep, following one sheep, even if it goes into a river and we all drown. Learn who you are, what you want out of life and focus on that. Include girls and guys in your life, but don't let anyone pressure you into being who they are. Be yourself. If a girl wants sex, that is her hormones; If a guy laughs at you, that is his hormones. Use your own best judgement and you won't have to look back on these important years with guilt and shame. By the way, friendship is the best way to be with anyone. You can always have a relationship, they are a dime a dozen. But a true friendship is hard to find and keep. I have a male friend that has been in my life for 30 years. We will not let sex be an issue, and I would die for him. He for me. And my husband has accepted him as his friend now. If I had started this friendship with sex, it would have lasted 30 days, not 30 years. Good luck and have fun in the right way. You are a winner.

Answer 4

I get your point. It is possible to be single and have a guy friend because you may like that guy and have respect towards him and not love him. You may also start asking yourself, Do I like him? Just because you are single and you may want to be in a relationship. When you are not single and have guy friends, you don't pay that much attention to other guys because you are taken and you are with someone else but just don't think of relationships and you will be able to do it. If it happens than it was ment to be. You can't just form a romantic relationship with every guy you talk to.

Answer 5

I had an ex once say that guys and girls can't be just friends because one bound to want more then I asked what about gay guys? he said they don't count they are women anyway. I wanted to add though he was the type that had issues if I had guy friends but I was supposed to be understanding of him keep girl friends.

I also had more guy friends then girl friends and my husband has the reverse more girl friends then guys and he was able to do so
I'm pretty sure it's possible.

Answer 6

This is common to life, but basically, "no" it generally is NOT possible to be "just friends" while being single single (not married, not going steady, whatever).
There are those few rare exceptions (such as in the book, "The Man Who Loved Women" --- a foreign book. The story is about a man who prefered the company of women to men and got along famously with the women, keeping it at the "just friends" level).

Answer 7

It is possible from both genders.95% of my firends are girls and even before i was married they were.I know how to seperate myself from emotion of a sexual interst thats all it takes really is just knowing friends are friends and potential bf/gf are seen in a more romantic light.Just learn to turn your light off and be picky about who u would date and u will find that some of the best buds on earth are the oppasite sex

Answer 8

I had all kinds of friends when I was single. In fact I wouldn't date anyone in my teens.

I loved in because in many ways I was one of the guys so I got to be with whomever I wanted and enjoy their company and there were a lot of great guys around. I think it's a waste when girls zero in on one guy and miss getting to know all the great people they are surrounded by. Those are four short years in your highschool life which once gone are gone forever! You have all your life to screw up so enjoy what you can while you are young!!!!! ;~)

Most guys at that age just look for girls who put out, so if you hop from guy to guy that is really all they are interested in you for. And if you are from a small town that reputation sticks with you. Even decades later I know girls whose reputations still linger with them in the gossip chain of local housewives so just a warning to you!

So to answer your question you can be friends. If a guy dumps you for not putting out, he's just a big time loser and so not worth it.

Answer 9

there IS such a thing as "platonic friendship".

and as the matter of you having feelings for someone else while you're with a guy already-thats normal. having someone in your life boosts your confidence; it helps you unlock your inhibitions and gives you an optimistic glow--this catches other guys attention. trust me, i've been through enough of these stupid situations to understand it now.

be careful though; wanting others' attention might end up you losing the one that really matters.

Answer 10

Of course it is! If you only like to hang out and relax with your friend, nothing else, that is totally fine. Friends with benefits, isn't wrong, either.

I think that you may be developing these feelings because you're probably confused of who to be with, and you think that you like this person when you probably don't. It's all mentally, really.