For the past couple of years, I considered one girl my closest friend - a sister in a lot of ways. She felt the same way. We shared all the time, talked all the time, and I felt like I had a real confidante that I could trust for the first time in years.
Over time, I noticed that all we talked about was her, and our friendship seemed to be based on me helping her through emotional issues only to be left in the cold when I needed someone. I decided to stop feeding into her demands for attention, and suddenly she had nothing to do with me. She still pretends that she cares via little fake emails or text messages, but she doesn't call me, and we haven't seen each other in months. It was all about her;there was no real reciprocity.This is hard to come to terms with. Now I find myself so hurt that I think about it daily,I feel very hurt.She is still on my facebook, but it bothers me to see her face. I don't know if I should delete her or not.How can I get over this and forget about her?
2007-12-29 06:58:33 · 10 answers · asked by karuna 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You are walking the same path as Jesus did. Do you know how Jesus felt when people only want to get what he offers and not give anything back in return?, we could only imagine how Jesus felt so many times when we get ourselves in trouble to call out his name, thats the only time we cry wolf, when we are in need and forgeting who helped us through it. In your situation, this is just some of the trials, tribulations and persecutions that those that follow Christ will go through. Just do like what Jesus did, LOVE them in spite of, but change your focus. God has shown his children the motives and character of those that are around us, for he so cares for you, he let you know who is for you and who is against you. Don't blame yourself or anybody, THANK GOD for showing you this thing, before it gets worse. God is telling you to draw back and look towards New Beginnings for the New Year, Paul says in Philippians 3:13-14(KJV) to forget those things that are behind and press forward to what is before you. It may be difficult at the beginning but gradually you will get over it as you dwell in the strength of the Lord. There are people that feeds on others, for they knew that what you holds inside of you is precious and great, so therefore they want what you have. The best thing for you to do is to confront her and tell her the truth, be wise and draw a line between you and her, you will be a friend, advisor, someone to talk to, but there will be a distance between how we handle our closeness, how ever you want to do it, before this destroys you, take a stand and show that you have enough sense to do what is right.
2007-12-29 07:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, delete her from your Facebook! Let her go, although you don't have to write her off completely. Send her the kind of emails she send you--the things everyone sends to her girl friends. And stop if she stops. If you hear that she's going through difficulties, you could even let her know that you're still there--but do it via email or snail mail, not telephone. She may eventually come to appreciate what a good friend she had in you, but in the meantime, cultivate other friendships.
2007-12-29 07:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by aida 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably feeling the same way that you are. She probably used you as a support system because you were the only one she could trust. But, if it bothers you that bad and want to forget about her, I would suggest deleting her off your facebook/myspace, deleting her number out of your phone. Get rid of anything that has anything to do with her. This may help you deal with this.
2007-12-29 07:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness chooses to set the person free and you no longer harbor bitterness. If you choose to harbor bitterness and resentment you will simply become a bitter person over time. Your body will age quicker and you will have more health problems. If you continue to be bitter people will not want to associate with you.
Your story remind me of one I read about a man. A man went to church looking for friends and found none. He declared the people to be unfriendly. The next time he decided to go with a different attitude. He went with an attitude of being a friend and found them all over the place. He left the church thinking that the people were very friendly.
2007-12-29 07:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to be able to desire to communicate your peace to her as eloquently as you have right here. She needs to comprehend that it is the way you experience. Write it, tell it... despite the fact which you do it, she needs to comprehend. Sharing your actual thoughts with the source (her) will help you ten-fold. she would be in a position to the two walk away or comprehend her habit. that's of no result. the element is which you're speaking, relieving your self of a few soreness and gaining closure to the undertaking. once you enable her comprehend your thoughts, it will be lots greater obvious what you may desire to do next. suitable now you haven't any longer something to pass on... it extremely is all purely putting there in midair. it extremely is no longer actual yet, on the grounds which you haven't any longer placed it obtainable for attention. communicate your thoughts.
2016-10-09 09:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has this got to do with 'religion & spirituality' ?
Are you a Christian? If you are then you must pray for guidance from God.
Otherwise I feel you need to delete the 'face' and get on with your own life.
Hopefully you will meet a nice young man that you can confide in!
Good luck anyway!
2007-12-29 07:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this will be hard to get over. yor friend seems to be very self absorbed and controlling, still you let her walk over you, that's a bad thing.
to get over this, just commit yoursef to something you love to do and find people who have the same joys. start taling to them and hagning out, but never forget your friend
2007-12-29 07:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about just some open honest communication? Clear it up, tell her about how you feel, then go from there. No reationship can be good or last without good communication. :)
2007-12-29 07:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by †ℱαìtℎ7♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing you wised up and didn't let yourself be abused. Delete her from Facebook and move on...
2007-12-29 07:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try responding to one of her fake emails and tell how you fell, if she still doesnt call tell her you think you should end the friendship
2007-12-29 07:05:39 · answer #10 · answered by bloomluver93 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋