2007-12-29 06:22:14 · 9 answers · asked by Adviser 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I live with her and have been paying the bills, and have been going to college. Do anyone think that it is fair she using my money when I
'm just 20.
2007-12-29 06:44:38 · update #1
She does not have a college Degree I need some suggestions.
2007-12-29 06:55:44 · update #2
Finding a job is the easiest thing EVER. Tell her to go look into an afterschool program or be a cashier at some food store. jeez.
2007-12-29 06:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your sister is afraid to enter the adult world and take over the full management of her own life. Ask your sister if she is nervous and why. Ask her what her interests are. Help her to look in the newspaper and internet for jobs in that area of interest. EVERY workplace needs help, not just fast food places. Since she is already NOT being paid, maybe being an intern at a radio or TV station will interest her and put some fire in her. We modern parents have dropped the ball regarding the "gritty" training of our children (I'm guilty in some areas, too)! Did you have daily and weekly chores growing up, or did Mom do everything tedious and you guys just did school and fun? Were you encouraged (see forced) to have summer jobs? Volunteer? Attend church? I ask because these activities teach a child that they are expected to become self sufficient as well as productive, giving members of society. Also, a child learns that there is no such thing as a job too small or cheap in pay because the satisfaction comes from being able to do for yourself while you help make the whole better for others. Give your sister a shoulder to cry and lean on and a helping hand in growing up.
2007-12-29 06:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by clearentertainermanagement 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should she, when you are paying the bills? Stop playing enabler and let her suffer the consequences. Give her a deadline to have a job, pay rent, and then get her own place. She may not like that, but none of us do. I'd love to be young again, and no responsibilities, but I can't find anyone to pay my bills. So, with maturity comes responsibility. Your sis isn't mature, so you are raising a child. Your choice, so please don't blame her. Anyone would like her set up, but not a lot of us would take her on.
My daughter and son-in-law had a similar situation and finally gave the son until Jan 1 to move out. It is fun hearing him whine about the price of apartments, food, etc. not realizing his dad has been footing the bills all of these years. He has a job, but doesn't want to spend HIS money on his life; he wants to be a man/child forever. He will survive, just as we all have, and peace will be in their home again, rather than resentment.
Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes.
2007-12-29 06:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is not disabled, she needs to pay an equal share of all the bills. "won't" get a job doesn't cut it! She needs to be given a deadline to get work and a deadline to be responsible for her expenses OR set a deadline for you to find other living quarters! She doesn't need a college degree to work at Wendy's, McDonald's, Arby's, WalMart, Target, taking care of the sick/elderly, housecleaning, washing dishes in a restaurant, housekeeping in a hospital, nursing home, school, or hotel. She can work at a gas station, convenience market, laundromat, or carwash. She can babysit, walk dogs for people, or direct traffic at a school crossing. There is work for her to do. Insist that she find it or find someone else to pay her bills. Then move!!! She's using you!!
2007-12-29 07:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she has to pay her way like we all have to. Don't do any housework or cooking for her or buy food for her and most of all tell her to get the fooock out of your house unless she makes positive efforts to get job. She is using you and not a bit grateful. Give her a leaving date, or tell her to hand over whatever benefits we are paying her to do efff off. Oh, if life was so easy, I am always skint, hate housework, go out to work, pay the bills = but by God it makes you feel proud and independent. Don't take sob stories = she will start with that. And you are such a nice person and deserve a better life so get on with it, I am serious. xx
2007-12-29 06:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she has to pay room and board if she lives with you and your family. It's easy to be lazy, but she'll never make anything of herself unless she gets off her rear end and gets a job.
2007-12-29 06:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Scott S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her 2 find a job or kick her out.
2007-12-29 06:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-17 08:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by richard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to break it to her easily.Tell her this
"Get a job or get out"
2007-12-29 06:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋