my boyfriend goes to work around 3pm, he called me at 12pm (in the afternoon) and told me he would call me before going to work.. only he never did. i called he's house and they told me that he already had left to work.. he usually gets out around 12am or 1am (night time) he works for so he makes about an hour to get home. only last night he didnt call me at all, i noticed that around 5am..and now its 11:00am and i havent heard from him since.. this is the second time he does this. and i told him to call no matter what time he got home. so i'm guessing he got home really late and didnt wanna call me knowing i would get...
strange too that last time it was on a Friday and so was yesturday..do you think he is messing around??
2007-12-29 06:21:49 · 49 answers · asked by glitzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw: he gets out late because he works in a restaurant..
2007-12-29 06:22:41 · update #1
i'm not like this he's the one that makes me report to him every hour...i'm serious i have to call him every hour to let him know i'm home doing nothing
2007-12-29 06:34:27 · update #2
or maybe it could mean that your reading a little too much into things....he's probably buzy...if you stop to think saturday and sunday are off days....so maybe he need to do some extra catching up on friday.....and maybe he was just to busy to contact you.....trust him....and if you cant then leave him...
2007-12-29 06:27:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sahithya 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Friday night in a restaurant can be quite hectic, and cause your b/f to come home late. Plus, sometimes all the wait staff will go out for a beer or something after getting off work. That's just normal, co worker team building stuff.
If there is no other reason you suspect him, in other words he is treating you the same, not distancing himself, everything else is cool; then don't worry about it.
2007-12-29 06:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just tired of being kept on a tight leash. Seems like you're the type of woman who has all kinds of checking in rules, like the "calling no matter what time you get in" one. Let me tell you something, no matter how tight you keep that leash, he will find a way to cheat if he wants to, and being possesive and jealous and suspecting all the time will most definitely drive him away from you. Perhaps you should just chill and not dwell on all the "what ifs".
edit: Sounds like a dysfunctional controlling relationship all the way around. Niether one of you trust the other.
2007-12-29 06:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't necessarily mean that he is messing around or cheating on you. He may be just going out after work with his buddies. Hypothetically, if you would get mad at him for going out and staying out until morning then he would lie to you about his whereabouts. But if you are a totally cool person there is no reason for him to lie to you.
First, you need to ask him where he was and what time he got home. Don't get mad at him, the next step is checking out his credibility. I would probably do some investigation and ask one of your friends to go with you just so you are not driving your car- given you have one. Next Friday get in the car with your girl go by his work and wait and see where he goes and whom he goes with.
How long have you been with him? And can you tell me if you guys had infidelity problems in the past?
2007-12-29 06:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, regardless of what these other chicks are tellin ya, if you tell your gf you stepped out on her your done! If you can live with your conscience, DO NOT tell and go on as normal as possible. Provided that is that this other chicky doesnt live nearby or knows your gf. And evidently if you thought you needed some other ***, you should let your gf go anyway. Many variable here!!! needless to say do not even tell your buddies about this, they are probably lookin for an excuse to get with your gf and this would be an in, loose lips sink ships!!
2016-05-27 18:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, there are a number of possibilities that could be the case with this one... If he works at a bar, it's could be the case that he is just working later than normal due to the bar crowd, or that on Friday nights he happens to hang out with either the bar personal or some of the other regulars to just be guys or whatever... Missing out on one Friday night call is not something that should say that he is cheating... or two for that matter...
If you really think that he is cheating... My only suggestion for you is to have some friend of yours (probably a girl) that he doesn't know and have her and a couple of their friends observe his behavior at the bar... and see if he's taking any of the friday night peoples home or whatever... I do not suggest that you have one of them flirt... just observe... having one of them flirt is not cool...
2007-12-29 06:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think you may have something to be suspicious about. I used to work in a restaurant (busboy) when I was a teenager, and we only had one waiter; everyone else were waitresses. In spite of the fact that he was openly gay, women would still flirt with him. But you're correct, women will have their girls' night out and someone may had flirted with your BF, and he decided to follow up on it. Next time you meet him in person, first talk about anything (weather, politics, your hair, etc...) just to get him to drop his guard, then without any warning, look him in the eyes and say "are you seeing another woman?" and watch how he reacts. I think you can sense when a guy is lying about such things. Trust your intuition.
2007-12-29 06:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to gain some trust for crying out loud! stop making him report to you every hour like his mother! Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Chances are he wasn't messing around. GIve him some space for the love of god!
2007-12-29 06:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by wiltherealslimshadypleeseshutup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use the element of suprise. Don't mention it at all to him yet. Sit and watch a movie with him, have a nice afternoon, then when he least expects it, casually turn to him , smile, and say calmly "So where were you last night?". The key is to catch him off guard and watch his reaction, and see if he stumbles on his words or not.
2007-12-29 06:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by boots6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just tired, You try working those hours and see if you want to talk on the phone. I dont care how much you love someone. I dont see this as cheating. Just ask him about it and leave it at that. If you reall y think he is cheating just make a surprise vist to his job.
2007-12-29 06:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a past full of cheating on other Girlfriends? If he does than Once a Cheater Always a cheater!! But also..... If you cant fully trust him and you are having your doubts about him being faithful then the relationship probably isn't going to last much longer! My Fiance goes out all the time. we don't have cell phones he doesn't "Check in" with me. I TRUST HIM!!! If you cant trust him than boot him!! there are plenty of other fish in the sea!
2007-12-29 06:28:31 · answer #11 · answered by just me! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋