I went to dinner with a close friend and an acquaintance of hers. Normally this girl is not someone I see or particularly care for but I always go out of my way to be polite when I see her. We ordered dinner and drinks and we each had a beer. After a few minutes this girl's beer slips from her hand and spills all over my lap, my seat, and my new leather handbag. I didn't act annoyed; it was an accident, but understandly I was fuming inside that my brand new bag was ruined. All she said was a careless "sorry"; she didn't even offer to help me clean up let alone replace my bag. My friend didn't even say anything and rolled her eyes like a was making a huge deal when I went to clean myself and my seat up... everything was sopping wet. Again it was an accident but I'm annoyed with both of them for their rude behavior. If I had spilt something I would have offered to clean for whoever I spilled my drink on. Do I have the right to be somewhat angry?
2007-12-29 05:32:36 · 19 answers · asked by dolce 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Obviously I was really ticked about being wet and sticky from the drink, but the bag was expensive.
2007-12-29 05:45:56 · update #1
Not only do you have a right to be angry, I'd suggest you question the value of your friendship. Any polite person would have jumped to help clean up the spill, and would have tried to right the situation by offering to pay for any damage. That your friend rolled her eyes just floors me.
2007-12-29 05:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by LoFlo 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I would have been really annoyed. It was really rude of both of them to act like you were the one bothering them! If I had spilled a drink all over someone and ruined their bag, I would have at LEAST offered to pay for their dinner, and probably offered to pay for the bag. Even though it was an accident, she didn't act sorry enough. She should have been the one embarrassed, helping clean it up.
2007-12-29 13:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do!! She should have been VERY apologetic, and asked if you were ok. Did you state that the bag was ruined though? I'm not sure I would have thought to ask about replacing the handbag... Not out of not caring, I just may not have thought of it, or I may have thought it could be cleaned and would be fine. If I spilled something like that on someone I would be mortified. If someone did that to me I would be furious.
2007-12-29 13:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be angry! That was horribly rude. Personally I think you should go to that person's house(the one who spilled) and show them the ruined bag. Tell them that it happened when they spilled their beer on you, and that the bag was brand new. Then politely ask her to replace it. And if she doesn't next gift giving holiday/birthday you could give her a book of manners....
2007-12-29 14:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Akuma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% right! She should have offered to pay for the purse or at the very least been polite enough to offer an heartfelt apology and help clean up the mess she caused. As for your friend and her acquaintance ...time to find friends who care about you if she didn't understand why you were upset she has different values than tou do.
2007-12-29 14:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by msdeanie57 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So you're soaking wet and more annoyed about the handbag.......
I kind of doubt it was an accident, especially if you have a history of not enjoying each others company.
And then by the "apology" she gave you.
But if anything, the girl should have tried to help you clean up, or offered to do so while you went to the bathroom.
2007-12-29 13:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry. She should have been apologizing profusely for ruining your bag and offering to replace it. And what a jackass your friend was for acting like YOU did something wrong. I wonder if she wants to sit in a puddle of beer all night?
New Year's Resolution for you: Hang out with better friends. These two suck.
2007-12-29 18:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by julz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure do......its just common courtesy to offer to help. Perhaps she could not afford to help with the costs of the replacement bag, but a more heartfelt apology was needed in the least. Sounds like the other girl might not be a very good friend either........
2007-12-29 13:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have the right to be angry, and she should replace the bag. It's like a car accident: sure, it's an accident, but that doesn't mean you're not liable. Imagine if somebody hit your car and was like "oops, sorry!" and just left. Well, that would be hit & run. That's pretty much what she did -- she committed a hit & run on your bag.
2007-12-29 13:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
yes you do!
they could have at least helped you clean your seat and bag off with some napkins rather than just sitting there.
the person who did spill it on you really should have helped you..
but yes, you do have the right to be annoyed.
i would be veryy angry if that happened to me.
2007-12-29 13:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by rootbeerrox2121 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋