Im a virgin and im planning on losing my virginity to my boyfriend on new years eve. He doesnt want to wear a condom and im really worried about perhaps getting pregnant from the condom splitting and stuff anyway. He says it wont feel good to wear one and that his hard on will probally be gone in about 20 seconds. I dont know what to do. I love him very much and i know he loves me but this is a big issue for me. I dont want to end up pregnant. Im too young! also the fact hes been with other girls without a condom so i dont know if he has anything! How am i supposed to deal with this? Hes being so stupid about it.
2007-12-29 05:15:58 · 26 answers · asked by rockandrollcliche@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, you notice that 8 or so of the people that answered your question are guys!? And , that they are saying to dump him if he can't respect you enough to listen to your wishes. That should tell you something right there....even other GUYS aren't agreeing with your b/f!!!I don't know about the other areas of his life, but in the bedroom, he;s a self-rightous, self-centered selfish, son-of-a-bit that isn't taking into consideration your feelings here. If you have expressed your worries to him & he still won't listen, don't give it up to him. Trust me, YOU have the power in this situation!! I have had a FEW guy friends that have gotten their g/f to have abortions (here in Japan its legal) & trust me, they REGRETED how easily they could have put a condom on, in hindsight!
And I dont even know how the girls felt after...
You want him to wear a condom for a reason, dont forget that. If he doesn't respect you enough to listen to you, don't waste your first time on him. Your first is one you NEVER forget!
Be strong! You have the power here!!
2007-12-29 05:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That you love him isn't the issue. If he loves you, he will do as you ask, which is not an unreasonable request. If not, then you will not really lose anything worthwhile if he huffs up and goes elsewhere. You're first time should be a special time. It's the ONLY first time that you will EVER get. Make sure it is with someone worthwhile who LOVES and RESPECTS you. Remember, You got the ******* You make the rules.
It's no hassle for the boy to walk away once he's got what he wants from you, and leave you with a broken heart, a bun in the oven, and a nasty bug maybe.
2007-12-29 05:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by One Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he's being really selfish, and I think you need to let him know that if he doesn't wear a condom, he doesn't have sex. You're definitely right about this. You should be stubborn with this kind of thing. If he loves you, and wants to be with you, and respects you, he'll wear a condom. If not, well, I guess you're better off without him. I don't think it's that big of a problem though. I think that if you tell him you're not having sex without a condom, he'll give in. Goodluck.
2007-12-29 05:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't do it, I'm sorry to tell you but he definitely does not love you if he only cares about how sex is gonna feel like for him, he probably tells you that he loves you so that you give it up, and he is definitely not worth it, plus he doesn't seem to care if you get pregnant or not and hes slept around without using a condom so he might have an std, just think if you do this you might ruin your life for ever,so you need to loose him and find a guy who respects and loves you, remember your virginity is something you cannot get back so it should be with someone special who you love and loves you back.
2007-12-29 05:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Diaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , he is being stupid, and so are you if you let him touch you and he's not wearing a condom. Tell him he must get an HIV test and show you the results BEFORE. You can always go on birth control pills until you find out. You can't just start taking birth control one day and expect it to work the next. HIV is nothing to fool around with and neither is pregnancy. Get him to have that test, see the results yourself and if he doesn't,------dump him. Its not worth it.
2007-12-29 06:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About halfway through your question I was going to say "just pull out" BUT! If he's been with other people without protection, pregnancy is the least of your problems. I say MAKE him wear one, or not do it at all.
AND! If you are going to stay with him, go with him while he gets checked out at a health clinic or something. That way, if you know that he is in fact CLEAN, you can do it without a condom.
Hope you make a wise decision.
2007-12-29 05:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by elle bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if hes been with girls and not worn a condom i would make him wear one until he got checked and you might want to get on birth control if you are planning to be having sex with anyone its just another thing to help you not get pregnant.
2007-12-29 05:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by AMF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be stupid back....dont do it....Believe me if he really cares for you and wants you that badly he will break down. You will find more and more WOMEN actually control guys as long as you use your foot and put it down. We will make all kinds of stupid "I refuse" lines but when you refuse sex, it is funny how we change our minds.......DO NOT DO IT whithout a condom. Please.............Unless you are on the pill I almost promise you that you will get pregnant and that is not even touching the area of sexual diseases....
2007-12-29 05:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by belbiv1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he's just after sex. Tell him that this is how it is or it ain't happening if your going to do it regardless... It takes 2, right? You have the power and right to tell him to use one. Personally, if you think your to young, then don't do it. WAIT! you have your whole life ahead of you. I also have a challenge for you. That day, tell him that you're not in the mood for it, dont tell him that your postponing anything, and if he asks, just say I don't know to any of his questions. If he loves you, he'll wait. But as far as absolutely wanting to, MAKE him. Don't take unnecessary risks.
2007-12-29 05:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by tldarktemplarlt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that the only way he is going to have you is if he has protection !!!! and that's it !!!! No, if's and's or but's about it. You are young and u don't need to be getting pregnant anytime soon !!
If your a smart gal, which I think u are. then you will tell him it's either THAT WAY OR NO WAY !!!! there is NO other way. don't have him con you into fooling aroud without it !!!
because guy's are good for that.
2007-12-29 05:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋