How do you avoid being called creepy by women?

Question

Not saying this happens a lot but it does happen to me. I can be very nice to a female and she responds mean to me and calls me creepy. I can act a little socially awkward when I first meet someone. It's more or less a shy thing. Do you feel that a person has the right to call another person creepy for being awkward, different, older or even unattractive? Keep in mind, I never show any disrespect and I'm well natured. Should I respond to a woman that calls me creepy with, "Well you're mean... and.. and.. and fat!" Probably not, but it wouldn't be any different than how they treated me. Most nice women can't understand their behavior either and see nothing wrong with how I act or my appearance.

Answer 1

some girls are just horrible in those kinds of situations. they like to pretend they are better than most of the guys out there...as if they deserve this amazing perfect guy even though by being snobbish they are missing out on great guys. if the girl doesn't understand ur initial behavior and cant see that you're probably more shy than anything..and if she is predisposed to make quick, harsh judgments like that then maybe she isn't really worth the effort and worrying. think of it like when SOME guys get mad at girls for not doing all the physical stuff they want to do sexually and then they talk badly about her behind her back to their buddies...different situation but equally a defense mechanism of sorts. these girls are probably insecure with themselves so they try to put other people down to make themselves feel better. if you are being a nice guy just a tad shy im sure you arent being creepy and the people who wont give u a chance really arent worth it right? well good luck and im sure a nice girl will snatch u up soon!

Answer 2

Ask her if she is familiar or use to such treatment. When a female retaliates with calling you "creepy," this may be a sign she's used guys communicating a different way to her. However, I don't have the details, so who knows? Did you build a rapport with her before you said anything? If some form of trust has not been built between you, she may feel what you are saying is out of bounds with her comfort zone. Compliments are not taken well with many women as we have been taught to repel them in some form or fashion. Do you get excited? Anxious? Or give off a different frequency around these women whom are not the "nice women?" Be aware that we attract people to us based on how we feel about ourselves. I can soooooo tell you from personal experience. I am sensing a divide between these females that call you creepy and the "nice women." What is the difference between them? Age? Experience? Grade?

Answer 3

You definitely shouldn't respond with that. If you really want to make a comment on it, try to say something that's polite and calm, like "Thank you for sharing your opinion." Sadly, sense quiet people are so rare these days many people, men and women, see them as creepy. Just keep being polite and respectful, and don't let it bother you. Also, you might want to pick up a book about Introverted people. There are lots out there that might make you feel better about yourself. (As I know being called creepy doesn't do a lot for a good self image)


-The quiet "creepy" girl in the corner

Answer 4

sometimes socially awkward people can come across as creepy because they don't understand the boundaries.

When you say you act very nice a female what do you mean? Are you going overboard with being nice and not realising it?

Even staring at a group of people having fun, wishing you could be one of them, creeps people out because they think you are staring for another reason. If they catch you doing it don't turn away quickly, smile and say hi.
Becoming clingy also creeps people out.

Answer 5

i was called creepy by this psycho woman at work. it was like my first week too. i didnt know how to act either. i never even approached her but she would approach me at my desk. she was a passive aggressive psychomaniac. im "creepy" but you approach me?

i think she had mental issues because 90 percent of the time she was nice to me. i was always nice to her so i dont know what her trip was and dont know how she thinks thats ok to talk to people professionally like that. i think she was racist against white people.

i just tried to keep it cool with everyone else and show what a nice guy i was.

finally the witch is gone and i dont have to deal with her ever again.

i think some women are just so miserable in their own marriages and life that they need to make other people miserable or try to break down other peoples confidence.

Answer 6

One of my husband's best friends has the same problem. Trust me, if a woman says you're creepy then that is exactly how you're coming off. However, that doesn't mean you're a creep--it just means you're ACTING that way. Don't insult someone who tells you you're creepy because that gives her too much power. Just walk away. After all, if I'm overweight and a guy comes up and says "you're fat" to me, it hurts me a lot but he won't know how much it hurts unless I tell him he's creepy. See?

Anyway, you can embrace your creepiness and spend your time with women who don't mind.

Answer 7

SYSV1RUS, I am a middle aged mom and I've heard how teenage girls talk and it sounds like all a guy has to do is breath to be called "creep" or "creeper". It's not you, it's them. I have no doubt that you will one day fall in love and be a great husband and dad to a lucky family. I know, the goal right now is to have friends and be popular. Just keep being friendly and outgoing but no reason to go out of your way for anyone who has insulted you. And if you have parents or siblings, please be kind to them too. They will love you for the long run.

Answer 8

By not being creepy. Act like you have some sense, even if it's just an act.

Answer 9

You should never hang about for insults.

You need to take a good hard look at yourself and watch cool guys when they interact with women to see if you can spot what you are doing wrong.

It is a bit insensitive for a woman to call you creepy to your face. I bet if you would find that she feels a bit intimidated by you if you are clever or a bit nerdy.

Don't retaliate, its not a gentlemanly thing to do. Just walk away and interact with people who appreciate you.

Answer 10

Don't leer and wink at them, while snorting and chortling.