ok my story is long so sorry
when i was 13 i fell in love with this boy and we went out 4 a bit but at that age its nothing is it anyway i ended up going out with his best friend and we was together 9 years but broke up last christmas but 3 years befor i started having filling for the other boy again he has 2 children and hes girlfriend is my best mate but i was seeing him b4 i was friends with her but now i fill so bad coz i love him and i dont know what to do he says he loves me so bad and wants to spend his life with me and i fill the same but i love his kids like there mine and his girlfriend is the bestist friend in my life im so confussed please help
2007-12-29 03:33:15 · 10 answers · asked by manyaklale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
Personally, I would try and see if you can put this man to the back of your mind. The reason being is that so many people are going to get hurt if you charge in and break up a relationship and a family.
If he is unhappy with his girlfriend - he must be as he is declaring love for you, then he needs to just focus on that and decide what he wants to do - he can work at it with her or call it a day but ultimately it has to be his decision and he shouldn't be involving you in that.
If he decides the relationship with his girlfriend is over - whether or not he will ever have a relationship with you - you still need to give it time as he needs to get over that relationship ending and so do the children.
Then in time maybe meet up as friends and see what happens - allowing time for everyone to get over the changes.
In mean time stop seeing him so much and try to forget him - he has a family now and isn't that 13 year old boy you had a few snogs off. He is much older now and has responsibilites and just because your relationship ended doesn't mean you can go taking a boyfriend off your best friend and a dad away from the kids.
Lx
2007-12-29 03:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Don't interfere with the family. Nor the kids or girlfriend will be happy. You do not want to bring a war zone into the family. Tell him, he has a family now and he needs to take care of it and give it love and keep everything together so that the kids can grow up happily. There's a lot of breakdown in relationships because they find someone else. One love is enough in life. 2 can occur if something really bad happens to the first one. The kids are depressed nowadays. Don't make another 2 kids facing the same situations. Think about them. Believe me, they will not be happy. Then you will become unhappy.
2007-12-29 03:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by luluchicko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 09:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by ahhee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT touch this one with a ten-foot pole! Trust me, in the end you'll lose both the guy AND the best friend. Hands off!
2007-12-29 03:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Terri J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you may have been with him before,but you left him,now he has a life,why geopardize your friendship?just take a back sit and see what happened,maybe in the future you will be togeather,but give him a chance to fix things with his girlfriends,for the sake of those children that you love as your own....
2007-12-29 04:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sandrine C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave this one alone sounds like you only want what you can't have.Go for it and you will lose your girlfriend as well, not worth the effort. Try using the spell check.
2007-12-29 03:49:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What the hell, you can't be the one responsible for splitting up a relationship, and when the kid's grow up they'll hate you (sorry but it's true) move on.
2007-12-29 03:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You type like you're still 13. Move on, and get a hobby.
2007-12-29 03:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
perhaps go back to school and learn how to write english! back off if they are happy.
2007-12-29 03:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Charlene 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't go there.
2007-12-29 04:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mr-Kay 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋