my dad dosent like my boyfriend?

Question

i just finally got a boyfriend and i have to go to my dads house and he dosent like him only my mom does so it doseent matter if i hang out but when i got to my dads house he dosent even let me talk on the phonw with him and i dont know what to do we hace been dateing for almost 3 months and i cant go a week and 1/2 with out talking to him can someone plz help me

Answer 1

Just so you know your dad will probably not like any of your boyfriends. It's a dad thing. Since your at your dads you have to respect his rules whether right or wrong but you should sit down with your dad and talk to him about it. Your dad probably wants nothing but the best for you and if you tell him how you feel about the guy and how happy he makes you maybe he'll let up again and at least let you talk to him a couple of times while your there. Plus it might go along way to see if you can have him over for dinner so your dad can really get to know him. If your dad sees you going about it in a mature and adult way instead of getting pissed off he'll respond completely different and might give you what you want. Good luck

Answer 2

You should talk to your dad and find out why he doesn't like the guy. He may have a good reason. You could suggest they meet and he get to know your boyfriend.

Your dad is probably just trying to protect your from someone he really has a problem with. If he doesn't come around, accept his decision. The best way to judge whether a love interest you have is worthy of you is by the opinions of your family. Many girls and women get involved with guys who are abusive in some fashion or another because they don't listen to the concerns of their family. Don't let that be you. There are many other fish in the sea.

If you can't go 10 days without talking to him, that is a good indication that you are following your emotions and not using your head to determine whether this is a good guy.

Answer 3

So your dad doesn't like your boyfriend, the first thing you need to know is why? Sit down with your dad (pick the right time, when he's not doing anything else and can have a conversation with you) and ask him. I would start by explaining to your dad that you really love and respect him and that you agree to comply with his request not to contact your boyfriend when your at his house. However I would then ask why he has a problem with this boy. Is it that he has a problem with you having a boyfriend at all or is it this boy in particular?

More importantly, I would explain that although your fathers opinion is important to you, so is this boy, right now. And that although this boy won't be your last boyfriend, you will only ever have one father and want him to be part of all of your life and not just part of it. You should then ask if you can invite this person over to spend some time with you and your dad, say over lunch, so that they can get to know each other. They will never be the best of friends but at least you tried and your father will ultimately respect you for behaving in a mature manner.

Answer 4

Well its difficult because we don't know how old you are, your mother approves of your young man, maybe your father doesn't like the fact that you are dating. Fathers are very protective of their little girls and they remember what they were like as boys, and what they thought like and so on, I'm just saying that your father may think he is protecting you by not approving of your choice.

You must respect your father, if you feel he is being unreasonable you should be able to discuss it with your dad..ask him even why he doesn't like him, what it is about him that bugs him so, you may find out its just because he is scared of losing you...reasure your dad that no one could take his place...no matter who you choose to live your life with..good luck honey sure is hard to understand parents sometimes but try a little communication and open up to your dad like you do with your mom and you may see what is really the problem...

Answer 5

How old are you? 16, 17- You'll feel differently about this guy in a year or maybe not! But your father must have a good reason for not liking this guy. Does he treat you good? If so, just stick with it but follow your father's rules( if this guys LOVES you, he can wait a week to talk to you, and if you LOVE him, you can trust him for a week.) Trust me, your father will come around if he sees that even though he has set this rule, your boyfriend still wants to be there for you.

Answer 6

First, please calm down.

Second, yes you can survive ten days without contact. Send your boyfriend a nice card, letter, or email; tell him you'll miss him and you'll get in touch as soon as you return.

Then, focus on having a good time at your dad's place. Be pleasant and kind, help out with the household chores, and remember to keep up with your homework. Who knows, your dad may have a change of heart.

Good luck.

Answer 7

If you lot learned how to spell using proper words you would probably do better. Using Texting slang is lazy and shows a "Bovvered?" Attitude. As for your Dad......your Boyfriend is probably screwing his daughter so no wonder he does'nt like him...I wouldn't either!........you will always be Daddy's little girl...even when you are 40!

It's Just a Dad thing!

Answer 8

I would say father right it to hate daughters boyfriends cause they know how the male mind words, he has to prove is worth to your father and earn his respect, get him to connect with a something your farther likes normally cars or war works or anything do be male based, nothing girlie , even get him to argue with your dad. he is looking after your intreast at the end of the day and he need to know he is strong enough to take care of you.

Answer 9

k had the problem of not gettin to talk to mine before like when we had been dating almost 5. cept i never talked to him for almost two weeks straight. it was hard ill tell you that and im goin through it right now again. he dont have a phone we talk every three days almost and it sucks. but if your really gonna succeed in this relationship sometimes you gotta make sacrifices and if your really meant to be in a realationship with him then youll be fine, itll be hard yes but itll work out for the best. theres an old saying ..."absence makes the heart grow fonder" figure that out and youll have it made.

Answer 10

If you can avoid staying at your dad's house, then do so. Stay with your mom instead.

Or go to visit your mom regularly, when you are staying with your dad. And at your mom's place you can meet your boyfriend.

And if your dad tries to prevent you from seeing your mom. Then you can accuse him of child abuse. Because he has no right to break up even temporarily your relationship with your mom.