help i don't know what to do?

Question

recently there has been alot of things going on in my life.
well at school there is this boy that constantly messes with me(he asked me out and i told him i wasnt interested) i try not to cry but when i get home i let it all go. then when i get home i have to clean, and when i ask my mom can we get cable and she says he11 no and screams at me. My dad told me that he won't ever get anything for my birthday and gets my brother stuff on my birthday. My dad is really mean to me. I feel like i'm all by my self. i am a good smart little girl. i have a 3.67777 gpa but nobody seems to notice. everybody is mean to me and i am tired of it. i don't know what to do sometimes i feel like ishouldnt be here. i am also overweight

How do I cope with this? I don't think I can do it anymore.

Answer 1

Well, if you really are having such problems you should call kids help phone[phone]). I'm sure they can help you.

Answer 2

I am sorry to here that your homelife seems to be so dissatisfying, I know it makes you feel lonely and hopeless. Holiday seasons are especially trying, because we have so many expectations for happiness.
It is hard but you need to take another look at the things you can do to help your situation. You can never change anyone but yourself, keep that in mind. Make some plans for your life, even if it is only what you want to accomplish in the next 6 months. Depending on your age, there are a number of things you could do that would be of benefit. When you accomplish even a small goal it makes you feel so good that you are eager to set others. You will have to choose your own goals so think creatively. Could you offer to help your mother cook dinner a few nights a week using nutritious lowcal recipes that the whole family would enjoy? Maybe you could spend 30 minutes each evening exercising, even if it is only a short walk, set a goal of losing 5 pounds. Join a new group at school or a local YWCA to provide new interests. Request information from colleges, careers or vocational programs and begin a file on what you might want to do after high school. Talk to your school counselor about any free summer programs offered near you that provide educational experiences in an area of interest. Clean your room, and rearrange things, or redecorate what you are able to. Join a volunteer program. There are many possibilities for you to create satisfaction in your own life, I hope you will do so.

Answer 3

U just have bad luck girl, i was the mean in my family, my parents got me everything and i kinda hated em, so i left my house when i was 18teen, i wasn't good at school, but i'm really happy living alone, but i'm 24 now.

Don't let anything bring u down, if ur family doesn't care about u, u shouldn't care about them, think about urself, and keep studing, be the smarter person ever, and when u r ready go away from them if u r little now, just wait a couple years and get the he11 out of there, about the overweight, just don't eat much and drink a lots of water.

Best wishes, and good luck, and remember that in deed u r alone even when ur family loves u, u r alone, that sucks, but life is like this, u have nothing 4 sure, but death

Answer 4

Oh sweety, I am so sorry that things are really tough right now. Here are some ideas that may help you:

With the boy... if you really don't want to go out with him, then be nice to him but tell him you aren't into dating. You don't want to be mean, afterall he's a person too... I'm sorry he's messing with you. Tell him it hurts your feelings and you really can't deal with it right now. If he's being awful towards you, you may want to enlist the help of a grownup at the school you trust, like a counselor.

Then, it's OK to cry. If you get home and cry, that's OK. It's better to cry then to stuff it all down. Cry in the shower if you are worried someone will hear you. Just let it go. It's cleansing.

Regarding the cleaning... just do it. Everyone has to clean. I had a ton of chores as a teen. It was hard, but it made me a better person.

Regarding the cable... your parents may not have the money. There are lots of shows on the internet now that you can watch online. Some series have DVDs out that you can rent or can get free from the library. TV's fun, but it's not everything. If you have to do without cable, you will survive.

I'm sorry your Dad is mean to you. When people are mean like this, it's because there's something wrong with THEIR lives. It likely has nothing to do with you. I would steer clear of him as best as you can, and try not to make him angry. You can't change him. He has deep-rooted problems that are far bigger than you, and you aren't the one really making him mad. He likely hates his life.

You may be lonely, but you are not all by yourself. Not to get all religious on you, but God is with you. Try to have some friendly people at school that you can talk to. You are very smart. Your GPA is amazing!!!! You should be very proud of that. You didn't say how old you are, but since you have a GPA I'm guessing you are in high school....

That means that your adult life is just around the corner. You have the sensitivity and brains to go very far in your life. I get the feeling that you will be very successful in life, because you are dissatisfied with your life now. I think you will BLOSSOM in college, big time. You have all the makings of a bright and successful young woman. Keep your eye on future goals while you are dealing with your current reality.

And don't freak about being overweight. You likely eat too much because you aren't getting the love that you need. Try to be sensible about what you are eating and realize why you are doing it... and know that when your life is happier and you are out of the house, your weight will likely resolve on it's own.

You will be fine. I can feel it. Just keep your eyes and heart on your future goals.

:-)

Answer 5

I think you need to see a school counselor and tell him or her all of this. The counselor can perhaps help you manage the situation at school. Your mother refusing to get cable and expecting you to clean - things like that are what teens have to cope with at home. I have no understanding at all of the situation with your father or what your mother has to say about it. That's why I think you need to talk to a school counselor.

Lots of kids feel isolated. You're not alone. Keep your grades up as you have been and try not to eat because of emotional problems at home. It's possible that you're never going to get the attention you need from your family. This happens to many people. It may be something you have to accept and no longer look for their approval or love. Don't let it spoil your life when you move out into the world - it doesn't say anything about you as a person or your worth. But please talk to a counselor - that's what they're there for.

Answer 6

You hang in there. You are doing great. Times are tough right now. Watch your weight so you can feel good about yourself. Keep your grades up. When you get through public school and college, you can get a high paying job and show them all up! Be patient. Think of long term goals. Dont let anything pull you down. If you are religious, pray a lot. It helps.
LOOK BEYOND TODAY. Take one day at a time. Read a lot. There is a world of knowledge out there.

Answer 7

some people feel this way with problams at home, if this is really as bad as it seems ignore everything, this will be very hard but try. make your parents feel how they make you feel and see how they like it, if they ask you whats going on tell them your going to start treating them how they treat you.