Is This Considered Abuse?

Question

Alright yesterday,i was mouthing off to my parents because they were being jerks.And My dad started screaming at me and swearing and wouldnt let me talk at all.He Also grounded me for a month just for me saying "I hate You".Then he took it out on my mom and screamed at her and everything till my mom was crying and begging for forgivness.My Dad left in his car and came back an hour later.Then he got all mad and things.Also he slapped me in the cheek and my stomach hopefully he didnt hurt my baby.it wasnt hard but it was just enough to hurt.Please Help me is my dad an abuser.if so what kind
Emotional Or Physical

i live in the US,im 15 and yes im pregnant

Also Please Support me,i dont take anyones crap including people on here.Im pregnant at 15 isnt that hard enough to deal with and i did even want this baby i was Raped.but i want the baby no and my dad is against everything thats why i was mouthing off

and no,my aunt is really rich,
so were gonna move in there when we have the baby.but i want to get help for my dad or something right now

Answer 1

you definitely shouldn't have said i hate you. my momma would've slapped the crap out of me back in the day for that...and rightfully so.

i don't know about the argument with between him and your mom. couples get into arguments sometimes, and sometimes people get upset and cry. from what you said, that part sounds like it could or could not be emotional abuse.

on the other hand, there is *NO* way he should've hit you while you're pregnant - especially not in the stomach. that's unacceptable, whatever the circumstances. the smallest things can cause miscarriages or damage to the baby. you should get checked out by a doctor.

you should go have a chat with police and ask them just to go talk to him. tell them you don't want to press any charges. that's what i did with my dad when he got REALLY out of hand. getting talked to from someone in an authoritative position might knock some sense into his head.

if that doesn't work, and you're of age, you should move out on your own.

if you're not of age, call a child abuse or domestic violence hotline. remember though, there's no turning back after that, so be sure! if it's to the point where you are afraid for you and your baby, it's time to pick up the phone.

Answer 2

There is the text book version of abuse and there is the -Gut feeling- 'you know when your doing something wrong to someone and you know that it really bothers them. This is the under the radar abuse that gets swept under the rug as ' normal ' family things. I'll say that ' there is no Normal form of abuse. We all have limits and some less then others. This places the line of abuse less for others. The best rule of thumb to go by is to check your gut, what was the first feeling you felt when you experienced/ witnessed this action. There are many of people around us with a lower constitution but you may never know that because it is perceived -weak- that they should not be able to take the average prank/tease/joke or any other Label you might want to put on the reasoning to have a laugh at another expense. I will not get 10 points for telling you this but.. since you were in a abusive family as a child and you have not received counseling (to understand this) for that...that it is perceived by the PHD P's that you have a higher rate to -abuse- as a parent. In a lot of cases It is also true that you can TIMES x the amount of abuse you spoke of by 2, because we usually always lighten the story when it comes to speaking about the ones we love.

Answer 3

I imagine your father is at the end of his rope trying to figure out why you would want a baby that was the product of rape at the age of 15. He's responsible for this, you are way underage and it will be up to him to support this child. And you mouth off. I don't doubt he's on his last nerve and you sure aren't helping.

I think you need to see a counselor to understand why you are doing this incredibly self destructive act. If you were raped then why aren't the police involved? If you are crying rape to cover up the fact that you had unprotected sex at the age of 15 and got caught, then you are choosing to be someones mother and you had best grow up and start acting like the adult you claim to be. Your incredible selfishness is destroying your family and you are arrogant about it. Parents lose their cool when driven to it sometimes, if your father has never been abusive to you, then he isn't now. He just did the wrong thing because he's out of control due to the situation you have put yourself in.

Your father isn't the problem, you are. And you sure don't want to hear that, do you?

Answer 4

I think that you have put your parents in a very stressful place. I am assuming that you are to young to have been having sex and now you think that your parents should be there for you.
And it looks as tho they are. But then you started mouthing off as tho you had a right. I assume again that your Dad is paying all bills and providing you and your unborn with a home, bathroom,bed, food,and etc...
Your Mom and Dad are trying for you and you are not being appreciative of there efforts. Again I am assuming.
Now in saying this it was wrong of your Dad the way he acted and I agree that was not right. But I am saying that He should have done that before you got were you are at now, then maybe you wouldn't be there.

Answer 5

I am against all forms of abuse, but I would have to wonder if he is having a hard time coping with all that is happening in your family. You tell him you hate him, but he is obviously supporting not only you, but your future child. Maybe you are the abuser for what you are putting your parents through. In my opinion, you are an out of control teen that ended up pregnant and don't have enough respect to not mouth off to people that still care enough to keep you under their roof.
The best lesson for you would be to move out with your child for awhile. Then you will realize who the abuser in your house really is.

Answer 6

First and for most no parent should hit their child regardless what they do or say. You hurt your dad by saying you hate him , which made things get even more heated. Wait a while for things to calm down and have a family sit down no screaming, no bad words, and hands off. Ask if we have this sit down that no one blames no one and the object is to talk about what everyone feels . Also apologize to your dad and tell him you love him and you were angry when you said it.
As far as abuse goes if it happens on a regular basis then yes it is abuse but if this was a one time deal then just maybe it is eating away at him and he feels bad? Also for him to take it out on your mom was a bad move on his part too. Just go to them both explain that you would like to all sit down and talk write down what points you would like to discuss . Make some rules planned out no one is to cut in while someone is speaking etc....Be grateful your 15 and preg. and your parents have not thrown you out as some do!
Hope this helps Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

wow. You're 15 and pregnant, living in your parents' home and telling your dad you hate him.... Yeah I'd hate my dad too if he was supporting my irresponsible butt! Yeah, I'd definitely mouth off to the man who gives me a roof over my head, and in so doing gives my unborn child a place to live.
You know what you should do to get him back and show him who's really in charge?
Move out. That's right mom, get your own place where you don't have to follow his stupid rules and listen to him pi$$ and moan all the time. He can't smack you if you don't live there.

Answer 8

it sounds as if hes a little bit of both, but put yourself in his spot a daughter that mouths off and is pregnant he might think he failed as a parent and just gets upset, it sounds like youns might need to seek some family counesling or something, you make sure you take care of yourself and your child because you dont want to have your baby in a situation all the time where there is fighting and stuff no child needs to be around or involved in it

Answer 9

You obviously mouthed off at the wrong time!, i'm not saying he is excused for doing this but who do you think you are mouthing off to your parents?, hate is a hard word and after them bringing you up you call them this|?. How old are you? You sound very childish and should thank your parents for giving you a home for you and your child.

Answer 10

Physical violence is never acceptable.
Why are you mouthing off to your parents? If you are old enough to be with child, you should not be fighting with your parents about anything.
Get away from your father and find a safe place for yourself. Your mom needs counseling to get control of the situation. Maybe you all could benefit from counseling.