Well ive been seeing this guy for quite a while and i was seeing him while he was seeing another girl who he had been with for about a year. i thought i was wrong at first but then he assured me that he was "only seeing her" and that it was okay. Because i liked this guy so much i carried on meeting him. At one point i thought he was just using me for things, and he admitted it. After that we didnt talk for about 2 weeks then one friday night he rang me askin if i would meet him but as i was busy i said no. Then obviously that left me thinkin "he must be still intrested". Another week passed by without any coontact as he was busy with work and things, and because i hadnt spoke to him for a while i began to forget about him and move on. But over xmas we have began to talk alot more again and after a 3hour phone call he asked me to be his girlfriend and he said he really likes me. when a girl is told this she wants to believe it but thers always negative thoughts.. anyway i said no..
2007-12-29 00:51:07 · 10 answers · asked by Nicola! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He asked me to meet him last night and becausse i wanted to see him, i did... he was being really diffrent with me, like he actually liked me and enjoied being with me. we had a long talk about how we both felt and i he kept assuring me he did like me and when im with him he actually realises how much he likes me. being a girl, its one of them things you love to hear and automatically believe it, even when sometimes its not true. Anyway the night went on and we kissed and hugged and it was great and it was like we was both just loving eachothers company.
The biggest problem i have here is that our relationship has to be secret, as people are always telling me that hes noo good for me and hes also my sisters mate and she gets really "jelous" :S...
what would you think of the whole scenario? Help pleasee? Thankssxxx
2007-12-29 00:55:47 · update #1
Another thing... he said he never meeant it when he said he used me, he said he said it because he wanted to get back at me because i was moving on at the time...
2007-12-29 00:59:06 · update #2
I think you did the right thing. He cheated on his ex with you. In both ways that is disrespecting the old girl. Never stay with anyone who has a significant other. They will not really leave them for you like they say. Always ask if they want to date you or others if you do not want someone to have to share. Always be upfront and honest.
Think, what would be the reason that you would want to get back with this guy? Would it be because you have ideas of what he would really do or say or act? He is not the person you want and you said the right thing. There are other fish out there who will respect women. Respect yourself and stand up for what you want in a relationship. Never second guess yourself and say, well it is ok because....
I wish you a New Year full of wisdom, blessings, and prosperity.
2007-12-29 00:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was with someone else and was obviously lying to u bout only "seeing her". U mustn't have liked him that much if after a while u forgot about him and he obviously forgot about u too. Now that the other girl is out of the picture he can now use u till he finds someone else.....forget bout him and move on....will be better off.
2007-12-29 01:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him and move on. Why on earth would you even want a "friend" that admitted to using you let alone a boyfriend? Maybe you should concentrate on school or furthering yourself on the job, life may seen a little less confusing then.
2007-12-29 00:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by trixxi_fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be playing hard to get. Don't give up. I would keep on texting him, or try to see him in person until he says back off. Sometimes guys can be hard to figure out, but eventually you can get into them on how they really feel about you. You might find out how he feels about you (really feels) from a friend. Good Luck.
2016-05-27 17:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't even think of seeing him. It sounds like he has no idea of how to be monogamous. He was seeing another girl while dating you. And believe me when I say he was doing more than "seeing" her. Don't get me wrong I believe that men can be friends with women, but since he was using you while seeing her, that leads to believe he can't be faithful. Do you really want to get involved with someone who can't be faithful. You deserve better than that.
2007-12-29 00:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD GIRL !!! That was the best answer you could have given him. Stick to your guns and find yourself a good guy, they are out there some where.... when you find him, see if he has a brother for me....lol
2007-12-29 00:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Pat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good chance he was seeing her, probably all of her.but now you have set the boundary to this friendship and if he really wants you then you might see the true colours of this boy and really wow you,intern might change your thoughts,but with negative vibes all i can suggest ask mum
2007-12-29 01:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats good that you said no. you really just avoided getting hurt, because based on your details, it sound like he just wants to play around with you.
2007-12-29 00:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by lorenzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so stick to the No & move one... How can u trust a man who was double dating....& also admitted that he was using you..how can you forget that.. & also he wont do that again
2007-12-29 00:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by syehusin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stay a bit longer and see how things turn out........
2007-12-29 00:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by hafni_matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋