I've got this friend,he's got this girl for over (7)years(i.e.when he was in secondary school);a year after graduating,this girl's attitude started to change(doesn't want to see him & stuff like that),& is also hearing rumors that she is seeing some other guy.All of a sudden oneday they had a chat & this girl told him that "everything that has a beging must surely have an end".
After about a year she is now telling this guy that she loves him,that the reason she told him that statement is that
*things in her life were not going fine & so she said it out of frustration*.
And now this friend of mine is no more in the country...
the night before he left the country this girl came to him and gave him good-bye kisses.
please help him out with your advises
2007-12-29 00:37:47 · 15 answers · asked by edwin u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry if I hurt the sentiments of your friend , but she is an opportunist ,fickeleminded and she would repeat what she did once she finds someone better or more gullible .These people never change ,all the transformation and getting moved by love of others are all myth, confined to novels and Indian movies. Love for some is holy and more valuable than life but for some it is an instrument and a means for their mean objectives. As such he is away and by now would have gotten over this trauma and must be striving for his goals in life . He would certainly find a more reliable and affectionate friend and partner,life and world are too vast though they look nothing in face of disappointment. Let him not enter into this quicksand again and I am sure the second disappointment will ruin him. Good bye kisses,my friend, are easy to come by now a days. She was only ensuring his continued feelings for her and possible coming back in case as is the case now of a failure /rejection with her new friend at that time.It was not frustration for her ,it was for your friend ,it was a well planned move in fact and if your friend is not careful it might work in her favour too!
2007-12-29 12:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by prasad k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long-term relationships go through a lot of ups and downs. It's obvious that the girl was feeling dry and disinterested a year ago because after all, they have been together for seven years. It's like everyday you eat the same thing, like egg sandwich for example. After a couple of months or so, you'll be looking at a tomato like it's heaven sent. This is why long-term relationships don't usually end up in marriage -- the sparks are long gone. After their time apart, the girl realised everything that's good about your friend and the feelings sparked again. Listen to Barry Manilow's Trying to Get that Feeling Again.
That is why true love is different from romantic love. True love can wade out through the dry spells. True love is a decision, you may not feel particularly giddy and excited with the relationship anymore but because you have decided to stay with this person, you will wait out the boring parts and find ways to rekindle the romance.
Tell your friend to give it time. Give himself a chance to find someone else. If he and this girl were meant to be then they would end up together no matter what.
2007-12-29 00:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by reg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well according 2 me if u consider the phase"if u love someone set it free if it comes back its urs if it doesn it never was" i think its always better 2 give a chance so that u dont regret it later ... if the same happens again then its better 2 leave her and go ..
c it from her point of view also ... many a times someone makes a mistake n then realises it later so may be she has realised her mistake n wants 2 make it up 2 him ... n as u have said there relationship was 4 7 yrs .. thts a long time buddy..if there was something this strong jus one year should not be the reason 4 the break up for something which is true n if its not then no big deal.......
so jus have a talk with him n make him understand tht sometimes its better if u 4give n 4get the past for the future
2007-12-29 23:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by meha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all sorry to hear about this but i think you should try and rectify things but long haul relationships barely last but like the saying if you want something hard enough you will get them but what you also got to remember life is short and you gotta get the most out of it so follow your heart and do what that says
2007-12-29 00:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by dwayne b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to move on just as she obviously has,she didn't exactly plead for him not to leave the country,so that should tell him everything.
Sounds like she's messed with his head all along,he will get over her if he hasn't already!
2007-12-29 00:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a chat with your "friend" and tell him that we all had high school seet hearts but its not always the one he will be with for the rest of his life. Your "friend" will have to get on with his life and in time he will get over her and find someone else
2007-12-29 00:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they were too young when they got together and she realised there were other guys out there? He should get on with his life and find someone else for himself.
2007-12-29 00:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still love this girl why dont give her chance to correct her mistake or to make up,give their self to feel if they still need each other or not,coz were only human who can make many mistakes but we have also chance to change
2007-12-29 00:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by ellen111878 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still loves her he should get back with her. She obviously was having a hard time when she said those things and now regrets it.
2007-12-29 00:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by harvestmoon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow; did he leave the country because of her? or because of another reason? You need to find out; It could be because of another reason and if that's the case then plan trips to visit with him
2007-12-29 00:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋