I have been offered a job in Madrid. Due to some quite serious debts my other half could not come with me. So basically I have to choose between my career and my relationship. I love him, i really do but i just dont know what to do.
The pay is 20,000euro and I'm not sure if I could live on that. I dont speak Spanish and I can most likely get a better paid job in England. So personally I dont think its a 'once in a lifetime opportunity' as I could look in 2 years and get a job abroad.
I jus think if I take it, I'll miss my boyf far too much and regret going and if I dont take it I might regret it if I dont get a better job.
What should I do?!
2007-12-29 00:35:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some of you have put total crap and unhelpful answers. Go away if your not going to be helpful!
To the person who said there are more cons about me going, is right there is. But I'm just so terrified I'm going to miss out on an opportunity. I wish he could come with me.
I wonder if I just went, if he'd miss me so much he'd make a way for us to work??
2007-12-29 00:55:19 · update #1
Pray about it. To me, You have listed more reasons on here not to take the job then reasons to take the job. Write all the pros and cons.
My roommate moved to Italy with her husband after they were married for 3 years. He had a job transfer. It was very hard for her since she didn't speak Italian and he was gone working all the time. She couldn't get a job there because they didn't want foreigners to take the jobs from their own. She didn't have a car and therefore had to ride a bike to the grocery store and ride trains, etc. She did make friends but she was so unhappy there. Then she left her husband for reasons that I would have too.
She couldn't speak their language, no other friends or family around, plus her husband never spent any time with her. If he wasn't working he trained for some race and some other things. Those were her negatives. She moved back here and is staying with me until she can get her own house. She is much happier here where she has support of family and friends. She has a great job now and a vehicle.
Weigh your pros and cons. It probably would put a strain on your relationship because it is so much harder to communicate on a phone or mail. I know people who do make it too. I wish you the best. I will say a prayer for you to make the right decision for you.
2007-12-29 00:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say career. Because when it comes to your future, your life, you should do what's best for YOU, without thinking about a significant other or whatever. If that relationship is meant to be, it will work out whether you take that job or not. Either way, you're going to be wondering "what if". But if you choose a relationship over a career, then if that relationship doesn't work out, that job opportunity might be gone for good whereas a relationship will work out somehow if it's really meant to be. I know I don't make a lot of sense right now, but I think I'm getting my point across...
2016-05-27 16:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by virgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt have to chose between two things you love...Your career is just as important as your relationship but which one do you think will be there in the long run. You could make your relationship work long distance as long as you are both willing to work on it. You just have to decide what is more important in your life right now?
2007-12-29 00:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Amber *~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should go girl! If he loves you he should let you go. You know you could always have each other (love is the bond) but opportunity only knocks once. Good luck sweety.
2007-12-29 01:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by sidebite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes go. go go go go go. im in the same situation. get yourself stable first. its time to be alone and some you time. do something that will make u feel good, for yourself. its all about u. unless your boyfriend is willing to take care of youfor the rest of your life.
2007-12-29 00:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you'd want a job where you can't live on the salary and don't speak the language.
2007-12-29 00:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationship; every time.
There are MILLIONS of jobs; but only ONE Mr/Ms Right.
2007-12-29 00:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should build ur career first then anything else..ok..
2007-12-29 00:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rahul B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask GOD for directions..not us..Good luck!
2007-12-29 00:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ask ME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋