I met a guy I was talking to who seemed nice. My friends went home early and I stayed, big mistake. This guy offered to walk me home. I did. He gave me a kiss goodnight, which I declined.The next week at the lunch bar, him and his mate were talking about me saying derogatory things and stories like I slept with him and how stupid I was.
They said rot like I had legs all the way to my armpits and my forest was so thick I could not see the wood for the trees.
They even mentioned my name and what I looked like and where I lived. They said my legs were as loose as a rubber band and that I was a pleasure machine.I was not drinking that night and watched my drinks or did not accept drinks from strangers. I know what happened.
I simply talked to a friendly guy and when he tried to kiss me, got rid of him. I did tell him details like my last name and my dreams and hopes, but did not think they would be talked about in a lunch bar of 50 people.My friends wnt 2 lunch + hrd it. Small city
2007-12-28 21:24:52 · 15 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What an ass. Well either way, it sounds like this guy was hurt by your rejection and he couldn't handle it like a man.
Where to proceed from here? You could scold any of your friends who actually believe this guy. Afterall, they are your friends, and they should take your word over his. I'd personally just let this guy burn in his own misery and let him bury his own reputation along with the fake one he designed for you while your trusted friends and family know the real truth.
However, there is always options and you could go with the more uglier route. Confront the male, or even his friend and ask him about the birth mark on your back. If he was so into your body he should of certainly seen it.
If he mentions anything about the birthmark let him know that his credibility is full of holes as he clearly doesn't know that you don't have one.
Do this in front of a large gathering of people so they can validate it.
Let him know that you were "loose as a rubber band" because his pencil was as small as they come... you were wondering if he ever penetrated you.
Your forest was thick because your a woman and he's probably more used to dating underage girls who bend to his whim... these are all childish comebacks to throw at him as replies to his comments.
But as stated above, I suggest going with route 1. Your classy, keep it that way.
2007-12-28 21:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family owns a bar.
And what people are trying to tell you is he's well "known"
They are more astonished you "accepted" him, not him "accepting" you.
Stay out of the bar scene .
"Legal" Liquid crack is all that stuff is.
Typical bar creeps.
Your better off going to a Church or even trying the internet dating sites, like www.PlentyOfFish.com is a very good and totally free place, other the trying to find LOvE or anything else at a bar.
Learn from this .
What happens today can effect tomarrow.
Forget of the bar, explain he was lying and he's a "crispy critter", and let your walk be elsewhere.
2007-12-28 22:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by "Not today, Zurg!" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems ridiculous and limiting not to be able to do something like let a stranger walk you home at night, but you actually got off easy here. He could easily have been forceful with you. Most date rapes (even if you weren't on an actual date) seem to be nice guys, or girls wouldn't trust them enough to let them walk them home or take them out.
This guy is an immature jerk. If your friends are true, they should not be swayed by that B.S.
2007-12-28 21:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, just pay no mind to what people say about you. But i know, it's pretty damn hard to do that. Well, a vacation trip might do, i suppose. Or u might wanna get some revenge on him. try watching 'john tucker must die', might give you some ideas. or u can always stay calm, as u dont have to be as low as how those that trash talk you. U have your dignity, and you definitely dont have to justify yourself because you know that you're on the right side.
best of luck to you!
2007-12-28 21:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their called haters shorty! Everybody has them. As long as you are dwelling on their misery then you are allowing them to win! Haters are rotten to the core and want to drag everyone down right along with them deep into their own misery. Who else do you know go to the club and talk about someone else! I go to a bar to unwind and maybe get to know somebody better. These people love company, unfortunately so does MISERY! Simply ignore and give them another reason to talk about you! You are now officially their TMZ or E! Channel!
2007-12-28 21:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by AJ R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously covering for the fact that he's embarrassed that you would not sleep with his sorry butt, lucky for you or you would have been stuck with a total scumbag who likely has STD's. You probably owe it too him to get the story straight with those around him, also, girls that he will try to date will be interested to learn, i'm sure, of his unscrupulous mysoginising ways, as you mentioned, it's a small city, i'm sure that you can make it even harder for him to get his next lay.
on the other hand, please don't let your experience with this guy mar your perceptions, nice single guys like us are everywhere and i'd hate to think that this experience has jaded you towards meeting gents in the future. The night i met my first love, she was in a similiar situation, i'm forever grateful she agreed for me to walk her home :)
2007-12-28 21:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Way 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small or big towns with tiny sick minds. People who know you are a good person will know better. My first date with my wife ended the same way. I admired her for that. As I admire
you. Keep being you. Love and Peace, brave one.
2007-12-28 21:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Dylan ♪ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the guy was bitter he didnt get a kiss and wanted to look cool infront of his friends , so he talked trash about you. Hes a real loser. Make sure you watch who you talk to
2007-12-28 21:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably bad mouthing you because you declined his kiss. Just to compensate his bruised ego. Tiny brained man he is.
Or he is just trying to impress people by saying he scored with you. Also an action done by tiny brained guys.
I sympathize with you. You poor thing.
2007-12-28 21:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by gurkha guru singh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch, i feel bad for you.
you really misjudged that guy. and that was very unacceptable of him. but what can u do? your real friends will know the difference..and it will die down ..eventually..they will find another to pick on
don't bother to try to squash the rumor, it will only add more fuel. ignore it, and chalk it up to one helluva learning experience.
good luck chickey.
2007-12-28 21:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋