I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months we had nothing but good long conversations. Recetly we started talking about sex and now all he wants to do is talk about it, during all conversations someshow he turns it sexual.... is there a nice way to tell him not to talk about it so much. Now i keep conversations short, conversations not interesting no more. OH YEAH we havent actually done the deed. I REALLY LIKE HIM....
2007-12-28 21:15:15 · 16 answers · asked by lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you get him to stop talking about? You tell him. What's a nice way to tell someone they're annoying? There really isn't. Just say "Listen Luke, sex is fun to talk about in moderation, but I feel like it's all we talk about anymore and to be honest, I miss the good conversations we used to have before we started talking about sex. Can we please not talk about it very much anymore?"
If he protests, just be blunt about it. "Luke, I know we've been dating for 4 months now and we haven't had sex. I know you keep bringing it up and talking about it because you want to make our relationship more sexual. But honestly, you obsessing over it is making me NOT want to have it with you. I really like you and thought we had a really great connection together, but ever since you started obsessing over sex that connection has been burried. Can we please go back to having a great time together and wonderful non-sexual conversations so we can build off of our connection?"
If that doesn't work, then find a new bf. You can't expect to NEVER talk about sex, but I'm catching your drift.
2007-12-28 21:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by BrandonM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so in a brutish caveman sort of a way, he is hinting that he was wanting sex. You saying it isn't that important doesn't make it any less important to him.
If he values the concept and you don't, you two are at a crossroads. If conversations are no longer interesting it could be that he has found the relationship no longer interesting enough to invest in with witty conversation.
Lack of investment will eventually lead to total meltdown. I'm not saying you should do the deed with him, but don't try to change the human nature of a male who has several thousand years of evolution hard coded into their brain to deviate towards sex.
If it's not a priority to you, you'll need to explore more of the male population that feels the same way. Liking this guy is sometimes just not enough. You have to also like the same things, and the affection must be mutual.
Hope this helps.
2007-12-28 21:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be in groups since his being too in to sex now. Don't start any conversation that may lead to that. Its only 4 months, you should think twice before something happens you should do more interesting things like go out, watch a movie, and stuff like that. try to be careful because guys like that might want other things than your love.
2007-12-28 21:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him that you are uncomfortable with talking about it all the time, and if you want to wait a bit longer tell him. It's best to say it now rather than feeling pressured to give him what he wants, because if you get steamrolled into having sex with him before you are ready you might regret it later and feel as tho you have let yourself down, and nobody needs to feel that way.
2007-12-28 21:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by cheeky_lil_pixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just that he feels more open with you now that you mention sex. Or maybe he feels he is ready to do it with you or He thinks your READY to do it with him since the word sex came into the conversations. But don't feel pressured at all do it when You want to.. also just tell him you feel uncomfortable talking about or just tell him " don't you think your talking about sex too much" i don't think it would be a mean thing to say after all he is talking about it with you a lot. Good Luck..
2007-12-28 21:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by k1ss_m3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he really wants to do the deed and this is his way of hinting at it. If I were you, just change the conversation and let him know you are tired of talking about sex. plain and simple
2007-12-28 21:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The appropriate time to have sex with someone is after you are married to that person. I think it's good that you haven't had sex with him. I'm guessing that he keeps talking about sex because he's trying to get you to do it. If this is the case, he's trying to use you.
2007-12-28 21:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When He starts talking bout that, change the topic.
then when starts talking bout that again, stare at him and said "I am tired talking bout it, can we talk seriously bout us?"
it'll show him your uncomfortable bout the talks and also will tell him that you prefer Love to sex.
it is a love when couple do sex, but it is a better-Love when someone protect his/her lover from hurts.
2007-12-28 21:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by NormalBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it`s all he`ll be thinking about after 4 months together with you,
poor lad at least tug him off then he might start talking once the baby batter is off the brain
POSITIVE; will you stop posting that crap you are not Baz Lurrman so shut the hell up
2007-12-28 21:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by SARNIE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to get him to stop talking about it is to put out. Minus that, think of something REALLY intellectually stimulating. Perhaps a paradox?
2007-12-28 21:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by King Ebeneezer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋