10 year old son with pornography!?

Question

I found about seven pornography magazines in my 10 year old son's closet. I also found 3 dvds in his dresser, as well as numerous websites bookmarked on his computer. I thought he was a little young for pornography, and i don't want to embarrass him by talking to him about it. He is very sensitive due to the divorce of my husband and I. The last thing i want is to make him upset in this terrible situation. Does anyone else think he may be young? What should I do?

Answer 1

about that age we are curios. it should be put in check though.
get a perant control on his computor .

Answer 2

He is getting to an age where he is defiantly becoming curious about his own body as well as the anatomy of the opposite gender. I do not think that this is too young to be curious, but a little too young to have a porn collection.

You really need to sit him down and have a talk with him(or better yet a male that he knows well and trusts). He may have questions that he needs answered about sex, his own body, etc. He is reaching puberty and needs someone to talk to him about it.

It is a delicate situation, as you do not want him to think that what he is doing(wondering about females, himself, and probably sex) is something that is dirty and wrong.

If you do confront him about the situation, make it clear that he did not do anything wrong. However dvd's, porn sites, and magazines are not appropriate for someone his age, and that those are something he may choose to look at when he is older.

I also suggest that you get some sort of parental lock on the computer that limits the types of websites he can view.

Answer 3

I actually have a friend who started masturbating at 5 years old. It's uncommon... but think about it. These little girls who get pregnant at 11 or 12 (while rare) are usually getting pregnant from their classmates. And a little boy usually has practice (*nudge nudge*) before -that- sort of thing goes on.

10 is young... but it's not out of the question. He may be sensitive, but just ask him, gently, if he's masturbating. If he is? Then he is. Hopefully you've already given him 'the talk' and he knows what to expect. If not? Perfect segway into it.

Edit: Whoa. Some of these people jump off the deep end. They're usually the parents that don't know what's going on in their kids' lives either, because the kid's too paranoid that they'll react like this. Yikes, you guys. Take a chill pill.

Answer 4

Definitely pornography is way too young for him. I suggest that you should throw those magazine and DVD's. Block those pornographic sites that exploits the knowledge of your son. Teach him a lesson. Teach him that he has no obligation to see pornographic material yet. He could have been masturbating if he would not stop. Don't let that happen. You should tell him the factors and upcoming possible risks on the future circumstances. Pls. be strict at this. You should not let him experience the sexual arouse. Make him understand the potential reprecussions.

Answer 5

Ouch!I do think age 10 is too young but these days who knows. kids are going thru puberty much much earlier.
I totally am not looking forward my boys growing up :/

Is the boys father around? I would have him talk to his son abt it or an uncle or a male figure

I have Notron and they have parental controls on the comp.. u can block anything that has anything to do with nudity.

Also I would call his friends parents and say.. not be weird or anything but are u guys missing any porn and tell them flat out u found some in your sons room and wondering if one of his friends gave it to him and thougth they might wanna check their kids room I know as a parent I would want to know I would really appreciate that kind of phone call that is what parents should do for each other.

Answer 6

He's not too young for wondering about sex, but he is too young to be looking at pornography. Where in the world did he get access to this? I would have the birds and bees talk with him especially since he has been looking at this. It's never to late or early for the talk. I have a 9 year old that we talk open with and he seems to ask more questions and feel comfortable talking with us. Best of luck, and for now take away the porn!

Answer 7

Different kids get interested in sexual things at different ages. The number isn't as important as mental and emotional healthy development. The most important thing to do is make certain that he doesn't just learn the exciting raunchy side of sex, but everything else as he grows up, so he will act responsibly. Studies have shown that the more solid information kids get as they need it, the better adjusted and healthier sex lives they have as adults. Don't have "THE TALK" with him, that's just embarrassing and painful. Just gradually introduce more and more information about more grown up things. He might think of you as "my lame Mom talking about sex again," but the information itself will help him.

Answer 8

If it was just one or two magazines, I'd say it was normal curiosity. However, considering the extent it's gone to, you'd better confront him pronto. Also, if your ex-husband is still on good terms with your son, it might be a good idea to get him involved.
Ten is too young to differentiate between what is normal sexuality and sleeze.

Answer 9

Yes, he's too young to have a collection of pornography, but no, he's not too young to be sexually aroused by it.

Feel free to throw it all out and tell him it's not allowed in your house. Then explain that it's natural to be turned on by such images and to masturbate while looking at it. But the pictures aren't real and give a distorted view of what real people look like and act like. Until he's much older, he'll just have to use his imagination.

Meanwhile, make sure he knows it's OK to masturbate as often as he needs to and make sure he has the privacy he needs to do it.

Answer 10

you need to talk to him soon, the first thing i would want to know is where did he get the magazines. as for the websites take his computer out of his room. stop worrying about upsetting him and start being his mother. mothers or rather parents sometimes have to be the bad guy. we have no choice in this. ten is far too young to have access to this kind of stuff and for all you know he is in contact with a peadophile(child molester)

Answer 11

It's a sensitive subject. I didn't have the birds and the bees talk from my parents. I just discovered my own body by myself. Personally, I think it may be best if you just leave it because it's a private thing but definitely have your husband have a talk to him about safe sex and/or bodily functions... In that region. I doubt he is masturbating on his stomach. And no, the poster is not inappropriate in my opinion.