One of the problems in this world is alot of people are trying to keep up with the Jones'.
You're obviously not like that and I commend you for that.
Although it seems your parents are living what seems to be a comfortable life, and you are living in it with them, it's understandable that others think you have what they do just by what they see and not by what they know.
Because you can't control how others think, you either need to simply say "thank you" when they compliment you on your parents house, don't take your friends over, meet somewhere else/or go to their house, or if you can - move out and live the way you're most comfortable with if you can afford it.
Being in the military changes alot in life.
Reality comes in place fast through all walks of life and the structure of it all.
I lived in the 5 bedroom home my husband grew up in for several years, and I used to hear the same thing all the time.
For a long time it bothered me that people thought I was rich, but in actuality they didn't know that behind closed doors I was living with an alcoholic, was the only one working and paying the bills, struggling to make ends meet, and dealing with my husbands post traumatic stress from the vietnam war plus taking care of him for days when he had bouts with his malaria and hepatitis he contracted in vietnam, BUT they didn't know so I had to take a different approach.
I learned from an article I happened to run across in Dear Abby, that people explain too much instead of simply saying Thank you, it is a nice house, OR Yes I'm lucky I live in a nice house.
If you feel you need to explain, simply let others know it's your parents and not you who work(ed) to get the beautiful home you're living in, and that you're not rich, just lucky to have parents who provide a comfortable room for you to stay in.
You are not only complimenting your parents, but being true to yourself by saying this which might be less stressful for you.
Good luck and God bless you!
2007-12-28 19:40:40
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answered by dnsrmr 3
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Say thank-you and leave it at that. If someone wants to hang with you because they think you have money you will see it soon enough and move in another direction.
You mentioned you are poor...that's a matter of opinion. I am assuming that you don't pay rent to your parents for now. Money doesn't make you rich...it provides you with stuff. It's warmth and kindness and friendship that is wonderful to be rich with. Appreciate what you have...a wonderful home (even if you don't own the house). Make the best of your life.
2007-12-29 03:18:33
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answered by southwest 3
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Is it that you want to make sure people know you are only living there, not sharing the wealth? That you don't condone blatant wealth? That you object to their saying the house is a beauty?What exactly is your objection? Figure what exactly rubs you the wrong way and that might help you figure out how to reply. But remember that it's you who has the chip on his shoulder about it and it's obviously a fairly normal response from people if more than one or two are doing it.
2007-12-29 03:14:51
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answered by je9je9 5
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Know that they're not trying to be disrespectful to you. They don't mean to offend you or say you're weak for living in a nice house. Thank them for the compliment, and maybe deflect it to your parents. Like "yeah, they've done well for themselves" or something.
It's just a house. Even if they see it as a status symbol, chances are, it's toward your parents and not you.
2007-12-29 03:13:22
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answered by PunkyDoll 4
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if you dont care, then try not to let it bother you. I have grown up in a similar situation I just try not to let it bother me. If they care about that crap they arent your friends anyways, just laugh at them and if it gets hostile use body manipulation to subdue them so you can explain it... I know they taught you the body manip in the service didnt they? Tell them that you may come from money but you respect a hard days work and people shouldnt be so shallow to judge people (your parents) for their personal success. It may look easy now but they worked hard and sacrificed things to get there and its nobody else's buisness...
2007-12-29 03:14:53
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answered by Anonymous
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Find people to be around that don't care about the house you live in, but how you live your life.
You already know what makes you happy, surround yourself with others that think the same.
2007-12-29 03:15:05
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answered by amiamas1 1
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i would move out into a crappy place with no a/c or heater. because i wouldn't care about if i lived anywhere but there. i don't like living in a rich comfortable place just because it belongs to my parents. when someone comments about it just say that it is your parents house. duh. they should understand especially if they are parents. stop throwing a tantrum stop complaining.
2007-12-29 03:47:57
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answered by tc_sherman 2
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Say that you are proud of your parents- which you should be. It's your choice where you live. If you aren't comfortable there, you should find your own place. It shouldn't be hard if you don't care where you live as you say.
2007-12-29 03:12:42
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answered by 8 6
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Instead of getting all pissed off about it, just nod your head and say "Yes my parents have worked hard and are proud of their home, and I am proud of them too. I hope to have my own lovely home soon" and just move on. People don't realize they are insulting you by praising your parents home, and they aren't MEANING to insult you.
2007-12-29 03:17:07
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answered by Zyggy 7
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you are not bragging about it, are you? think about this, do people really care of how I feel about that? the answer is...why would they? now, if you were to ask:-" I have all these blessings thanks to my parents, what can I do to put them to a good cause or a useful project?." then I will, as many, (I think) would give you a different answer to your question.
2007-12-29 03:18:11
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answered by Anonymous
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