My son is hard to deal with sometimes,what should I do?

Question

He's 7,and he pitches a fit if he does not get his way or if things don't go his way.

Answer 1

That is hard to answer exactly, but do try to watch the nanny show. While I don't agree with everything they do, most of the ideas are true. I have a son who used to be so bad that his psychiatrist said he was bipolar at 3 years old. He got kicked out of daycares and even used to hit me.

I took parenting classes and learned ways of discliplining him. The main thing is that you have to be stern. If you say NO then you have to mean it and not argue. If your answer is no thn thats it and end it there. If he crys - so what? Let him. Ignore him. It is very hard to do, but if you stick with it you can do it. Stick with the same punishment everytime for everything too. If you choose to do a time out (which by the way I think never works) then keep doing it. Even if you think its not working - it will. It will take 2 weeks for it to finally sink in to the kid that you mean it, and that 2 weeks will be tiring to say the least, but I promise even if you dont see an improvement in the first few days - you will.

Also, very important is not to only focus on the bad. Reward him for good behavior. If he says please or thank you (im just saying even small stuff) just tell him your proud of him for using his manners. If he cleans his room tell him thank you for doing it without me having to ask you. He will be more apt to please you if you make yourself vocal when he does something good (even if its something you already expect him to do)

My son is now 6 and it was a daily struggle to get him to behave, but I can say now, I have one of the most well behaved children I have ever seen. Sometimes we just have to step back and realize that maybe our lack of disclipline may be what they are taking advantage of. Dont be too hard on yourself...just try to fix it!

Answer 2

Okay, make a "naughty spot" or something like that and give him time-outs. It's simple.

I also suggest watching the show "Super Nanny". It has a lot of great ideas.

Double also, when he whines while he's in the naughty spot, ignore him. When he whines when he's out of the naughty spot, put him back in the naughty spot.

Also, don't raise your voice. Sometimes it works for kids but whenever my mom yells at me it just makes me more frustrated with her.

edit: make sure to be stern so he sees that YOU are the boss.

If you don't start disciplining now he will have major problems.

Answer 3

Well I'm like that to, but if you go at it, he will get at it more, and the feuding will be continuous, I'm like this too, I'm 15, just about turning 16, and he has to learn things can't always go his way, thats just the way life is, sometimes its harsh.

If he gets like this just let him be, if he keeps bothering keep as nothing is there, if he physically attacks you call authorities, my dad this once, and it scared the living daylight out of me, I know hes 7, but its a good lesson learner.

i hope this helped.

edit: giving him what he wants, wont prepare him for life, once in a while its okay though.

Answer 4

he's acting like he's 7, and trying to play you to change your mind.

if he were my child, every time he pitched a fit when i said "NO" or things didn't go his way, he'd be disciplined.

kids will be kids and the parents have to be... well.. PARENTS!

all the best

Answer 5

Spank him good ever think of that ! If you don't do it now your going to have problems until he grows up and leaves the house now is his formative years start formulating

Answer 6

I'm not exactly an expert, but just a suggestion you could try (can't hurt) get him to earn what he wants...

like say he wants a new toy, make him clean up a mess to get it... it would work for me :P

Answer 7

he is spoiled but its not to late tell him no more often so that he learns that in life you don't always get your way and a little tough love and stand firm don't give in