I love this girl and do not want to loose her, I just have trouble dealing with emotional outbursts. I try to be sensitive, but I come from an environment where problems are solved by communicating more straight forward. If I did something wrong, tell me. If I can fix the problem, I will, or at least compromise a little. This woman is not happy with an apology and an attempt to solve a problem, I must suffer as much or more than her (at least from my perspective), before she will be satisfied. I am so perplexed.
2007-12-28 18:36:34 · 21 answers · asked by TomTom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have one of those and boy was it hell until I laid it down on her. Here is the solution: Put her down about her emotions and make her feel wierd and embarrased about being an emotional wreck. Call her crazy and act like you are so confused when she is whining about something. Be distant and cold shoulder her when she is being a baby, but be really warm and cuddly to her when she is acting normal. Now she knows that being emotional is both wierd and bad.
2007-12-30 10:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Coke Blaster 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Emotional Girlfriend
2017-01-19 06:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose her. 5 years from now you will be searching for peace and a way out and that will damage her even more. She is not happy with an apology and needs to make you suffer the same? That is not love, buddy. That is co-dependant. There are hundreds of women out there that can give you real love and emotional support. Your present girlfriend needs more time to grow and learn some compassion. What kind of a mother to your children would someone like that make? Emotionally abusive at best. Run, do not walk away from this toxic person. Quick and clean, like jerking a bandaid off. It will hurt, but why drag it out? Jump on the bus, Gus, make a new plan, Stan . . . .
2007-12-28 18:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what are the emotional outbursts about?? if it is something to do with you then that can change. insecurities??
have you ever sat down and listened and then tried to help but she said you don't care you're not even listening??
it's because sometimes, well most of the time actually, we don't want the male to tell us what to do cos it comes across as "here is the solution now shut up." and we just really want then to sit there quietly and that is all. don't try to be Mr fix it unless she asks or indicates for your help or advice.
sometimes an apology is all you can really do. it is then in the other persons hands to forgive and move on.
try sending her a single flower (lilies are gorgeous) with a simple I love you note attached. see what happens : )
hope i have been of some help and that it all works out.
♥
2007-12-28 18:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you do let her to cry herself in your arms. I know that it is irritating for you, but... instead of being critical, just talk to her, tell her, mildly, about your strategies of dealing with stress. Her situation may be either caused by sever trauma (too much stress as a child, and no way to handle it all effectively), or an overprotected childhood. I think if you get her to laugh at the things that stress her out, she will start to get a handle at it. Also, possibly try to talk about it with the resident psychology help person. I know we had one at our college, and though I never needed to go there, it was nice to know there was professional help close by. And face-to-face communication is always so much better than typing and reading words of people who you don't know and most likely never will.
2016-05-27 15:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't compatible with her and it's likely the relationship won't work out. Either you'll have to be more sensitive and she'll have to be more straight forward, or you'll have to find someone who's more compatible with your personality. Even if you love someone to bits, you can still have a miserable, unhappy life with them. It happens to a lot of people, including my parents. The best thing to do is talk to her and discuss it when she's not emotional. You may have to seek counseling for the both of you. If you have second thoughts about getting counseling for the both of you, then that should be a clue that it's not going to work out.
2007-12-28 18:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, from a girl's point of view, I'm sorry to say, but I think you just have to learn to deal with it. It's how she is and how she deals with things. Maybe, after the whole emotional outburst, try to talk it out in a civil manner later.
2007-12-28 18:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by kdoggsw 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your doing all you can from the sounds of it my friend...If she is that emmotionally outbursty, have you talked to her about that? And if so, what did she say? Go from there. Just remember don't lose yourself in the process of this relationship. True love is giving both sides all the time...not pushing another to an emmotional jumping off point. Sorry your going through this...hurts like mad I'm sure. Take care and all the best.
Heart2Heart
2007-12-28 18:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by In the Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you don't deal with things in that way. That you prefer to communicate verbally and deal with things head-on in order to quickly recitify the issue. If you're already told her this, tell her again.
If she doesn't come around to communicating, you can either deal with her emotions (or over-emotions) or you can end the relationship. You have to consider your own emotional well-being, too.
2007-12-28 18:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by cas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a good listener and try to help her out, girls love that kinda stuff. But if you cant help her than at least be there for her, that will show that you're at least trying. If that doesn't work then get a friend of hers to help you out
2007-12-28 18:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by WhoLeeOh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋