I'm falling in love with my boss?!?

Question

Hes two years older than me and he resently started in the company and for these past months i think i have developed feeling for him and its practically killing me inside that i cant say anything to him! Besides that i think he might like me too, i feel like he is sending me mixed messages. I heard he has a girlfriend but he has never mentioned it to me. For example: There is this red bracelet (string) thing that he is always wearing and one of my friends said that she asked him what it was and he told her and everybody around that his girlfriends aunt gave it to him. This was a few weeks ago, but today out of curiosity i asked him what it was (there was no one around but the both of us) and he said that it was a good luck charm that one of his friends aunt gave to him. He didnt say girlfriend, he said friend. Anyways its really driving me crazy because i feel like he acts different towards me that with everybody else. I dont know what to do because... well he's my boss!!!

Sorry... im kind of nervous. But what do you guys think?

Sorry i guess i should of mentioned this in the beginning, im not sure if this is important but he just graduated from an university and im about to graduate in two years for the same thing. We work at a store... and its not like if im planning to keep that job for ever. Hopefully just until i get my degree.

Answer 1

I'm sorry for the words, but they say " don't s*** where u eat"
u don't wanna be in a relation with him especially that he's "lying" to you about having a gf. he's ur boss and if things didn't turn out for the best, the situation will be pretty akward. you'd better divert this attention to someone who u can be with and who won't hide from u the fact that he has a gf; but that's just my opinion

Answer 2

thats though. well, if it seems like he's sending you mixed messages, its probably because he really does like you, but is trying to fght it too, because of the whole inter-office thing. you should try to get him alone again and then aim for one of those movie-magic-style moments when you finally both give into the temptation after some subtle conversation about whatever would make sense for you to be talking about, that can have a double meaning with you're feelings. you know the moment im talking about and doesnt it sound great?

Answer 3

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I'm falling in love with my boss?!?
Hes two years older than me and he resently started in the company and for these past months i think i have developed feeling for him and its practically killing me inside that i cant say anything to him! Besides that i think he might like me too, i feel like he is sending me mixed messages. I...

Answer 4

I wouldn't do anything except be pleasant and keep doing your job well. If he's a strong man, he'll eventually ask you out.

Could you possibly be confusing having the feeling of being "in love" and true love?

Here's some information about love from the books True Love Lasts, Straight Talk About Teen Dating, and Straight Talk About Dating:

“Unfortunately, lots of people don’t know what true love is and that’s a big reason why a large number of marriage relationships are unhappy. Many people think that true love is just a feeling. You know, the wonderful head spinning feeling of being “in love.”

If true love is just a feeling, feelings come and go. But true love doesn't come and go. True love is patient and kind. It isn’t jealous, rude, selfish, controlling, or easily angered. It forgives. It’s supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.

Unlike the feeling of being “in love” which is relatively easy to get especially during dating, true love usually develops slowly over a significant period of time (often years). True love is so much more than just the feeling of being “in love” - it’s supposed to be a mutual lifelong commitment. When you say that you love your significant other, you’re saying that you’re committed to loving them for the rest of your life - for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, from this day forward, until death do you part. True love lasts - it almost never fails.

Think of it this way, if a person has true love for another person, it’s like the sun - it’s always there no matter what (remember that even at night, the sun is still there, it’s just shining on the other side of the earth - and when it’s cloudy outside the sun is also still there, it’s just behind the clouds).

On the other hand, the feeling of being “in love” is like sunshine - even though we’d like it to be sunny every day, the truth is that the amount of sunshine changes regularly. Some days it’s nice and sunny and the feeling of being “in love” is strong, on others it’s partly cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is there but it’s not very strong, and on other days it’s cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is barely there at all. I’m hoping that this explanation is helping you to see that it’s possible for a person to have true love for another person and not have a strong intense feeling of being “in love” with that person at a particular moment. (If you talk with married couples, I think they’ll tell you that the strength of their feelings of being “in love” changes regularly.)

So when you hear someone say, “I don't love him or her anymore” - take it for what it usually is. It’s usually someone saying that they’ve lost the feeling of being “in love”, that they don’t know how or they’re not willing to make the effort required to get the feeling back, and that they probably never had true love for their significant other to begin with because true love almost never fails.

Many times I’ve heard young women say, “my boyfriend loves me.” Unfortunately, most of these women have been fooled. How could their boyfriend possibly have true love for them if their boyfriend doesn’t even know what true love is? Sadly many people marry when one or both people don't have true love for the other - and the result is usually divorce because it's hard to keep a marriage together when it's based only on the feeling of being "in love."

My first suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already). A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).

It’s going to be tough, but my second suggestion is that you forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Well, yes he may like you. But he's got a girlfriend! If he does, steer clear and away from him. I'm sure neither of you would want to get into trouble. Or break a poor innocent girl's heart.

Answer 6

Allow me to give you a little slice of advice. I dated my boss once. I was terribly in love with him. One day we got into a fight and broke up. That week he had to give me my annual eval at work. Omg that was such torture, sitting across from him at a table, listening to him critique my work. That was a pain I'll never forget. Try to avoid dating the boss. Especially if he's not clearly coming after you. If he wanted you badly enough, he'd come for ya by now. Try to look elsewhere and remember what I said about doing that annual review with a guy you're sleeping with.. (shudder..)

Answer 7

wow. long story.
my mom's boss was in love with her and wanted to be with her and dump his wife for her. i think he even tried to kiss her once. but my mom thought he was ugly and had her own sex life.
if hes flirting with you, then flirt with him back. sooner or later you guys will be having an affair. and also wear sexy clothing to work to provoke him a little, make sure your looking your best every day. when i say sexy i do not mean slutty. that will ruin everything. and also play hard to get, guys do not like a women all over them and dont tell him you like him either. if he has feelings for you, he will let you know soon. act very sexy in his presence. trust me, i am good with guys.:)

Answer 8

Either get a different job and go out with him, or forget about him. Trust me, do not get involved with your boss. Only bad bad bad things will come of it. Any moron can see that.

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Answer 10

Hey, hun, I know you're probably kinda confused. I was too in your situation.
He wasn't the boss of EVERYONE in the shop he was more of a line manager/assistant/cashier type thing..but it didn't take me long to figure out that I was falling in love with him, he made me laugh so much and I couldn't stop thinking about him.
There was an age difference - he was 42 and i was 17 (still am) so I was scared to tell him, i was getting so many weird and wonderful feelings about him. One day I told him..he was a bit shocked (but in a good way), a couple of weeks later during a conversation on the phone he told me that he loved me...and now we're ENGAGED!! :) So look on the brightside, not EVERYTHING can go wrong. Good luck huni.