I am still trying to recover from finding out about my wife's infedelity, we are trying to keep our family together but I am seriously struggling with the thoughts that radomly come into my mind. Once they start it's like a snowball effect and I become bitter, angry, and depressed. How do you really give this kind of problem to God and let him work it out when you can't control the thoughts that come into your mind?
2007-12-28 18:15:29 · 13 answers · asked by North Carolina 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am sorry to hear of this trouble. I think you should consider breaking up this question into parts. The first, as you stated is how to give your problem to God. The second is how to manage the thoughts that come into your mind. The third is how to keep your family together. Another unasked question is how do you respond to your wife. I will only attemp to address the basic question.
It is not possible to communicate with God in a polished refined way when one is bitter, angry, and depressed. So, give your problem to God with all your raw emotions, yelling, anger, etc. Be honest about how you feel. I suggest that give your problem to God first thing in the morning, assuming you can get some sleep, before the random thoughts ruin your day.
I also suggest that you need to take some positive steps in order to resolve this problem. First, you need to determine whether or not your wife wants to work things out. Maybe she doesn't. If she wants to work things out, you should go with her to a marriage counselor or other appropriate setting that facilitates working through heart issues. You also need to work on forgiving her.
If your wife doesn't want to work things out, you need to come to the point where you can accept this. I suggest that you seek God for wisdom, but take responsibility for your life and the life of your family. Proverbs 3:5-6 says to trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths. God is not able to direct your path unless you are moving in some direction. If you sit here and give your problem to God and wait for Him to answer without taking any positive steps appropriate to the situation and your goals, He will not be able to direct your action. You can not drive a car that is parked. The car has to be moving before you can guide it.
2007-12-28 18:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by HaoShe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know these situations are never easy. It takes a lot of spiritual maturity to learn to "let go and let God" There are many situations we face in life over which we are powerless in our own strength to master. the Lord admonishes us to commit all things to Him and leave it with Him to work on the solution. One of the hardest things for a human is to give control over to someone else as human nature likes to be in control. The Lord has all the answers and whilst some situations we find ourselves in are extremely painful, we have to accept that we don't have the answer most of the time and He invites us to simply commit everything to Him. I will remember you in my prayers as sometimes we have unpleasant situations thrust upon us and we are left hurting. God bless!
2007-12-28 19:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I almost always see of them blame it on Satan. Any dangerous factor is triggered by way of Satan and each well factor is triggered by way of God it appears. They use them as an alternative of letting the individual dependable for what occurred take the credit score/blame. I understand now not all Christians think that, however there is a massive quantity of them I pay attention pronouncing that.
2016-09-05 13:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by lavis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through prayer. We must chose to forgive and speak it out loud first, even though we might not mean it at first, but if we take the first step by faith, God will do the rest. I find writing it down on paper also is a big help.
2007-12-28 18:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Apostle Jeff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as the very first starts, pray right then and there. Ask God to remove the demons that are keeping your mind away from Him. Then think on something else. Change the mind to think on something good.
2007-12-28 18:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask God for more love! Ask him to bear the weight of your pain and suffering. The Lord will do this for you.
You may have to accept that you will not forget what your wife has done, but you do not need to punish her every chance you get as a payback. (I am not saying you are, but I know us women would...). Ask God to give you all the forgiveness needed to get through this.
2007-12-28 18:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Silver B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been hurt and you deserve the right to morn, the trust that has been lost. the time, you put into this marriage, this is all normal... all i can say from my experience with life's hard trials that have come my way, husbands infidelity, death of my son, being angry with God... it took me time, and alot of prayer.... good luck to you.. I hope you find the piece you are looking for right now... and it does get better... it really does.
2007-12-28 18:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dayna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God that you want him to take this burden from you, and that you leave it in hands. Once you do so, you have to keep reminding yourself that he is in complete control and he can do anything.
I am going through a similar religious dilemma, and I am continually reminding myself that God is in control.
I will pray for you.
2007-12-28 18:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by Julia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness has 5 levels. 1) not wanting to hurt the person. 2) not wanting the person to be hurt 3) being willing to spend time with them 4) being willing to trust them 5) taking their sin and GIVING them righteousness FOR it. one and two are required. 5 only YHVH can do. So you need to study 3,4. My ex-wife after her infidelity accused me of being unforgiving. I realized finally that I could forgive her for what she had done, but YHVH was unable to forgive her for what she was. Unless she repented and chose to be an honest woman, she limited our options. The goal must be to do things pleasing to YHVH. The secret of giving problems to YHVH is to recognize what is your responsibility, and what is NOT and so is His. (and not trying to do His work)
2007-12-28 18:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
praying and reading the Bible!
all things turn to the good to those who love the Lord
do you truly love the Lord?
its not easy but you have to pray to God to give you that strength!
remember God answeres differently sometimes
yes
no
later
see my point?
2007-12-28 18:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋