i don't know if i am or not. i feel kind of foolish asking this question when no one here actually knows me but whatev. when i think about her i can't help but smile, i think about her almost all the time... from when i wake up til when i go to bed. we've talked about everything, we've shared our secrets. she told me i am her best friend and she loves me. somehow i am still unsure. does this mean it's not love? i don't think realisticly she could actually love me as much as she says. maybe like, but not love. i am a bad person with a nightmare of a past and i don't think she really loves me. does she love me? do i love her? what should i do?
2007-12-28 17:30:21 · 34 answers · asked by Frog Smith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
awwwwww that's so cute! now im gonna cry cuz im all alone!
2007-12-28 17:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by i_can_be_your_hero 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww you sound like such a sweet guy! yeah you do LOVE her, i've been in the same situation with a guy i didn't know, but i used to be a customer at his work place and every time he served me, we would just smile ear to ear at each other and it felt like i was floating in the air or something lol. and then when i began my new job, i noticed someone staring at me in the corner of my eye, and what do you know, it was him, the same silly grin. out of all guys i have associated with and been with, i have never been so much in love with a guy, than him, and we just had small encounters at eachother's workplace, nothing else. i think she does love you, because from what you've stated, it's just self-doubt and nothing that has actually happened that would mean that she doesn't love you, haha i do this all the time too! if she loves you as much as you're stating she does, she will love you for your nightmare past and if she's mature, she would see that the reality is, that it was the past, it's gone and over, now you are a different person. i say give it a go, your chances look good, and you don't want to live on with life thinking "what if we could have been something good?"
2007-12-28 17:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is friend . If she is your friend, it is the very best place to start a love. I know that without a friendship, there can be no true love. If you think of her day and night, it is another good sign. If you have doubts,though, I would wait until I was sure. I don't think anyone should ever do anything until they are sure. But, it won't hurt to continue with the relationship and find yourself. I think in my opinion that you are in love with this person. It seems that what is holding you back is that you feel unworthy because of your past. You don't feel worthy becuase you have had a nightmare of a past. That is not to say that it will continue. You must leave the past in the past and continue on with life and give love a chance in order to find out if you are going to be able to have a relationship with this person, right? So, stop living in the past and live in the present, friend.
Sharon
2007-12-28 17:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by mountain_momma2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can decide that but you. It is normal to be unsure at first. Love usually takes some time to develop so depending on how long you have known her, you may still be in that romantic lust stage. Give it some time and see if it develops into a committed lasting love. And yes, she could love you even though you have a checkered past...love is blind.
2007-12-28 17:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in love but you have a hard time admitting it for some reason. Seems to me you are negative about yourself and don't believe anyone can love you. Just ask her for the reasons she loves you so much and maybe you will realize its the real thing. Good luck.
2007-12-28 17:36:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way
Love is when you take away the romance, passion, and the feeling and you find out still care for the person.
That is what love really not about the sex not about the power but about the thing above.
2007-12-28 17:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Alan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't rush into anything, maybe you guys should slow down and give yourself some time to see what you true feelings are. If she loves you like she says she does, she will give you the time that you need. She might be IN love with you, but it could also be that she just has love FOR you.
good luck.
2007-12-28 17:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it to me. you are not a bad person, most people have a past, especially as you get older :) if she says she loves you, accept it dude! love isn't realistic, sometimes
it's projection. just enjoy, communicate, tell each other
what you appreciate in each other and what you need to feel loved. some need words of affirmation, others touch, time together, small gifts, or acts of service(doing things to make her life easier).
2007-12-28 17:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i met my boyfriend, i felt the same way. everyone is different, there are no time frames with love. you just know. i knew within a month, and we have been together for 8 years now, planning on getting married when we can afford it. ponder this... dont love the person you can live with, love the person you cant live without. you will know
2007-12-28 17:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are the ingredients that you have when you love someone:
You trust them greatly
You have no problem giving or receiving affection
Theres always something interesting you learn about them, even if its the smallest detail you can think of.
2007-12-28 17:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first go to Taco Bell and enjoy a delicious Nacho Bell Grande. Next step is to ask her out (I dont know if you are going out with her as I didnt finish reading as I am drugged up) and do it with her. Or kiss her you can tell from that. You have to find this out for yourself.
2007-12-28 17:35:08 · answer #11 · answered by Gavo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋