How can I let it all out? Please Help.?

Question

I have been going through a very tough month due to family tragedies and on top of that, relationship problems. I haven't been able to cry very much, it's just not in me. But I feel very emotionally stressed and need to let the pain out, or atleast find a way to cope with it before I go back to work and my daily routine. Please, post your suggestions.

Answer 1

Good healthy run/jog or some form of excercise. Go off alone and try to think about stuffs. Perhaps then a cry will come. And cry is good for you. It's been found that when you cry (and you're sad) there are proteins found in your tears that are residues from the hormones that make you sad. Translation: crying really DOES make you feel better.

Answer 2

Best I've heard:

1. Buy a case of coffee mugs at a restaurant supply sale or from garage or thrift sales. (Don't pay more than 15cents or so per cup)

2. Throw them like crazy at the floor of your garage.

3. Feel the cathartic thrill of their smashing to bits.

ps. had a bf in high school who loved to take his baseball bat to old bathroom fixtures, so if your community also has a place for old toilets, go there with a bat.

pss. I had a job recently working with pigs. When they are hungry they make a lot of noisy noise. I found this the perfect time to yell my fool head off. The pigs didn't care, an no one else could hear me over their din and roar.

For a more practical solution, maybe try yoga or other meditation. While it may not seem like "letting it all out" as above, it just might make you feel more at peace, and I suspect that is what you are after. Lastly, have patience, the pain of family tragedies and relationship problems does not vanish overnight even if you have "let it out". Be prepared to deal with this well into 2008. It is actually easier when you have your work and daily routine, for they take up a good portion of your time and thoughts.

Best of luck
Love & Lollipops,
Catherine

Answer 3

I have PTSD. I'm not able to cry...much at all. I treasure the times when I see something on tv..esp if I'm alone...and I can cry. It doesn't matter if it's sad crying or happy crying...it's a relief that I
TREASURE. (BUT..it scares me to even say that because I don't want anything bad to happen to make me cry.) I think that's part of the problem..I think I'm afraid if I cry..something bad will happen. I used to cry a lot...happy..sad...I cried.(and I don't look pretty crying like some people do). Stress or trauma will do that to you. I think it's called "emotional numbing". It's awful, isn't it!! I DO think there are some anxiety pills that can help you cry. Try librium (if your dr. thinks it's ok) I remember one time I was in an accident and the dr. gve it to me and I cried all the time..even tho I wasn't sad. Come to think of it..maybe I'll ask my dr. about it. .for me.BUT..if it makes you depressed..stop taking it. That's why I've been afraid to take it. I've also noticed that sometimes a little shock helps..like someone saying "BOO" ..just something to jolt you. BUT DON'T GET SHOCK TREATMENTS!!! Hope I helped some. Just know there are others who go through this too. If you've been through tragedies...you're grieving. Me too. I feel like if I could just have a really really good cry...I could get over it. Hang in there...or maybe you should just LET GO...and quit "hanging in there". Don't try to "be strong" for others. Don't "stuff" your emotions. See if you can find someone to hold you. ..for a long time. That used to help me.

Answer 4

You know, when I went through a particularly stressful month I went to the gym a lot. They're not lying when they say that working out makes you feel better. It really does.

When I get super frustrated I feel like I need to do something, so lately, because its been getting worse, I go out deliberately and go to Target or Walmart and just walk around. I don't buy anything, I just get out. Sometimes I go to the mall. Just getting out helps.

Otherwise, sobbing works. Just cry. One good cry every now and they is great. Lately I've been dealing with the prospect of having cancer. All I want to do is cry. I haven't yet but I'm making a point of getting out and doing something because it takes my mind off of things.

And the reason its worse now is because you're not in your typical routine. Its funny, but that consistency really evens things out.

Answer 5

If you want a place where you can write out your problems and not have a smartass come back or put-down then you should try:

http://www.allaboutcounseling.com

These people have saved my life more times then I can count and there is ALWAYS someone there to lend you a sholder to cry on.

When I'm feeling depressed I never hesitate to turn to these wonderful people.

You need to sign up and go to the Discussion Board but it is free and annomous...

If there is a problem then someone there is going through it and will know what to say to help!

Answer 6

May I suggest you find a friend or family member that you trust and explain your situation. you cannot hold on to something that is out of your control. You must concentrate on yourself right now and not on others. Find somekind of stress relief outlet such as excercise, listening to music, go to a nightclub and get your freak on. Or even write a letter to the person you have lost and the person you are having problems with. explain on that letter your feelings. When you are finished with that letter crumble it up and throw it away. It works.

Answer 7

When all other reasonable suggestions have failed, I resort to physical violence on a controlled level. I take a bat made of foam or plastic and I beat the sh*t out of the nearest telephone pole or tree. I keep swinging until my muscles ache or I can't swing anymore from sheer exhaustion. It works wonders for that anger and frustration that are hard to get rid of or manage.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Talking definitely helps. Talk to someone you can trust. Also, if you have the time, go jogging or bicycling, or just go out for a walk.

If you're feeling angry or frustrated, go and use a punching bag. I find these are all ways to relieve stress.

Answer 9

I'm finding more and more that talking actually does help.

If you find yourself needing to "let it out" just talk to someone. The people here are safe because you don't have to commit to a relationship, pay any of us, and you don't know us.

Other than talking, though, I use music as an outlet.

Answer 10

Try journaling. All you have to do is get down your feelings, events of the day, what you would have like to have done to whomever and you just let it all out. You don't have to let anyone see it. Another thing that I do is unsent letters. If someone pisses me off, I sit down and write them a letter about what they did, how it made me feel and what I would like to do to them and I don't have to send it to them and its all out of my system. Good Luck.