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will children and youth place me in foster care even though I have a place that I can live for the next year and a half (they are not a relative)...does anyone know what will happen

2007-12-28 17:12:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Family

already thought about emancipation and even talked to my caseworker when we had another issue and I cannot emancipate myself where I live because I am sixteen...

2007-12-28 17:18:05 · update #1

19 answers

oh, dear.....if your dad is abusive, you must inform the authorities, or a teacher or guidance counselor, i'm not sure if you'll be able to go to a non-relative or not, but you need to get out of that abusive environment quickly..

2007-12-28 17:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Winter Glory 7 · 1 0

Nobody can know for certain. I'm really sorry your dad messed up and put you in that position, it's really rough, I know.

I had a friend go through that when i was in high school, it was so hard for her and I felt so bad for her, but she's better now.

Her parents divorced, and she's now living with her mom. She was placed in foster care for a while, a shelter for abused kids, and then back with her mom after the divorce was finalized and the custody issue was settled.

After this happened to her, I started trying my best to volunteer at these shelters to help the kids. I raised money for gifts for them and got to know alot of them, so I know many of their stories.

What will most likely happen, is yes, unfortunately you will go to a foster care center for a little while. They are not legally allowed to give you to anybody else, since your parents still have custody of you.

I'm really sorry that you have to go through this, and i'm sorry to say that the next few months are just going to get worse, but it's the truth. After a few months though, when everything is settled, things will start to look up for you.

Hopefully, your father will be put in anger management courses, he'll have to take therapy to learn why he's abusive, and then he can get better and you can go back to live with him

But not everyone can recover from being abusive, so theres a chance you may not go back. In which case, you'll be placed in foster care and found a new family. Possibly someone you know or are related to. You'll have DHS come check in on you often if you do find a new family. You may be in foster care for a while.

I know a girl who's in the sixth grade who's in foster care. Nobody knows it though. Theres a bus that takes her to her school, and picks her up afterwards. She didn't tell anybody, and theirs no way of anybody finding out.

I really hope you make the right choice, and get help. No child should have to deal with abusive parents. It may seem hard, or impossible to do, but you really have to do it.

My friend didn't want to either, but I was by her side and I went and told the school counselor with her, and supported her throughout. She went through a rough time for about 3 months, but things got better. You need to do the same, I know it will be hard, but you can't keep living like that.

I hope things start to look up for you, and i'm really sorry your in that position. Good luck.

2007-12-29 01:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 2 · 0 0

Many times social services will take into account an existing family that wants you. They will have to apply to take you into the home and be evaluated by the same standards any foster care provider would. Another more simple solution may be for those parents to approach your father and ask for guardianship. If he is willing to grant it without involving social services it would make things much easier for the host family. Regardless though, you need to get yourself out of the situation. No one deserves to be abused.

2007-12-29 01:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Witchblade_1 2 · 0 0

You say you have a place to live, if they would let you stay with them then ask them to go to classes to be a foster parent. If they have taken the class and everything is up to par then the state would probably place you with them and they could actually get money for helping you out.

2007-12-29 01:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0 0

You will probably go into a group home, or foster home while they approve the family that wants to take you in. But they have to go threw a lot to become a foster family, it may take a little time. But in the end if it gets you out of your fathers home, then it is the best.

2007-12-29 01:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by cris 5 · 0 0

I do not know what will happen, it will depend on your age and what state laws dictate. I DO know that you need to get outy of an abusive situation. Are you old enough to ask your "friend" if you can stay there and circumvent court intervention? Maybe you could just leave until you are old enough to be on your own. Are there any other relatives that you would be able to stay with. But whatever - YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION.

Good luck

2007-12-29 01:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by RANDALL M 3 · 0 0

Depend upon your social worker for help and advice. Do you have any relatives you could talk to? What about an adult you might know who you trust and respect?

If you have someone lined up to live with, you can discuss the future with them, as well, hon.

I wish you all the best. I had an abusive father, and i know the difficulties it can bring. It was NOT your fault... please realize this... and please do not believe in the past -- what happened to you at your father's hands was wrong.

you are a good and wonderful person ! hugs

2007-12-29 01:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0 0

ow old before u can legally be on your own there. Honestly they can place u in protective custody until u reach that age. I am really sorry to hear this and i wish i was related to u or knew u i would take you in. Maybe you can jut up and leave. I know that's a horrible plan but abuse is ten times worse. Bit i wouldnt leave until about 6-9 months before you can legally leave.

2007-12-29 01:22:05 · answer #8 · answered by Model07 3 · 0 0

It depends on who your "legal gaurdian" is or if you have one. If you do not then it depends on who these people you have lined up are. If they are in a position to take foster parent classes and get a liscence they could become your foster parents or they could possibly adopt you.

I suggest you call a lawyer and get their advise they will be able to tell you for sure and even help you turn your dad in.

Goodluck

2007-12-29 01:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by hott_spiced_wine 2 · 0 0

first of all, this happened to me. my sister was nearly killed by my dad so we called the cops on him. this is what happened to us kids. they took us away and placed us at this place which was basically like an orphanage for kids who get abused. then, you get put into foster care when they assign you to someone. you stay with the foster parent until they supposedly work things out with your dad. for me, i was at the orphanage for abused kids for a month, and then i was put under the foster care of some fat lady i didnt like. we kids were supposed to be released at 6 months but i found out they tried to adopt me so it was extended to 9 months =_=. well overall i was placed under foster care and when i got back to my real home my dad was hella pissed and "dun dun dun"

2007-12-29 01:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by 3 · 0 0

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