I been dating this girl for 5 months now, my feelings for her are strong I love her. But there is something,that's been bothering me lately. I'm the romantic type. I like spending my time with her alone. Sometimes, it doesnt bother me much if im with her friends as well... but,we're totally different.I'm the type that always wants to talk to her, we live an hour apart.so i dont see her as much as i would hope for.I'm affectionate. She's not.Understandable.I've always wanted to be the person she is,doesnt show emotions, cares, but doesnt make it obvious to her the world, just her.But i cant be, ihave a few issues,she's asked me to change my ways if i want to keep her around.meaning being less emotional, calling less, giving her space.I agree,but is it wrong to ask me to change the way i am?should i continue with this relationship or calling it quits? Ive always wanted to be the person she wants me to be though, I just been having a hard time becoming it =\ help!?!?
2007-12-28 16:57:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
homophobes, dont answer.
i'm a lesbian,and i love woman.
dont like, dont bother.thanks.
me and her can have alot of fun,
i just get mad so easily, and i always want it my way, am i the bad person?maybe selfish?
sometimes, i hate when shes with her friends and not me. but i mean i dont see her alot maybe one a week, or every other week.
2007-12-28 17:11:25 · update #1
I dont think people seem to understand the fact that i;m a woman.
2007-12-28 17:12:41 · update #2
Id call it quits. If ur trying hard to change then so should she.
2007-12-28 17:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can happen but not the way you are talking about. The healthiness of a relationship is determined by how objective each person views the other and the relationship. This may not be what you want to hear but I would amicably part ways. It sounds to me like you are going accommodate each other less and less until one of you gets really upset. What I find ironic is that it seems like women are always asking men to change! It is one thing to ask a person to change apartments, get a haircut, play less softball or pick another restaurant. What she is asking you to do is unfair. Get out.
-H
2007-12-28 17:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hector D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women become involved with men with the hope that they will change, it seems to be a lofty goal they have.
If she really cared about you would she give you ultimatums about what she wants you to change? Maybe you are just be mismatched.
Examine your behavior, and if you are being too needy and emotional maybe you do need to become a little more independent, (that is a quality that most women find attractive)... If you decide to make changes do so not just because she asks you to but because it could be a positive change in your own life.
2007-12-28 17:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl on girl = no good
2007-12-28 17:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by brandi e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋